A kid at 17?

Question

I want to have kid right now and well I'm 17 and well my girl is 15. She asked me if i was serious and I didn't want to tell her that I do but if she gets pregnant her parents will kick her out of the house. I'm graduating this year and after that I'm going into construction so i would have money to support the kid and well she wants to finish school what should i do

Answer 1

I don't know how mature you are.
Having a child is one of the most challenging thing you will do in life.
Not only is it a wonderful experience, when your ready,. but it will aslo fullfil you.
I was 18 when I had my child. I am a single mother & I've done this all on my own. You can not take a break without worrieg for thios other person. Even when you finally get a chance to go out and have fun the way you used to, you can't. You are too busy worrieng about your child.
Having a child will changer your life completely. In more ways that you can imagine. I have changed more that I thought I would ever & done things I never imagined doing for anyone.
If I had the oportunity to go back in time I would wait until I was ready. I beliave that now at the age of 28 I would be ready. 10 yrs after having him. It has taken me 10 yrs to be were I want to be in life & to offer my son the life I didn't have.

Answer 2

I can tell you from experience, having a child that young is NOT ADVISABLE! I was a mother at 17, exactly 1 week from graduation. This girl is only 15 and she has a few years left in school. It was hard enough for me to take care of a child after I was out of school, let alone still in school. I understand that kids today are having babies younger and younger, but I really don't think at 15 she is prepared for the physical and emotional responsibilities that being pregnant and a mother brings on. It makes you grow up fast, sometimes too fast. Don't get me wrong, I would never trade my daughter for the world, but she would of had a much better life if I had waited. I am just now going back to college.....over 10 years after high school. Money isn't the only thing to consider when thinking about having a child. You both have to be mentally prepared also and at 15 I just don't think she is ready.

Answer 3

You absolutely SHOULD NOT have a child right now. The mere fact that you want your 15 year old girlfriend -- who isn't even old enough to drive...who is probably a sophomore in high school -- to have a child with you is proof enough that YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO HAVE YOUR OWN FAMILY YET.

This is nothing against you....You're not done growing up yet either. She is A CHILD. You are little more than a CHILD. Why would you want to saddle yourself with responsibility like that so young?

Whether or not you truly love each other is immaterial. Neither of you are emotionally, physically, financially, or socially equipped to raise a child properly at this age. If you had a child, your decision would be sentencing all three of you to a life that will never be as good or fulfilling as you want it to be.

Wait a while. Create a financial net of at least $15,000, make sure you have complete medical insurance coverage for both of you that will extend to baby eventually. Let your girlfriend graduate from high school and go to college/trade school if she wants to. Secure more than adequate and safe housing for yourselves...

These are all basic steps that need to be taken before a child is brought into the world. If it looks like it'll take a long time, that's because it will. No responsible adult would have a child without these very BASIC necessities in place. You should not either.

Answer 4

Well, it sounds like you're ready to take on the world. Good for you.

Lets talk about decision making. Responsible decision making. Making decisons that don't hurt you or other unborn people.

You're doing great, got the girl, got the job...finished High School. What happened to having a life? Hon, let the little girl finish High School. You did. Look into reliable birth control and use it exactly how the instructions read. Every time.

Evaluate this path you have chosen. Anyone else jumping on board? No? Why? Have conversation with your best friend. Tell him about your intentions, see what he has to say. And listen.

You are about to become a man. Speak to people with respect. Respond to what they have to say. Not react, respond. Breathe, think about what you want to say, and say it calmly and respectfully. This teaches respect.

Continue to do the things that gain you independence. Take a look at what you have to offer a little one....would you want you for a parent right now?

Find a place to live, get used to paying the bills and maintaining the car. Remember, pregnant women and small infants go to the doctor almost weekly for awhile. How are you going to provide this care? Do you have insurance, that part is going to become quite the issue if you plan on paying out of pocket, dear.

You're on the right track and I commend you for your values. Take this time while your partner is in school to make a solid foundation. Put some of that good paycheck in the bank. Find out what baby furniture, strollers, diapers, formula (formula is a trip...it costs a fortune.), playpens, car seats, toys, and baby clothes cost. Remember, babies grow. Shoes and clothes are an ongoing cost until about the age you are now. Real pain. Half the time they don't even wear the stuff out.

Keep in mind that you will want to give to your wife and child all the good things. Maybe going to a technical school while she's in HS would be a plan. Look at what the things you are good at doing to earn a living will pay you.

Construction is physical and exhausting. What kind of person are you when you're beat? Can you be a good husband and father and be exhausted physically? Mommy's going to want back up with the baby when you get home. Can you do that? Or is this going to be one long, ongoing, exhausted fight? She needs back up because infants don't sleep, and pregnant women have trouble sleeping the last couple of months of pregnancy. She is going to need to sleep, and you are going to need to rest. Who will win? (No fair dumping on grandma).

Just a few words from someone whose been there, done that. Hope it helps.

Answer 5

If u know that u both can give the kid everthing its needs no matter what even if u dont have enough money to have a car or a phone then u should. If the both of u love eachother then yes no doubt have a kid but id wait till after u have both considered waht this means , no more partys no stayin out late, and u and ur girl will no longer be able to go on dates. You'll have to explain to them why their friends parents are older then the two of u. Just be aware that if u do have a kid then a lot of response ablility comes with it.

Answer 6

Okay, going into construction does NOT mean you will have the money to support a kid, and a FAMILY AND SCHOOL. Sometimes construction workers are out of work for weeks at a time.. I know this first hand.. What will happen then? You will be on welfare and making us pay for that baby and family and schooling.. You need to wait till you are older and when you are out of school and college At least. A baby is a lot of work and will take a tole on you forever. do you not want a life? I mean you need to have fun before having a child.. Babysitters cost a lot of money nowadays.. And will not watch kids for a long time. Just wait, and do us all a favor. I know you do not want to be struggling for the rest of your life for money, and missing out on life when you are young.

Answer 7

I'm sure I'm 1 of 100 people who will say, are you nuts???? First of all, you have many more years to have kids. Your girl is only 15 and by no means, ready to have a kid! You might think you'd be financially ready but you are so wrong. My bf is into construction and we have to live with my Mom and we don't even have kids! Also, you're denying her the chance to graduate and go to college! She may want to go to college, too. Why would you be so selfish? It's very hard to go to college with a child. Would you be able to pay for her education, housing, bills, automobiles, insurance, the kid's necessities,etc.... ? Absolutely not. Please wait till she's 18 and graduated. You guys might not even be together then. YOU WILL BE MAKING THE HUGEST MISTAKE OF YOUR LIFE IF YOU GET HER PREGNANT NOW!YOU ALSO WILL BE RUINING HER LIFE WHICH IS VERY SELFISH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I have to tell you, construction is not going to pay for a child and a 15 year old. It is a bad idea. You need to babysit an infant for 24-36 hours. They don't sleep. My son woke up every 2-3 hours through the night until he was two months old. Also, babies get sick and doctor's bills and medicine cost alot of money. My son is one year old and we still owe $900.00 in hospital bills. We have been paying on them every month. We also have very good insurance. Do not do it. Your girl needs to go to school and you should support her. You are too young and she is way too young. Do you have a house? A reliable vehicle? Credit? Wait!!!!!!

Answer 9

Did you guys SERIOUSLY think it over about having a baby??? Taking care of a baby is serious its not a walk in the park. Babies need care 24/7 and you barely have time to take care of yourself. Also you guys will not be able to enjoy life to the fullest if your tied down with a baby. You guys are very young and should enjoy life all you can before you settle down and decide to have a baby. And your gf is ONLY 15??? She is way too young to be having a baby she is in high school and should be enjoying it. BAD MISTAKE to have a baby now. Why cant you guys wait until your late 20s or 30s to have a baby?

Answer 10

I undestand where you are coming from i am 17 and also want a child. I can also understand that at 15 although i wanted children and have been raised around them my whole life i was not emotionally of physically ready. Her body is still developing and getting pregnant at such a critical age is not good health wise. So know what you are getting into before trying to conceive