Ok I am African I am not suppose to date a guy out of my country, but I met this guy I work with, he is very nice to me, he is African American he is in love with me everyone at work know that he is in love with me, and he talks about getting married and having kids together, however my parents don’t like him at all, first of all he is not form the same country, he is not in school he doesn’t even have his GED, he is younger than me by one year, he is form dysfunction family, my parents have a lot of expectation. I like/love him so much I dated him for about a year with out my parents knowing, he doesn’t know that they don’t like him. He met my mother once and I told her he is my friend, but he is also my first love he is the first guy that I had sex with, I didn’t tell him that but he thinks that I wasn’t a virgin before I met him. About 2weeks ago I went to Africa and I met this other guy he lives in the USA but he was visiting, he really like me I start talking to him every night, my bf don’t know that, but my parents really like him, I like him because he is educated and he is much older then me, and he is also African but I don’t love him. The thing is he is coming to the state I am for Christmas my father invited him, I am so scared because my bf also have plans for our first Christmas together, but know this other guy is coming, I love my bf and I wish he had all that I don’t know what I am doing I need help what should I do confuse so much???
2006-10-11 04:32:44 · 11 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you need to start coming clean with everyone involved. You should tell your boyfriend that your parents do not like him and they are trying to set you up with someone else. This may make him angry and hurt but honesty is always the best policy in a relationship. You also need to tell your parents that you are sorry that they do not agree with who you are dating but you are in love and that is beyond your control. If you do not love this other guy then I would not even consider it...just because he is older and wiser does not mean he will make you happy like your current boyfriend does. Good Luck!
2006-10-11 04:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. If you really love your boyfriend who you had sex with, then you should tell your parents about it. Tell them how much you love him and you don't care about his past but the future with him. You tell your parents how much good your boyfriend is. And you don't love that guy. Maybe your parents might change their minds. And you should tell your boyfriend too what you did when you were in US, tell him that you met someone and he likes you but you don't. No secret between you two...because you don't want your guy found out himself that there's another guy also coming for Chirstman.
2006-10-11 11:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by Wanlaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to your boyfiend about that situation... And you have to come to terms with how you feel for the African guy because if he thinks that you like him then he'll make a move because he knows that your parents like him... But if you really do love your boyfriend then you shouldn't really care what your parents say because it's you and him not you, him, your parents.
2006-10-11 11:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Foxxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot have your cake and eat it too.
You need to tell your parents that he is your bf. Now he has no GED yet the two of you are working together.
If it is a money thing then go with the other guy. If you are looking for real love, stay with the one you have now.
2006-10-11 11:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I would let this other guy that your parents like know that you have a boyfriend and then I would let your boyfriend know that if he doesnt buckle down and get an education he will loose you. I would date the other guy for a little while. love doesnr come as soon as you meet some one. then if it doesnt work out you can tell your parents at least you tride.
2006-10-11 11:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by tamara s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if an educated man appeals to you you shoudl go for that. rememember if you are educated, you should be with someone who is also educated cause years later, you may not be compatible and it could be a problem. maybe you should give this new guy a chance..get to know him see how he treats you.
what do you want? do u want a uneducated man for a husband? it all depends...
2006-10-11 12:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first you need to stop and think about your future with this guy if you stay with him, i mean your parents don't like him and he sounds like he can't offer you much of a future and about this other guy he sounds good but if you don't love him now why waist your time...... maybe you need to be alone for a while and put your thoughts straight!!
2006-10-11 11:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by bgbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didnt u already ask this question???? i would have answered it but i dont answer big long questions like this it takes to long to read them
2006-10-11 11:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by lolli_pop69_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents are racist pigs.
2006-10-11 11:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all you have to be honest with yourself
2006-10-11 11:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by mzvirgo19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋