she didnt know herself
2006-10-11 05:06:15 · 21 answers · asked by lettyhrrr 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
How does she not know and you do?
What can you do but support her in whatever she wants to do?
2006-10-11 05:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First relax!That's not 'the best' that could happen to you and your daughter but it's not the end of the world.I guess she is still in the first 3 months.If so,talk with her(WITH her,not TO her),ask her what does she think about it(not what does she HAVE to think),just be curious - that's the key.Then talk with her about pregnancy and parenting(don't mention only the bad side of everything,mention the joy seeing your child growing up),talk about these things and tell her that she will have to decide if she wants to keep the baby or abort it.If she decides to abort,support her and go to a really nice clinic.If she decides to keep the baby(you better consider that one),help her any way.She is 15,old enough to look after a child,but not old enough to pay for everything - clothes,baby things...She will also have to leave school for a year(or more if she decides) and that will make her think about continueing her education at all.You better see if the father can help.If he is 15 either,his parents should know he is a father.If he is older and works,he is due to pay some money every month,because the baby is his child too.
2006-10-11 14:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
support her!! this is the best thing you can do. My best friend had a beautiful baby when she was 15 years old, and now has three beautiful kids, and is happily married to the father. She is now 22, I am 24. I have two girls and a boy on the way. I know it is a shocker now, but the baby will be beautiful, and you will love it. I could preach for hours about how you need to support her, but I won't. I just suggest you do because my mom did not support me and I moved out at the age of 16. So did my sister. Just love your daughter, no matter what.
2006-10-11 12:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just as everyone else is saying support her. Also talk it over with her and the babys father and his parents if he is in the picture. And discuse the options availible such as adoption abortion or keeping it. make sure she knows that keeping the baby will be a huge responsibility and that her life will have to change drastically. Also discuss what she will do about school and how to keep up while in the hospital after labour and if there's a school in your area that has classes for students that are parents. My own High school did and it was great. Also discuse the options as openly as possible and make sure she knows you will support her no matter what.
This is a difficult decision that she is facing no matter what she decides. And ultimatly it is her (and the babys father) decision.
2006-10-11 13:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by gitana_diosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 16 when she told me on my birthday that she was pregnant. Actually her boyfriend told me, I was in total shock but after we seen the baby's heartbeat on the 1st ultrasound there was no question that she was meant to be. I don't personally believe in abortions so that was out of the question although several of her high school friends have made that decision or their parents made it for them (some of them twice). She is now 17 and "our" babygirl is 2 months old, I was there for her throughout the whole pregnancy the good times, the gripey times, the crying times, the WHOLE thing, all you can do at this point is to be there for her. Her and her boyfriend are no longer together but he still has alot to do with the baby and works to give my daughter money for her. We have the baby in a home daycare now after looking high and low for a very good provider, my daughter is back in school and is back into playing tennis, plus her grades are great! It just takes will power and determination. I wish you both all the luck, hold your head high and be there for her.
2006-10-11 12:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by mslo25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and let her know you will be there to support whatever decision she decides upon. Let her know her options. If she decides to keep the baby and raise it make sure you step back and allow her to take care of the child. Offer help if she needs it but please don't take over the mommy role and allow her to not take care of her responsiblities. I have a gf that her mom did that thinking it would let her daughter live her life as well as be a mom. Well it back fired cuz she is now going to be 21 and just had a miscarriage but has 3 living kids 4, 3, and 1.5 y/o. She is irresponsible and doesn't care if or when she gets pregnant again cuz her mom picks up the slack if she does. She doesnt care for her kids at all. Need to chat? IM me at midnightmoet . I was a teen mom and it wasn't easy but unlike my friends mom mine made me take the responsibility and I'm thankful for that. Take a minute and just breath.
2006-10-11 12:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must be a shock for you,, you need to talk to your daughter to find out what she thinks. If she decides to keep the baby she needs to know how hard its gonna be,, but if you are prepaired to help her then it would make things easier. My daughter had her son at 16 and i landed up bringing the baby up because she could'nt cope with him he's 9yrs old now. It put a lot of stress on my family but i would'nt be without him he's great
2006-10-11 12:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your daughter. My sister was sixteen when she got pregnant with my niece. My mom was totally upset because she thought that it would affect my sister's education. She supported her though and didn't give her a hard time at all. My sister continued to go to school and graduated with Honors. It can be done if you are supportive of your daughter.
2006-10-11 14:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her. Show her how to take care of herself and her baby so they'll both be happy and healthy. Take her to the doctor, enroll her in prenatal classes when the time comes. Buy the basics. Visit others with babies, help her to learn as much as she can about what's happening to her body and what to expect.
2006-10-11 13:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her. Let her know you will support her in whatever decision she makes. Help her get to doctor's appointments, make sure she takes care of her own health if she decides to carry through with the pregnancy, etc.
2006-10-11 12:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Krista D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love her and support her no matter what she aint the first and wont be the last for this to happen to....dont ever hold a grudge against her just show her and help her to finish school and how important it is to finish for her baby.....help her reach goals and your relationship with her will grow even more.....good luck
ps dont worry what other people think about her or your family who are they to pass judgement upon someone they are not GOD....besides you know they have their own dirty little secrets
2006-10-11 21:06:21 · answer #11 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋