My daughter is going to have her 10th brithday party. She has an invitation list but the problem is that one of her friends is bound to bring her horrible little sister! My daughter really doesn't want her to come. We can't invite the big sister alone as she'll probably turn up with her anyway (I mean it's the parents who are the real problem!) If we don't invite them, they'll find out from the other children... I don't want to create bad feelings with these girls' parents or upset my daughter's friend.
Now my daughter wants to cancel her party just because of this little girl! She is a terror tho', I mean a real terror, and her parents think she's an angel. What do you suggest?
2006-10-11 04:41:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If your daughter is not friends with the little sister, simply address the invitation only to her friend. She should tell her friend to also let the parents know that this party is limited so "unfortunately", little sister cannot come.
2006-10-11 05:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a problem all parents two more kids face at some point in time. you didn't specify whether the party is going to be at your home or other location. also you didn't say what is so horrible about the little sister or her age, which would make it easier to advise you on ways to get big sis to te party without little sis.
if the party is not at your home, indicate on the party invitation that it is limited just to the invited guest due to cost, space, or activities planned - use your imagination.
if lil sis is several years younger, try convincing the parents that although you would have been happy to have her, the activities planned are for the older girls and you wouldn't her bored and unhappy because she wasn't old enough to participate. also does big sis want lil sis to go every where she goes, get the big sis on your side if you can, she'll know all the buttons to push with mom & dad.
let's face it we all think our kids are angels. i know you don't want to upset your daughter's friend, but having big sis left out enough times and having her complain to mom and dad about her sisters behavior may be just the ticket, is there somthing you could take your daughter and her friend to do that would be special that you know the lil sis isn't allowed to do, or is there another activity the younger sis could get involved in at he time of the party so she won't want to go?
are the parent's so unreasonable that you can't approach them with your concerns. if you don't focus so much on the younger one behavior and try to find something to praise the littllt one for the parents make help out. we all get defensive when our little ones are "attacked" no matter how right the criticism is.
2006-10-11 12:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by connie m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a note into the invitation that the lucky "invitee" is one of only "insert number" invited to your daughter's party and stress that it is RSVP for the invitee only and the invitation should be used as an entry ticket or for the VIP list. Make it a fun thing. If the parents show up with the younger sibling, stand your ground while being polite. Tell them that this is your daughter's special day and you are so glad that "invitee" could come and share that. "I am sorry that we weren't able to have siblings attend, but maybe they can have them get together another time." That should make your point very clear and still have you smelling like a rose. If you need to assuage your daughter's fears immediately, call the parents and repeat the above sentence prior to the party after saying "I called because I was hoping you could help me finalize the invitation list. "Your Daughter's Name" is having a birthday party for the "older girls" only. You know how kids that age are.....but she wants to invite "invitee". She(your daughter) is only able to invite "insert number" and I would love to verify that "invitee" will be able to come." Good Luck!
2006-10-11 12:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by Candy D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the parents explain that your daughter would like to invite her friend to the party but the guest list is for guest only no tag along. People that send siblings to a party that were not invited only cause problems for the parents throwing the party. Additional guest at any party is unwelcome by most so I'm sure the parents will understand.
2006-10-11 13:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by ellc123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we all have had this problem.. You could always MAKE THE MOM STAY at the PARTY and have her watch the kid...because your busy.... or like everyone else has said specify that its only FOR THE ONE CHILD. If they bring the child .. TELL THEM SORRY THEY CANT STAY.. DONT BACK DOWN ... YOU ONLY HAVE ROOM FOR THAT ONE KID >..
You may snap someday and just say ... This child is not the best behaved and you dont want to deal with it . Its like taking back your power as a person...( its sad to give this kid so much of your time and control your daughters feelings and her party ... ) We all have people who we know who .. if there children were raised by dogs would be better people . But its sad your daughter sounds like this really upsets her. I would just realize that these types of people live in every neighborhood and they dont know how to deal or cope with their own lives. But sometimes if you dont set limits these a holes walk all over nice people like you.
2006-10-11 13:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by zachs mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate clods like the parents mentioned. Call them up and tell them that the party is set up only for the INVITED guests and uninvited guests will be sent home. You could graciously explain that this is a party for 10 year olds.
You are doing these people a favor by inviting the one child over so that they can focus on the younger sibling for awhile. You did not volunteer to be their babysitter.
If there are hurt feelings, do not let yourself feel guilty. It's not your fault that the parents of those kids do not teach proper invitation etiquette.
2006-10-11 11:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your daughters party you have a right to be chosey!
Call and talk to the parents and daughter and if you dont want the sister to be there then state that, if their is hard feelings thier is hard feelings. I mean the girl had to have done something for these feelings to be brought on.
If nothing else just dont invite any of them, and enjoy your daughters birthday party. Not everyone always gets invited.
2006-10-11 11:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU are hosting the party for YOUR child. Call these parents before the invites go out and let them know that ONLY the child whose name is on the invitation is invited, that you can not accomodate another child. (Use whatever excuse comes to mind - space, odd/even number, etc.) Tell these parents as much as you would love to have all the children invited to the party bring a sibling, it just can not be done, and therefore it would not be fair to the other guests to allow one child to bring a sibling, and you hope that they understand and will make other arrangements for the little hellion.
2006-10-11 12:11:23 · answer #8 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents when you give them the invitation that you can only have a certian amount of children at the party and that you are sorry, but the other child will not be able to attend.
Or you could say that you wanted this party to be for the "older kids"
OR the truth. Her kids a terror. or Your kid and her younger kid do not get along and this day is all about your kid.
2006-10-11 11:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Barbi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Invite her but tell the parents you can only limit it to a certain amount, If they have a problem with it, maybe the girl won't come at all.
It is your party-your rules-you have that right. If this happens all the time, then you should speak up. Just make sure no other friend's siblings are coming.
2006-10-11 12:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋