Dating is so hard "WHY"?
2006-10-11 05:05:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because although we're labeled as 'shallow dogs', the females out there are more shallow than us. He's not dark enough, he doesn't have enough hair, he doesn't make enough money, his fingers are uneven, he doesn't have enough muscles, he's not cute enough, blah blah blah. Good luck dude.
2006-10-11 05:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by wudbiser 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will sweetie!! I don't know how old you are but you will. I am 27 and had to go through a handful of horrible ex's and even a horrible, terrible, trifflin' ex husband before I finally found my better half. But I did and he is above and beyond anything I could have ever hoped for. I wish you all the best. Just take your time. Start off as friends that way you know the two of you are compatible in a relationhip. If she relates well to you in a friendship, imagine what a relationship would be like!!
2006-10-11 12:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause it is that dating is AFTER you find someone you think may be THE one. It is time to ask the hard questions like how do you feel about starting a family now, later... what is your opinion about this, how will you handle this or that situation, what are your goals, etc... Dating is not supposed to be oh lets go and hang out then go have fun afterwards in the bedroom.... and that is what is has become, so how could it not be hard now? It is so messed up....
2006-10-11 12:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is alot of expectations with dating, I think, and then you have to deal with possible rejection. We all do negative self-talk about ourselves and imagine all sorts of things the other person is thinking or saying about us. It sucks.
I am encouraging someone I know to go out and date and my heart just aches for her because she starts feeling really down about herself and gets discouraged. What I tell her is to go to a date and plan on having a good time no matter what happens. She so wants a close relationship and a connection with someone. I encouraged her to go out with the goal of making a possible friend and just having fun and see what happens. If it grows from there that is awesome, if not - well, you have had a chance to meet a new person.
I think it could take 200 dates before she finds someone that she clicks romantically with and who feels the same of her. So while she is hoping for that wonderful "click" - just have fun and enjoy herself in the process.
That's so much easier said than done.
I think it's gotta be better to go out and try to have fun than to stay home and be really alone and lonely.
And if anyone is rude, gross, mean, hateful - well, don't plan on seeing them again, know you are the better person and mark them off your list. There are a lot of people who are messed up, mentally ill, socially inept, and show only cold feelings. But that doesn't mean anything about YOU personally - it's because there is something wrong with them.
It's important to keep that perspective to keep your own sanity.
It seems like a really rough time in our world to meet people and there are sooo many people out there that are lonely and want to be with someone.
Keep looking and trying - and don't personally take a beating from a bad date.
Good luck to you!!
2006-10-11 12:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making it hard to date. If you have continual expectations of who is going to be right for you, you are not enjoying the experience of the date itself. Relax. Often the right person comes along when you decide you dont want anyone in your life. This is because when you have no expectations, you finally let down your guard and are open to new experiences. So stop fretting and start looking for friends instead of lovers. Join groups that involve you in the activities that you enjoy and you may meet someone with similar interests. BUT stop looking for the perfect person and enjoy the dates you have without evaluating if that person is the one for you.
2006-10-11 12:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that dating can be hard if people are too focused on finding the right person instead of BEING the right person. Continue to develop your interests, your own skills so that along with being interested, you are also interesting. Meet lots of women, the more the better to improve your chances of finding the right one for you. And yes, I have no doubt you will find her.
2006-10-11 12:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard because it seems no one is what they appear to be on the outside. And you don't want to judge them right off. It is a catch and miss situation and sometimes a little luck is involved
2006-10-11 12:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry...you will find a wonderful lady when the time is right. Dont go looking for it..it will happen when you least expect it. Good luck!
2006-10-11 12:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately. Finding the right one could also mean ready to accept someone in your life. Dont be too choosy. Grab the one who cares the most.
2006-10-11 12:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen dating is not hard to do are to find but just maybe God is saving you for someone very special for your life holla at me later lovely_sexy_finer@yahoo.com.
2006-10-11 12:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by lovely_sexy_finer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. Dating is hard because we are taught to keep ourselves to ourselves as kids and relationships require us to open up. Most people just aren't comfortable enough with themselves to allow others in. Just keep up being yourself and don't lose heart. It will happen sooner or later.
2006-10-11 12:09:00 · answer #11 · answered by Beeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋