They wont tell you whats on their mind yet they make it obvious that they do not care about you much. Not all women but a good deal of them.
2006-10-11 05:35:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My dad is a single dad my mom left us. he's not perfect but he loves us & jus want what is best for us. some women are judgemental because of their experiences with men jus but in their minds that men cannot be good & they r always in the wrong they may even think that u did ur child's mom something y she had to leave, i kno cause thats what some women think of my dad. jus be urself love ur child i kn u'll do great
2006-10-11 06:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by SUGIE 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through this. Being a single parent, I can relate. I am a woman but I have the utmost respect for any parent who is raising children on their own. I don't know why some people have such hard feelings towards single parents, maybe because of certain assumptions that seem to go along with single parents, moms as well as dads (couldn't make the marriage work so you took the easy way out, couldn't keep it in your pants, couldn't have a kids with a man/woman so you adopted ). When they make these assumptions, they become uncomfortable with these "ideas" and they act out. I would like to tell those people "When you assume, you make an '***' out of you and me. So knock it off! Mind your own business." I also agree women seem to do this more than men. I get comments from women too. "Oh you poor thing, it must be so hard." The one I hate the most is "You really have your hands full!" Grrrrr, I only have three kids not 20!
Anyway, keep your chin up. You and your kids know you are doing a great job and that's all that matters.
BTW, I am a single mom because my husband died.
2006-10-11 06:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by feather girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single dad, and ive raised my two kids on my own for 15 years up to now, i never made a big deal out of the fact that i was a single dad and did not expect praise for what i was doing, as i was only doing what was natural and that was taking care of my children, and i never got anything but compliments.
But i know other single dads who groan and gripe and think the world owes them something for what they are doing, and they are not very well liked !.
My advice to any single parent is to just enjoy your time with your children, help them learn, keep them safe and make it fun too, because if your doing a good job you wont need to tell anyone about it, It'll Show !.
2006-10-11 06:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Richard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very good point. Im a female, use to be a single mom. I met a man who use to be a single dad. Its definitly a fact that men are looked at different when it comes to raising their children. And i dont care what aspect it comes from. Even child support looks down on them. I collect child support every month on my son and if he was to stop paying they would put him in jail. Well my sons ex hasnt paid 1$ of child support in the past 2 years and NOTHING happens to her, She doesnt even get her taxes with held. Not to mention shes only ordered to pay 210$ for 2 kids a month. Thats nothing now days, shes not being held to ANY standards. Its an aweful thing to judge men who are single fathers. But the single fathers i know do a wonferful job. There are messed up chicks out there that shouldnt have their kids when the men sit there and raise their children and do the exact same as a single mother. We should be giving you men alot more credit and i respect you 100% for the job you are doing. Just dont let it get to you. You dont have to explain yourself. You know what you are doing :)
2006-10-11 07:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a single dad raising 3 kids, they are 5, 6, and 9. The oldest is my "step-daughter" legally, but BS she is my daughter in every way. Here is my take on it.
SOCIETY JUDGES SINGLE PARENTS.
Not dads or moms, all of them. The same lady that would judge you would probably also judge a single mom. I have actually found I get a great deal of respect from people being a single dad, and they don't know half of our story.
2006-10-11 07:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by David W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I, for one, am not judgemental of single Dads. I respect them. My best friend and roommate is a single Dad. I have dated several single fathers. I would think more people are judgemental of single Moms. It is probably because there is still a stigma attached to being a single parent. It's pathetic but it's true.
2006-10-11 06:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by ~mj~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have hit the steriotypical dead beat dad category. Unfortunetly the only way to overcome that is A. do not be a dead beat dad. B. don't worry so much what others think as long as you do the absolute best you can with what you have. C. Find yourself a woman who does not put you in an undeserving category. Find someone who DOES care about you. There is somebody for everybody, trust me. You will see.
2006-10-11 06:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not judgmental to single dads. As a matter of fact my boyfriend is a single dad and he is doing a fantastic job with his daughter. I always tell him if there is something on my mind but ultimately it is his decision because it is his child.
2006-10-11 05:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing but respect for active good fathers -single or not. My ex is neither so I can see both sides of the issue. My boyfriend is an awesome dad! Those who judge aren't worth your time or your childrens.
2006-10-11 06:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by babe 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My brother-in-law is a single dad, and I think hes doing great. I have lots of respect for single parents of any sex, as I was one myself for a long time, and I know how hard it is to bring up children on your own.
2006-10-11 05:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mas 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋