A couple who threw in a very expensive and huge engagement party past weekend were showered with Gift Cards and Money. Mr.Wonderful, took all the CASH / MONEY for himself. The expenses for the party was all his money.
My questions is should he share this CASH with his future wife ?
Or is this a sign of the future finanical control and domination ?
2006-10-11 04:13:49 · 15 answers · asked by US 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He also complained of excessive spending for the engagement party. It was all his planning. They do not have a joint bank account YET to share the wealth.
2006-10-11 04:19:14 · update #1
That would depend on what he is doing with the money.
Perhasp he is just looking to get his investment back and then split the rest (ok wishful thinking)
2006-10-11 04:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr.Wonderful should take the correct amount of money that he spent on the engagement party. Then the rest should go into a joint account for household expenses or anything wedding related or bills that they have accumulated together.
2006-10-11 13:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is more of a moral dilemma than a question of etiquette since etiquette states that an engagement party isn't a gift giving event and the party is never hosted by the couple. This couple should really be communicating their feelings to one another BEFORE the big day. Sounds like an issue.
2006-10-11 12:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That speaks volumes to me for how controlling he will be in the future with their finances. I would not be surprised if they had seperate bank accounts after they were married and everything was "mine" or "yours." And that is not a marriage. Money should be shared.
They should have put the money in to a joint bank account to pay for wedding expenses or to spend on something together.
2006-10-11 11:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what the wife wants. If the two of them agreed that the cash from the party will be put into his account to replenish it from the costs of the engagement party, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. This especially makes sense if he financed the party himself.
2006-10-11 12:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a decision that only the two of them can make.
Many couples keep separate bank accounts. Many keep joint bank accounts.
It's entirely up to them.
BTW, how do you know that he doesn't intend to use all of the cash to shower gifts upon his bride?
I think you're getting into someone else's business, and it can be a dangerous path.
2006-10-11 15:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should get a joint bank account today.
My husband and I still have a CD from our engagement party earning interest. We will use it for a rainy day.
2006-10-11 11:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an omen for the future--what he does now is an indication of who he is and what he will do later. He sounds very controlling with a sense of entitlement, which will possibly lead to problems with his mate. Good luck with this guy.
2006-10-11 11:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that money should be shared by the couple even though the guy's money is used for teh party... maybe it's a sign of future financial control...but i can't really say... cause id ont even know that guy well. ey its the'r own lives , their own money.. so let them be in control...
2006-10-11 11:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is wrong. Granted he paid for the event. But the wedding is theirs. Now unless he took the money to pay for things for the wedding, that is fine. But, is it really any of your business what happens to the money?
2006-10-11 11:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋