My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 months. He told me he loved me after 1 month but now says he rushed into it and wants to take it slow. He tells me he cares for me and hasn't moved back to his home state because of me. He even went as far to tell me he thinks we are soul mates. I am so confused. Is this guy just stringing me along to get what he can out of me or does he really care? We have been having problems lately and most of it is because he wants to run away from his family problems and ends up running away from me as well. We used to spend alot of time duringthe week together and every weekend now we barely see each other. I love him but it seems that I'm not enough sometimes what do I do?
2006-10-11 06:14:06 · 14 answers · asked by lambdaelement6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have tried to give him his space and not bug him about where he is going and who he is with and I try to give him time to him self. I try not to nag as well. I know he needs to time and with all his family problems our relationship is one of the last things on his mind to worry about. It's just hard to have some one tell you they love you then say "oh I think I rushed it" and take it back after saying to me almost everyday for almost 2 months. I try not to pressure him about it but its hard. What can I do?
2006-10-11 06:32:35 · update #1
Sweetie you should really have a talk with him and let him know how you're feeling. It really does seem like he cares for you and wants to continue this relationship and make it work. Maybe he just needs some time to sort things out in his mind. But sometimes people say things and regret it, it doesnt seem like he regrets it, it seems more like he just wants to take things slow and enjoy getting to know you better. He wants to make sure that this is what you guys want for one another. Ask him what's on his mind and reassure him that you are here for him if he needs you. It seems to me like he might just be having some family issues he needs to sort out and doesnt want to trouble you with the problems....communication communication communication is the answer. Hopefully this is helpful.
2006-10-11 06:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man and some people can be heartless but i am not, if your BF cannot be man enough to say he loves you then why bother, in fact would you prefer a man to say "im in love with you" or "i love you" because thinking about it you say to your parents or someone close in your family you love them but when you hear im in love with you that seems to mean more in my eyes....
To make a lady fell wanted saying a few words is not hard at all it shows they care and obviously he does not...
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2006-10-11 06:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by mark c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the man. He said he rushed into it and he wants to take it slow. Its just three months and if he is having family problems, then maybe thats what distracting him. You should follow his advice and take it slow. You have not gone too far up the heart break ladder for the fall to hurt too much. Slow down and just be a friend.
2006-10-11 06:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by Obsidian butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both seem to be enjoying the relationship and getting along well why does he have to say he loves you? If you keep pushing for words you're very liable to loose him. Just be secure with the relationship and forget the Love thing. When and if he's ready he'll let you know.
2006-10-11 06:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girlie, but it sounds like things are falling apart.
I'd just have it out and have a talk with him. Pry some details loose on what's going on in his head. If he keeps running, count your losses and move on. You don't want to deal with a guy that can't handle life and instead chooses to run from it. That's no way to live, so don't drag yourself down.
Good luck!
2006-10-11 06:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by keylime1602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hiding something and lying to you, my ex was just like that, after he robbed me and f**ked off I contacted the police and found out he was wanted by them for doing the same thing to someone else.
2006-10-11 06:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by pixiechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget that last response. it's stupid.
the one word you need to remember is space.
give him space to breathe and figure out what he needs.
wait. when he is ready, he will let you know what he needs from you.
2006-10-11 06:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously doesn't love u
just enjoy the situation as it is or get out of it
2006-10-11 06:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he dont love u yet. or anymore. maybe he has found someone else n u just dont know it yet.
2006-10-11 06:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be scared give he time don't rush him
2006-10-11 06:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by mosteward202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋