My dad . . . . . .?

Question

My dad died of cancer 3 days before my birthday and it as because the doctors didnt read the scan proply i wanna no how many over people have the same problem please anser im depressed

Answer 1

Sounds like you could do with someone to talk to?? I guess you might also be feeling quite angry as well as depressed?

Have a chat with your mum, or brother / sister about how you are feeling. You can give the Samaritans a ring, or look in your local phone book for Cruse Bereavement Care - if you are under 18, they provide support for younger adults as well. if you are at school - is there a teacher you can speak to?

See if you can get some more info on what happened - would the doctors have definitely been able to do something if they had read the scan properly? It _might_ not have stopped him from dying.

Its always really difficult when you lose someone you love. Its normal to feel depressed - but speak to someone - don't bottle it up.

Take care

Answer 2

I've had Cancer for over 3 years and get a scan every 6 months.

I have great sympathy for you, what a terrible thing to happen but i have total and complete confidence with the consultant that looks after me.

If it wasn't for him i would have died years ago, he found the Tumour and removed it along with my right kidney to give me these last few years.

I'm sure your father wouldn't have wanted you to feel this way for so long, he'd want you to cherish the memories if him and enjoy your life to the full.

I think you need to talk to a bereavement councillor who can help you out of this depression and let you live the life your Dad would want you to.

Answer 3

well, my situation is quite different you your. my mum was diagnosed with lung cancer, and it was found out that this diagnosis had been in her notes for nearly a year without any one telling her about it!! crazy i know! so anyway, due to that she had to have a lung removed, and is subsequently disabled and practically immobile now for the rest of her life. however, it was only after the op was done, that the doctors decided well, actually the tumor wasnt growing, and so there was actually no real need to remove it or put her through that.
so sorry to hear about your dad, i lost my dad when i was very young, by way of an accident, so i know how it feels, but like the old saying goes, time does heal, and now, i dont think of my dad every single day like i used to, and its not so painful when i do think of him. a part of him lives on within me and my children, and a part of your dad lives on within you too.take care of yourself, be strong, and make your pops proud.
xxx

Answer 4

Hey..it happens. Sorry kid. They thought my old man had a heart problem. Opened him up and found him riddleed qwith cancer. Dead 4 months after the surgery to the day. Young too. Only 57.

Being a doctor isn't like being an auto mechanic. Sorry for you and your family's trouble. The suffering is over for him. Sometimes at that stage death is almost a welcome relief. For both him and your family.

Answer 5

My Dad died of cancer 23years ago do to the doctors dismissing all the signs until it was too late so I know how you feel and still miss him alot now, I have his photo by myside at work always

Answer 6

my dad died too...but very different circumstances, it happened this summer. you need to talk to people about it, friends, family etc. don't keep it bottled up or you'll just get more and more down hope you feel better...remember now he won't have to be in pain because of the cancer...

Answer 7

My sister died of cancer, and it was horrible, remember your dad loved you and his love will always live on. Remember God loves your dad too more than anyone else and he belongs to him and one day you will see him again. Your dad loves you alot and he is i am sure thinking of you and with you in your heart. take care i know its hard, but remember your dad wants the best for you, and will always love and care for you, you are not alone, turn to God as well and he loves you deeply more than anyone and he is your heavenly father. take care you are loved immensely remember that. Love does not die.

Answer 8

my mum died of cancer and her cremation was on my birthday it was horrible as id made arrangements with friends to celebrate my birthday but instead just cried all day

Answer 9

my dad died when i was a little girl not from cancer but an accident cry lots and you will feel better

Answer 10

losing a loved one is terrible.i cant even imagine being without my dad.i can understand what u might be going through.cry ur heart out.let all the negative feeling and tears flow out.when u remember him tears will flow but there will be smile on ur lips coz u should cherish his memory.