Okay so yet again, there is this guy.......2 years older than me.....we went out for a while and then out of nowhere he dumped me....we were still friends and everything, and I still have feeligns for him, he asked me back out a while ago and I said no because I don't want to be hurt again.....so last week I bit the bullet and told him that I still care about him, and he told me he still loves me but now there is this other girl........how do I put the odds back in my favor?
Is it wrong that I feel like I should avoid him?
Or feel that he's lying to me?
I mean......I dunno what to do because....I mean I just feel if he really loved me he would be with me....
2006-10-11 04:57:31 · 19 answers · asked by distortedbeauty2010 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay... I wouldnt bother with that sweet heart! He is older... which means he will be going for alot of girls. older guys always date around a lot. I would set my eyes on someone closer to my age or just someone diff. Im sure he didnt really mean it when he said he loved you! I mean come on... Guys use that to keep someone around. Or maybe he just wanted you around untill he could find someone else. I have seen that happen many times. I couldnt mess with that for real. Get out there and find you a good guy!
2006-10-11 05:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're last sentence summed up the whole thing. I've been in the same situation to find out that the guy was just hitting a "dry spell". I can't tell you what to do in this situation, because I really don't want my negative experiences affecting you negatively, but I'm going to tell you girl, watch out and protect yourself. If there is another girl why do you put yourself in this situation? If you can get this guy, you can get another one that will treat you better. I know you have feelings for him, but sometimes you just need to let them go. Hope it works out for you.
2006-10-11 12:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? He is doing what most of guys do, they dont dump u totally just in case... so if i were u i would try to get over it, he only goes for u when he is allone, its not fear, listen to ur heart, u love him and ur open to come back with him, but he says he loves u too but that love isnt strong enough to take the chance, he is putting someone else first, its worthless.
Do what u have to do... be happy, anyone will be happy for u if u dont do it for ur self!
2006-10-11 12:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by jalina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had it right in the beginning - stay away from him becaues he'll hurt you again. You didn't and he did. He doesn't love you. He doesn't even respect you or that other girl - feelings for you, seeing her. Get over this guy and find someone who'll treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck!
2006-10-11 12:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jemma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sme times it needs Gods hand to take control,coz most men do take girls for leisure,for real if u realy love the guy,why cant u have aserious talk with open heart bearing in mind that u are Gods image and u were born with aprice.if he realy loves u he should react positively and be faithful to u, coz u might end up leaving them one after another forgeting that there is Aid and other diseases,make up ur mind ask God to give u ur real soulmate,best of luck
2006-10-11 12:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by longlife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like foresure dude !
Like I mean ... come on , why not like you !
Sounds ot me you ned ot stop kidding yourself and find someone who will not play games.
You need ot stop trying to be your own worst enemy also.
Stop setting yourself up to fail and find someone who is willing to place you firs tand foremost.
Dont you think you are worth that much.
This guy drops you the nyou admit you have feelings for hi mand he tells you yeah I feel the same way BUT I have a girlfriend and you want to fight for him ...
HELLO ! McFLY !!!!!!!
WAKE UP here ... sounds to me he is more interested in getting yuor pantieso ff and doingthe nasty then truely loving ou and dealing with you one on one.You want more then that then drop him to the curb and fidn a guy who treats you like the queen you wanna be treated as !
2006-10-11 12:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinon is to forget about him and get someone new. But the important thing is what you want and will you regret after 1 month?
2006-10-11 12:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cherry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on... You just want him because you can't have him. Is he really your true love/soulmate? If he was, he'd be with you... you already said that. You deserve better! :o)
2006-10-11 12:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WROTE A LOAD OF CRAP! YOU HAVE SERIOUS ISSUES I MEAN YOU LIKE HIM BUT YOU SAID NO WHEN YOU ASKED YOU OUT AGAIN, AND NOW YOU WANT HIM BUT THERES ANOTHER GIRL C'MON MAKE UP YOUR MIND AND STOP BEING SO SELFISH!
2006-10-11 12:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly if he really loved you he would be with you not spending his time any where else I think you are a comfort zone for him so when he doesn't have any one around he can use you.
2006-10-11 12:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by tamara s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋