She thinks of me as her brother, but I don't. I can't tell her how much I like her because of that and also because she's got a boyfriend.
I started drinking two months ago because I felt lonely 'cause I had no chance with her and I've been on depression pills for the past 3 weeks now. Should I just talk to her about it or not?what should i do?
2006-10-11 05:43:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The focus of your life is all wrong. You have placed great importance on this one woman and can't get around it.
When a woman sees you as a brother she is telling you she likes you but could never be attracted to you.
And guess what. YOU are the reason. You got her to the like part but then didn't make it go from there. One of the most important things women need in a man to become attracted to him is confidence. If you have confidence, your funny, and you give off the impression that she is the lucky one to be with you, most of the time she will not be able to resist. But if your the oppisite you have a problem.
None of us have a choice in who we are attracted to. We either are or we are not. She is not to you but likes you so, the brother thing.
You sound like you are self destructing over this girl. Stop it.
Who ever told you that because you like someone they had to like you. You have set yourself up for this and you have only you to blame.
Get beyond this. Begin to look for other girls that you won't have this happen with. There are thousands out there waiting to talk to you but you have to let them.
Get on-line and start finding someone else. This will help get your mind off what you can't have.
Remember this: This whole thing is in your head only. Why are you obsessing over just one girl. You should be out there dating a lot of girls and you will find the perfect one. When you do you will look back at this and wonder what you were thinking.
Or you can loose everything by going into the bottle and pills.
Only you loose if you do that and it would be such a shame.
It is called outsmarting yourself.
Go get on this guys e-mail list. Once a week you will get a lot of great advice on what men need to do to become attractive to women. For your own sake get on it and read every e-mail.
It's free and you will not be sorry.
2006-10-11 06:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away from the drink it only increases the depression and give yourself time, have a little cry. It hurts like hell and will make you sick to the stomach but slowly the grief will pass and although you may feel it will never happen you will be able to move on. I speak from experience I am going through the **** myself I've been crying 4 months. Be kind to yourself x
2006-10-11 06:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by pixiechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking. There's not company at the bottom of that bottle. Plus, you're not supposed to drink when on anti-depressants. Alcohol is a depressant. It doesn't make sense.
I wouldn't say anything to her because the friendship that you two do have would be ruined. Just move on. You'll find someone.
2006-10-11 05:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I realize that you do love her but the problem your running into is that you know she doesnt like you like that and yes it really does hurt and another problem is that she does have a boyfriend here is what I think you should do is go out meet another girl keep this girl as your friend but find another girl there are a lot of them out there and I promise you that you will find that right girl who will love you for who you are and will want to spend the rest of her life with you .. Ive been in the situation that you have many times before its hard to get over that one girl that you do really like but you have to just move on because she will always just see you as a brother and nothing more.
2006-10-11 05:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by dabiggamedawg87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from her view. You are nowhere near worth dumping her current boyfriend, especially if you are on pills and alcohol to make yourself feel better. What girl wants that?
You've got to make her want you first - find out what she likes in her bf, then outdo him.
2006-10-11 05:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, Stop drinking n u don’t need depression pills, talk to any 1 and let ur feelings out... yeah i think u should tell her abt the way u feel n also mention that u respect her decision n that u don’t wannna lose her as ur friend... u don’t alwz get wat u want in life...u'll finde some1 else with time...
2006-10-11 05:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by ArabianNite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will she know if you don't talk to her ! How do you even know that she is happy with her boyfriend ?? Drinking isn't going to help you need to manup and talk to her at least get it off your chest !
2006-10-11 05:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by karebear0603 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to how you sound your blaming one person who has no idea how you feel. I believe you like her but maybe you should look at it this way would you rather have her as a friend or not have her at all. I would chose to have the person as my friend.
2006-10-11 05:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by mtd29485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in recovery now, 14 years, see a counselor...talk all of this out, good luck
2006-10-11 05:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant get attached over some girl that doesn't even like you... just slack off a little bit and maybe if you give her some space something will eventually happen.
2006-10-11 05:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by hotchickhazeleyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋