Hi
I am very much in love with my girl friend and we want to get married. Since we started dating she put on at least 15 pounds, she was not thin to begin with. I know this sounds shallow and expect some trash talkin but I am not breaking up with her and I am not interested in anyone else nor am i cheating. We have plenty of time to grow old and fat together if thats what we choose, for now I believe in looking the best we can with what GOD gave us and to be healthier. I just wish she would drop some weight, so the question is how can I suggest this without hurting her feelings
2006-10-11 06:16:48 · 17 answers · asked by pauliesoxin04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right! God gave us who we are and unfortunately things in life change. Change is unevitable. Relationships, education, jobs, bank accounts, religion, etc changes. But one thing that never changes is God. I encourage you to evaluate what is really troubling you about your girlfriend gaining the weight. There could be many reasons why she has gained weight or none at all. Ultimately, encourage her to go with you for a walk, or go bike riding or take dance lessons together. Do something active and maybe she will thank you for it and in the process you would not have hurt her feelings. As Joyce Meyers has stated "Remember allow your values and viewpoints to center around your relationship with God and what He says in His Word." Good Luck!
2006-10-11 06:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by strongfit13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to bash you for not liking the weight gain. I am just warning you though that if she has gained that much and you aren't even married you are going to be in real trouble after she gets married.
I would start talking about that YOU want to eat healthier and start talking about working out and have her join you. Be sneaky about it, thats the only way she won't get all pissy. I have been married 12 years and look at my married friends and they are all over weight and look like crap. I am in better shape now then I was when I got married.So many times woman just get content and let themselves go....
2006-10-11 06:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by trixinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you know I love you and I'm going to spend the rest of my life with you but I've noticed you've put on a little weight recently and I'm not in the best shape I could be in. I want us to live a long happy life together so maybe it would be a good idea for a little while to cook our meals at home and to take a walk after dinner every night.
2006-10-11 06:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be eating because of stress.. so ask her if anything is bothering her....
Suggest going for walks together, hiking and picnicing and riding bikes .
Stop going out for dinners or fast foods...
Suggest she take a day and go to a spa for some pampering.
I think there might be an underlying problem.. ask her to be honest, but don't ake offence if it is directed at you....
2006-10-11 06:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you planning on having kids with this woman? 15 pounds is NOTHING compared to that!
If you really want to encourage her without hurting her feelings, do it yourself. Tell her you want to start eating healthier and working out together. Ask her to help you, to be your workout partner.
2006-10-11 06:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to go about it, if you want to tell her, is straight out...it will most probably hurt her no matter how you present it..Just be truthful with how you feel, and be sensitive to her feelings.
The main point is, that SHE should be happy with herself, and also be at a healthy weight, at her given height, frame, and age.
2006-10-11 06:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest working out together.
2006-10-11 06:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her YOU want to diet and exercise and drop some weight but you need her help and a partner in doing it, and the both of you diet and exercise together.
2006-10-11 06:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by C.B. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, at first you could say something like, you would like to get in shape and ask her if she'll start working out with you to keep you motavated. Start off with simple stuff like going for walks together. best of luck... april, akers_042@yahoo.com
2006-10-11 06:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you say that you were thinking about joining a gym and was wondering if she would like to too. That way you can work out together.
2006-10-11 06:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋