Is it normal for a10 year old to cus and how can I get her stop?

Question

I LIVE IN A AREA WHERE MOST OF THE KIDS CUS AT VERY YOUNG AGES. I DONT WANT MY CHILDREN TO DO IT. THEY EVEN STARTED CUSSING ME. SMACKING DOESNT HELP GROUNDING DOESNT HELP YELLING DOESNT I HAVE TRIED SO MUCH MY KIDS DONT USUALLY ACT THIS WAY. IT HAS STaRTED SINCE SCHOOL STARTED. HELP ME PLEASE

Answer 1

You need to moniter not only who she spends time with, but what she watches on TV etc. Don't yell and don't hit her face like so many people suggested; try a wooden spoon on her palms - it won't do any damage, but it sure is scary (my mom's method) and she'll think twice before she cusses again. And if you set up boundaries you need to be consistant. (If you threaten to ground her, make sure you do it.) Try replacing time with her bad friends with good things - voluteering at the animal shelter, activities at a local church, music lessons, etc.

Answer 2

I've got a 10 year old boy and I catch him cursing from time to time. The problem is that some of what he says sounds just like it came out of my mouth, because I occassionally curse in front of him without really realizing it or thinking about it. It all starts at home by setting a good example and trying to minimize a child's exposure to vulgar language. They are invariably going to hear it from other kids by the time they reach that age and to help with that the concept of God watching you and listening to what your saying probably at least makes the kid think twice before blurting out a string of curse words. When I was a kid there were many times I wanted to curse and there were sometimes that I did anyhow, but the belief that God was listening to every word I said probably curtailed my cursing quite a bit until I hit about 14 or 15 and stopped caring if God heard me curse anymore. I would recommend watching how you and other family members talk when the child is present and have discussions with the child about the Christian belief system.

Answer 3

One thing you might want to do is explain to them is why you don't like it when they cuss. If you just say "It's bad and I don't want you to." then that'll just sweeten it for them cuz then they'll be "rebels" Most people give this excuse for justifying their cussing: "It's just a word, it doesn't mean anything." I used to believe that until I had this thought "So is n*gger, ch*nk, sp*ck, w*op, wetba*k." I am in no way racist, I just had to point out that those are JUST WORDS. You call someone that in real life and they won't be offended, of course not. WRONG. Cussing is RUDE. It makes people who are around you think you're RUDE. Don't give me that stuff about "Let's make f*ck an everyday word." know what'll happen? People wil find new words to use. All those words mean disrespect. There's no way around it.

Answer 4

Assuming you do not cuss around your children explain that this behavior is not acceptable next time they do it wash their mouths out with soap tell them they have a dirty mouth and it needs to be cleaned. It is normal at that age for them to start thinking they are grown up and trying to act that way. Remind them that you do not use that kind of language and they will not use it either

Answer 5

my kids have been known to say cuss words .. But Punishment taking away the things that make them happy .... I mean there priceless things ... x box .. no bike .. no phone... No special activities.. But you need to pay special attention to the language you use .. You cant be a professional cusser and expect your kids not to pick up the craft. You need to in-force strict rules and the coiciquences that come from the actions ... stick to them .. really .. if they cuss .. you take something away . even make them toss there toy in the garbage can .. taking it out when they are in their room ... or . Permanently if you choose.. You need to be "a mean mom " ( not really but you get it .. right ) and say your arnt going to have it in your house. Yeah its a problem ,,, not the biggest but still you dont want your kids sounding like the osbournes ... take away privledges and stuff that really mean a lot to them ..... . and stick to it .

Answer 6

Are you kidding? What kind of question is that for mother to ask?
Did your mom let you use bad words at 10? Being a mom you should know 10 is too young. Who cares what the other kids are doing, you must live in a bad neighborhood. You need to better yourself and move. Knock the hell out of him.
Where's Dad? Let me guess, not there.

Answer 7

It's normal, but not acceptable. Set up rules, and punishments, like a loss of privliges, and be consistent with it. This is probably the most important thing, do not back down, stick to your rules, because peer pressure and pushing the limits of acceptable behavior will only increase with age. And try not to get angry, they are just kids, and they have to learn their place in the world by trial and error. Your job is to help guide them through.

Answer 8

I used dawn dishwashing liquid and an old toothbrush.

Now if their peers curse, they will. Peer acceptance is very important to them. They can learn where they can get away with it though. My boys--both jocks--used some pretty rough language. I remember washing my 17 year-old, 210 pound son's mouth out with dawn because of something he said. Theylearned quickly--don't say that around mama or anyone who will tell mama.

Warn them of the consequences and then follow through. Promise don't threaten.

Answer 9

Move to an other place where kids do not cuss and if she cusses at you like take her/his toys away never let friends over do not let her date or and she can only go out to go to school

Answer 10

1. Move.
2. If your kids are to be accepted and not shunned by the other kids, they will have to talk like them. All you can do is tell them they CANNOT curse when they are at home. And don't hit them, or they will learn to hit others. Take away the Ipod or games or the like.