we always fight over every little thing what should I do?
2006-10-11 05:43:30 · 21 answers · asked by montana_infantry_man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you really like her? Think about that first. Then think about what is it about her that you don't like. What is it about you that she doesn't like? Can you "bend" these bad habits or characteristics? Can you both change? Is it some other issues or problems causing you two not click? Sometimes a person wants to be with you or around you so much (but can't) and it makes them anxious and angry. Sometimes it's a "quality time" issue. Or, you may not be able to go out as often as she would like.
The best thing you can do until you can improve the situation is to talk about what you want and need from each other and then try to improve the relationship from there. Talk about what you can and can't do at this time and what you would like to do in the future (if you're still together).
In all honesty, you may not be compatible. You may just be holding on because she's pretty, or fun sometimes, or because she SEEMS TO BE all that you want, or whatever. Think about that too. Is she really who you want to be with or are you simply infatuated with her? Or, vice versa?
Also, you could try being less emotional about the disagreements. Be cool and calm. You know she likes to argue or scream and shout. Let her do it and just listen. Listen carefully and really try to think about what she's try to say. Don't try to explain or argue you point. Just be cool about it, ask questions, and listen. She may be having problems or depressed. You may find that you can help change all of the chaos and make her feel better... Or, you find out that you need a new girl... a nice one. Whatever you do, remember: Arguing won't improve the relationship.
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2006-10-11 06:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to look into couples counseling. There may be some things in each of you that trigger off some unconscious and unsolved issues that really do not have anything to do with the other person. Identifying those can help each of you to resolve those and get them out from between you.
You also, can learn more effective ways to communicate when you disagree on things.
You will have an impartial third party that has the best interest of both of you that will be able to see things, both of you may be missing.
2006-10-11 12:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Calina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and find a way to deal with your issues instead of arguing about them. And pick your battles, there will always be things that bother you but are they really worth fighting over and then you have to decide if you always argue is it worth fighting all the time, if you cant fix it now it will continue for the rest of your life. Good luck to ya
2006-10-11 13:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by krisbohanon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would u like to fight over little things over again and again for years? Who usually start the fight and if the love is the language i don't think u'll fight. U'll be spend time showering ur love for each other.
2006-10-11 12:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that you both need to give each other some space. time apart doing other things.
go back to casual, fun, dating wtih each other, with no expectations, other than just to have fun together. Look for the things in each other that drew you together, concentrate on enjoying the relationship.
after a few weeks of that, try sitting down and putting your cards on the table with each other, about what each of you wants and expects from the relationship. and what you don't want from it.
both of you need to be willing to listen with an open mind, to whatever new ideas come up. and above all else, be honest with each other.
fighting might be a part of relationships, but so is open communication, respect, and knowing when you need some space to breathe.
2006-10-11 12:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend were the same way..i could not stand it i would wanna break up so bad with him and i did a couple of times we would fight about a hot dog(eating the last hot dog) and who lights the cig...and **** like that but now we're still together the only reason u's fight is cuz u want eachother to be close to perfect..i would try not to get as mad at stupid lil things and spend a couple of dayz away from one another...and let things cool down
2006-10-11 12:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by M<3 J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
little things matter believe it or not. They add up you say things you dont mean and then after a while you start to think about all the things that you and her have said and it eats at your relationship it is nice that you like her but you are going to have to let things go and kinda walk on egg shells around her for a while and see if it just quits by its self
2006-10-11 12:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you really do like each other. Other than that, pay attention to what causes the fights and try to compromise. Think before you speak.
2006-10-11 12:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something bigger going on and so you fight about silly stuff.
You both need to be 100% honest with each other....talk about whatever it is....resolve it....and you'll stop fighting about every little thing.
2006-10-11 12:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are constantly fighting it doesn't sound like you and your girlfriend are compatible. I would try working out your differences and if you don't see any improvement then you should move on. Good Luck!
2006-10-11 12:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋