is 3 months too short of a timespan to be in total (aching for him) love?
i've never been good in relationships. i tend to run in the opposite direction, but i really like this guy. i crave him. how do you tell someone that? i'm an emotionally inept person and my fears are all over the place. is it too soon to say i love you?
2006-10-11 05:32:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never say if it is not time to allow the moment to establish itself
2006-10-11 05:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the first question, love (the true meaning of the word) is always appropriate.
There's not a magic number of days, weeks or months that it suddenly goes from "too soon" to "just right" to say you love someone. My romance with my husband began by him saying he loved me, and we dated as a result of that. On our first date, he asked me to marry him. Would have been too soon for most of the world. It's worked alright for us. :-)
About the issues you have, I PROMISE you, almost everyone on this planet has issues. Not a single person anywhere has got the whole "love thing" figured out. Walk through the self-help section of even a moderate-sized bookstore. Everyone has some kind of issues.
The good thing in your case is that you know you have issues, and you know what they are. That makes it easier for you to put safeguards in place to help you overcome those issues. In a moment of clear thought, you can talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you have this problem, and talk clearly with him about if he thinks he can handle you and cares enough about you to deal with those issues. I've found that that's a lot more successful than trying to keep your issues hidden, and then having him wonder what the heck is going through your head when you're having problems.
This will sound trite, so try to take it in the way I'm meaning it, but if he can't accept that, he's not the right guy for you. I say that and actually mean that, because if you are open about your issues and are willing to take the huge leap to try to work through them, and he can't handle that, that's a lot of work on your part for a relationship that likely won't be successful. If that's the case, allow a certain amount of time to mourn, but don't give up. Lot's of fellas out there.
Just because of the language you used, I want to add one thing. I think there's nothing wrong with saying you love someone, but if your "craving" for him has crossed the line from enjoying his company to stalking him, you know, watch yourself. :-)
I think you'll be fine, though. :-)
2006-10-11 13:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's definitely not too short of a timespan to fall in love with someone. You've just gotta tell him, guard your heart, and hope for the best. Just pour it all out and let him know how much you're in love with him. You never know, he just might feel the same way! ;]
2006-10-11 12:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He very well could be feeling the same thing and, if he is, worry that telling you might scare you away. Don't be afraid of feeling in love. Embrace it. At some point you will have to risk getting hurt if you ever want to really be in love with someone but there is nothing wrong with being cautious as long as you are both honest with yourselves.
2006-10-11 12:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As u have nv been good in relationships, u tend to crave or dream of a good 1. Thus when u feel u're comfortable with him tell him express ur feelings to him. Don't hid as he'll not know wat is going on in ur head.
2006-10-11 12:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with me it was love at first site......thanks 2 god i m still in the same relationship for the last 12 years n vvvvvvv happy........ask ur self if u really want 2 b with this same person for life n then do as u feel like...........all the best
2006-10-11 12:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by leo_with_elegance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way... 3 months is perfect.
2006-10-11 12:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open with him and express your feelings to him and take it from there
2006-10-11 12:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are emotionally mature
2006-10-11 12:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Queeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's love got to do with it, do with it?
2006-10-11 12:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by blueyedimpledguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋