My boyfriend mother died and his father lives in africa he lives in usa with sisters. I feel upset because he ask me for money, although my tells me to give uncondtionally. but my boyfriend cooks for me and he tries to make me happy i enjoy that. but when i tell friends and family about him and his situation people say that he needs to take care of himself but i love him to care for him and be there for him what should i do he is 20 years old and i am 24 years old we have been together for 2 1'2 years now
2006-10-11 05:01:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well heres the deal you love him alot there is nothing thats gonna change that, if he loves you he would go and get a job so he does not put u in this strange predicament, cause if he was a man he would be to ashamed to ask for money and go and earn it, if he was using you he would not care.
2006-10-11 05:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by greekmanuk81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its love what other people think shouldn't matter and eventually they won't. My father hated my husband because he could down on luck with jobs..he told me that i could do better, he would drag me down with him and that i would never have anything as long as i was with him. Honey...why did you get with him in the first place? Was it money? or was it him? i supported my husband for almost a year but you know he has always been there for me to. When i was pregnant he worked i didn't. After the baby he still worked and you know....thats what its really all about...helping each other, being there when times get tough. love can have a price tag if you allow it to. No one ever said that a relationship is easy. it takes work on both ends to make it work. If your man is down on your luck and needs you be there..one day you will need him.
2006-10-11 05:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by mcshankel04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not care about what anyone tells you if you are ahappy then you live your life as you see fit. I f you want to take care of your man than you do that. Just dont let him take advantage of your kindness. Talk to him and let him know how you are feeling and ask him about getting at least a parttime job so that he can be independent and dont have to depend so much on you for what he needs. Good Luck
2006-10-11 05:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel upset at him asking you for money. Unfortunate events happen in people's lives but that is no excuse to start using someone. He needs to be a man and find a way (work) to support himself. You didn't ask him to cook for you, and if he is doing it as an alterior motive, then you need to confront him about it. Good Luck and hopefully love will prevail.
2006-10-11 05:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by limeallure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you 2 are going to have to sit down and have a talk. Tell him you love him and think it is wonderful that he helps around the house, but he is old enough to help out with the bills. Even if it is a part time job, it will get him out of the house, meet new people and help his family at the same time. Good luck and if you ever need to chat, e-mail me.
2006-10-11 05:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by terri2003anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether his parents are alive / deceased, should not matter on him being responsible. You should not be giving him money and supporting him. He is old enough to do that himself. He SHOULD cook now and then and do things to make you happy, you're his gf! Don't think you should have to pay him to love you. How do you know he is just not using you? He is old enough to have his own means of cash flow.
2006-10-11 05:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by SatinDoll1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what people tell you to do! Listen to your heart. If you absolutley love him then you need to be there for him no matter what. For goodness sakes,his mother just died and your wondering if you should help him or not....seriously if you had to ask this question then maybe your doubting your relationship with him. If you truly love him there would be NO doubt to help him out.....all you need to do is trust your heart,not what your friends and family say.
Good Luck!
2006-10-11 05:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for him to grow up. You're not doing him any favours by making him dependent on you. It's nice that you're helping him - I agree, he needs your support right now. But helping him help himself is a lot better than coming to his rescue financially all the time. Good luck!
2006-10-11 05:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see no one's life will not get stopped with the dead.ofcourse a mother means a lot to us but we can't stop our life over that point.dont u feel that he is taking care of u for money just observe ofcourse it may or may not be.anyhow as he is ur lover its ur responsibility to make him understand what life is and just make it clear that the whole life can't continue in the same manner.
2006-10-11 05:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋