Flirting through aggression??????????????
My best friend is always hitting me playfully. She is a girl, I'm a guy, we are 15, and people keep saying she is flirting. Today, for example, she just hit me in the head with a school book (lol) for no reason. We have known each other for 2 years. First off, do you think this actually is her way of flirting? She doesn't do it to other people. And also, what should I do back? Should I also playfully mess around with her?
Is this actually a way of flirting?
Also, when she isn't messing like this, she is more serious to me than others, she tells me if she is feeling bad.
Another thing related to mthis is that when we are around friends, she does this and we playfully mock each other, but when we are alone she is more sincere with me.
All of theis is playfull, she is fairly petite, and I am well.,., not, lol, I'm a black belt and stuff.
2006-10-11 06:23:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it's flirting. It's immature and I remember doing it myself when I was younger than her, but it's flirting.
You didn't mention whether it bothered you or not. If it does, tell her to stop. It if doesn't, this means that she does not respect you much as a friend should and she has the potential of being an abuser.
If you don't mind it, that's fine, just don't be shy about speaking up if she crosses a line.
2006-10-11 06:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey partner,
Theres a little flirtation there but thats completely normal given the closeness the two of you share. You apparently like her as a friend and would if the opportunity arose test the waters with her in experimenting with closeness. Hormones at this point in your life are about to if they havent already done so should be kicking in. Justremain as you always have and watch as she matures over the weeks. At that age you will be truly amazed at how fast she will mature in some aspects. If you begin to think of her as more than a friend I would move very slowly into that by conversation with her during alone time. Just discuss the possibilities. She may very well be the sweetheart that is designed to go through life with you. Take care my young friend and keep me posted.
Jim
2006-10-11 13:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's a little loopy. If her idea of flirting is hitting you in the head with a book, I don't want to see her idea of making out. LOL She may be attracted to you, but I think you need to leave this one alone. If she hits you now, she will hit you later, and no one deserves to be abused. This is a lack of respect. You wouldn't smack some one you liked would you? Get away from this nut job and find someone a little less "intense". Good luck, and don't let anyone take advantage of you like this.
2006-10-11 13:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is definitely flirting with you. if you have a little affectionate spot for her you should return the flirting. i wouldn't recommend hitting her with a book mind you haha but a little tiny shove or a ticklish poke in the tummy is a way to flirt back. also, if you want to know if she likes you why not ask?? i know it sounds easier said than done, but say casually "hey, are you flirting with me?" if you keep the question light hearted she won't feel threatened and if she is just flirting with you the way she might flirt with others asking her in a light hearted way won't reveal too much about how you feel for her. hope this helps. good luck! and hey, if you like her, show her!! she may be trying to show you and hinting for you to make a move!
2006-10-11 13:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by cheekybrit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably does have a thing for you that she wants it noticed by others. She is probably confused as well. By yourselves she is quiet and observant. But in public, she probably wants people to know that there may be a "thing" between you guys so they better back off because she is insecure about the whole thing. If you like her, flirt back or just simply talk to her during your quiet time. Go easy on her... you dont want to ruin your friendship!
2006-10-11 13:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by etrevino6629 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's flirting wid you. You said she's your best friend then why would she be the same with everyone else?If you don't like all this then just tell her politely that you don't like her hitting you. That's it. A simple solution to a difficult question.
2006-10-11 13:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who needs enemies when your gf can kick your a s s?
I'd steer clear of that weirdo. I've heard horror stories of guys being domestically abused by women and while I doubt this chick would go so far, just the idea of her smacking a guy around to get his attention speaks volumes of her respect towards you, which isn't saying a lot. :|
2006-10-11 13:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by keylime1602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she really does like you, but doesn't want anyone else to know. I've been there (even though it has been a while). If you really like her let her know how you feel when she does those things. If she calms down "in public" then she might want to get closer to you, and seriously go out.
2006-10-11 13:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by C.J. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, she is flirting and showing off with it around your friends.
no, you should not do it back, it could get out of hand. and obviously you are uncomfortable with it, so why do it back?
I would tell her how you feel about it and if you want her to stop, tell her so.
have an honest discussion about it.
2006-10-11 13:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you haven't gotten enough answers on this one? i've seen this SAME question from you for days now. if you don't want her hitting you anymore punch her square in the face and then you can move on to the law section of yahoo answers and repetitively ask them for advice there.
2006-10-11 13:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋