I have been with my girlfriend for 9 months straight. We are in love. For the past 3 months, we have been getting into a lot of arguments about little things that escalade to major stuff. A definite description of my girlfriend is a type of girl who wants to be up under me 24/7. She wants to see me like everyday. lately, I feel as though the sex hasn't been great because she acts like she's either too tired to have sex or she has to go home and do some work. It's like lately, I've been begging just to have sex with the woman I love. 2 days ago, while we were having sex, she jump out of bed and said she had to go home to do some work. I was half way satisfied with the sex and wasn't even done yet. I got mad didn't talk to her as she walked out my house. I called later on that night and played it off like everything was cool. But, im getting tired of doing this. lately, instead of seeing me like everyday like she used to, she wants to see me whenever SHE WANTS TO. Why is this happening?
2006-10-11 04:56:45 · 16 answers · asked by Just_Asking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems like she is losing interest in you and is just stringing you along until she is ready to tell you it is over, take my foolish advice, talk to her and tell her that you feel like she is shutting you out of her life and you want to know why? if that doesn't work tell her 'it's over'. There are other girls out there i'm sure who will love you more. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-11 05:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nicolette G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is most definitely something going on. It could be she is depressed about something or maybe even cheating. You really need to just keep you pants zipped and sit down and have a long conversation. Your goal should be to find out what's wrong, don't even think about the sex issue or bring it up at first. I recommend you ask her where you guys are heading in your relationship, and ask if there is anything bothering her. I hope it works out for you. I think she is just trying to get your attention to see that you want her for things other than sex. P. S. If something is bothering you don't let it slide. It bothers you for a reason. She may be doing the same thing skirting around an issue that's bothering.
2006-10-11 05:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Beeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first: if you like her , why are you getting mad because she won't have sex with you? Relationships are more than sex and require enough patience to not take things personally when they don't go your way. A harsh word to the wise: grow up man! If you love her, don't push her away because of something silly.
Now, women don't ever just rein themselves in in a erlationship. If she's withdrawing herself, something is definitely going on and you need to find out what and soon. No speculating, either. Sit down with her. Tell her you love her but she's been hard "find" lately and you're worried. Ask her where she's at with you. I would say the two most likely answers are she has fallen out of love with you or began to like you more than she expected she was going to and is working on dealing with that.
This takes patience and balance. Give her space but offer your support. Give her time but enjoy every second you are together. Most importantly, if you love her, don't expect anything in return. That is selfish. Give freely and take happily, whatever she is willing and can give.
2006-10-11 05:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she has found someone else who is giving her the attention that she felt she wasnt getting from you. The two of you need to sit down and have a serious talk. Ask her if she has found someone else and wants out of the relationship because her behavior lately is suggesting that she is involved with someone else and that is probaly why sex is not a big to do with you because she is getting her satisfaction elsewhere. You need to find out because it is not fair if she has found someone else and is just making you put your life on hold until she decides which is best for her.
2006-10-11 05:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is either 1) losing interest in you, which can happen during a lot of fighting and arguments in relationships. 2) telling the truth, that she really is busy and needs to work, in that case you should respect that. or 3) is scared because of all the fighting, does not want to show all her emotions in fear of getting a broken heart or starting another fight. Either way, it sounds like you guys need to sit down and talk.
2006-10-11 05:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to a relationship to sex!
Maybe she just dont want to have so much sex give her a break.
Invite her out to dinner and a movie and just cuddle with her, dont try to make a move little kissys on the face and hugs thats it.
2006-10-11 05:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you sense theres something wrong with her why don't you ask her? it is better that it comes from her mouth why she is doing that to you..,. do you still felt her love for you? you can sense if someone is still inlove with you or what...
or
maybe she felt out of love for you or get bored with your relationship and she doesn't know how to tell you...its better you'll have a serious talk with her if you want your relationship to work... because you can't solve that problem if she is not willing to solve it with you...
Goodluck
2006-10-11 05:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably thinking that a relationship is becoming a bore, or better yet she might not like you be busy a lot, and she is begging for attention. so she probably playing won on you. you know making her self busy on purpose.
2006-10-11 05:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really need to talk to her. Seems like she might be loseing interest or she just might be very stressed out. Just be there for her and see what happens.
2006-10-11 04:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by cjlambert05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be feeling like all you want is sex, and not gettin enough attention back??? or maybe shes scared of the commitment... talk to her about it. u dont have to put up with her leaving you clueless or confused. just... talk to her about it... communication = key.
2006-10-11 05:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by demoniclilangel_666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋