an affair with a married person??
what if u r married and immensely attracted to someone who is unattached?? what if u find ur soulmate after u r already married??
and vice versa. if u r single and find that the life partner of ur dreams is already committed????
2006-10-11 05:04:34 · 17 answers · asked by slmanl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This seems like common sense to me.
You would ruin the life of that person's spouse, any kids they have, and kids that might accidently result from your affair. You should have married you "soul mate" - that's the point. You marry the person you're willing to commit your life to. You don't get to change your mind when things get dull. They'll get dull with anyone eventually.
It would be incredibly reprehensible to defile your marriage or someone else's. How incredibly selfish.
2006-10-11 05:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by luvwinz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many possible complications. Hurting your spouse and your children (if any), alienating mutual friends and neighbors, ruining your reputation around town.
I don't believe in sneaking around. If a married person finds himself or herself in love with someone else, he should divorce his spouse before pursuing a relationship with another. A marriage is a contract--many, even non-religious, people view it as a sacred contract. Cheating is breaking the provisions of that contract.
Married people aren't trapped. If they find that they no longer are in love with a spouse or meet someone else--they are able to make a change. But do it openly. There might still be repercussions, but at least they acted honorably.
2006-10-11 05:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem with an affair is just that....it's an affair,that's all it could ever be....you will never be able to have the trust needed for a serious relationship because of the "shady" way you started .....it's either an affair or walk away and see what happens in life down the road..if you want a long term partnership with this person than you must wait until you are both single....if it's meant to be it will.
2006-10-11 05:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.If you are in a committed relationship, you need to work on *that* relationship, free of any outside influence, until such time as you or your partner realize there is no hope of happiness in the relationship and end it. Then and only then should you pursue another relationship.
If the person you love is in a committed relationship, you should remove yourself from that person's life unless and until they have severed ties completely with their partner and have had time enough to recover from the resulting emotional trauma (even leaving a *bad* partnership can cause trauma.)
An affair negatively affects everyone in the situation. The stress caused is unimaginable. Do not pursue a committed person and do not allow yourself to be pursued if you are committed!
2006-10-11 05:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then it wasn't truly your soul mate. God directs you to your soul mate. If you accept evil in your life then you can cheat on your wife/soul mate. Evil can trick you into thinking that a married woman is your soul mate. That is why if you are tempted to do evil you should RUN the other way. Have patience, if you're not married, you will find the one true lover. If you are married, you have already found her. Turn to her for comfort. Seek marriage counseling and pray if you are having problems that make you think of cheating or divorce. God bless!
2006-10-11 05:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it could get real ugly. I suggest that if you find your soulmate elsewhere, then divorce and stop cheating. This will tear your family apart, though. Personally, I think that to go after a married man shows very little character.
2006-10-11 05:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by AuroraDawn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the old adage of "The grass is not always greener on the other side?" Take that to heart and stop and think before you cause complications that can ruin other's lives besides yours. Also, sorry I don't remember their screen name, but the poster who asked if you can outrun bullets wasn't only funny but right.
2006-10-11 05:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already made a covenent with your wife/husband and God. God is our Creator it only makes sense that to live happy, fulfilling, and contented lives we must follow His instruction.Many get married with the selfish attitude that says, "I'll get married, try it for a while and if it doesn't work, if I don't like it, I'll get a divorce." Yet, God views marriage to be a covenant relationship.The Bible describes the marriage as a spiritual covenant that is just as binding, and just as sacred, as the covenant that God has made with His people. In fact, we find that when God describes the relationship between Himself and His people He speaks of the husband wife relationship (cf. Jer. 31:31-32). In the New Testament the blessed relationship between Christ and the church is described by the covenant relationship of the husband and the wife (Eph. 5:22-ff). Marriage is a holy union before God. Jesus declared, "..What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate" (Matt. 19:6).The only One who has the authority to declare what is a legitimate reason to break that covenant is the one who bound it, and that is God.
2006-10-11 05:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by K 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 05:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Um... the husband could kill you? How hard is that? Your wife's family could kill you.
Or everybody could forigve everybody so there you have the complete range of possibilities.
2006-10-11 05:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋