I'm have a seriously low self-esteem, but what i don't understand is that deep down i know there is no real reason for this. I mainly panic when I have to talk to people (anyone i don't know really well) I feel like they're just thinking what an idiot i am, and despite being told frequently that i'm good at talking to people and that I come accross well, i don't beleive it and just feel like everyone is laughing at me and just get so flustered and paniced. In public i feel like everyone is staring at me because i'm ugly, which again deep down I know is totally untrue (I only know this is untrue because i was scouted by 2 model agencies...but somewhere inside i also feel like they were just taking the piss). How can i have such a low self image of myself when my rational side tells me there is no reason at all for this? It's stopping me from doing things i need to do (like getting a job) and I rarely go out in public because i feel so paranoid.
2006-10-11 05:20:14 · 5 answers · asked by smugsy 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thanks you all so much for the replies. Could anyone advise me on finding someone good to talk to? Last time I went to a counciller, I just felt so uncomfortable/ashamed telling someone my feelings she said i shouldn't go back until I was ready to open up...which i really did want to do, but just couldn't. How can I find someone right for me?
2006-10-11 05:35:30 · update #1
First off, you know what I'm going to tell you... Go see your doctor.... We all have periods when our self esteem takes a hit, but when our low self esteem takes over our lives, we need to take it back. Seeing your doctor is one way of working towards that goal. The main thing is to be brutally honest when speaking with your doctor. Tell them everything, don't hide one little thing. Don't listen to anyone here telling you that you have this disorder or that, as phsycological disorders are extremely difficult to diagnose. We all have TENDECIES to disorders, that doesn't mean that we have them. If you truely want help, go see your doctor, it could seriously be life changing for you.
2006-10-11 05:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Steven T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the exact same way, you know deep down that you are not ugly, in fact people tell you all the time how amazing you look ect. but you still feel like a troll doll. And for talking to people in public, forget it, I had a presentation to do in one of my Pych. classes and skipped it because I know I would have freaked out. Every since I was a child I have been very shy, but going out with friends has helped, and also trying new things, even if it is scarey. Begin with something simple like joining a gym, this has really helped me, just talking to new people who enjoy the same things as you. I even met my current boyfriend at the gym, and he is a bodybuilder and gorgeous...sometimes I feel like I don't deserve him because of the self-esteem thing, but I just try to remember that I am good enough, and I know he feels blessed to have me also. You just have to continuosly remind yourself that you are an amazing person, and if you try to carry yourself more positivly people will notice and it will be easier to confront people! Good luck! You are a beautiful person inside and out~just remember that!
2006-10-11 12:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get some therapy. You know there is no real basis for your feelings, but that doesn't make them any less real to you. I would recommend a psychologist to discuss it and a psychiatrist in case you need meds. A lot of offices now have both who work together. I'm speaking from experience. I went through a bad experience (domestic violence) and was in therapy for over a year. I'm still taking Wellbutrin. I feel like myself again.
2006-10-11 12:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God loves you and you are precious to Him.
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicide attempt.)
2006-10-11 12:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am very similar, minus the beauty. I am working on my paranoia and self esteem with my therapist, and I gotta say...it's slowly but surely working.
2006-10-11 12:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by apeystar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋