I hate that i have a falsey boob where once i had an ok pair...i have really low body image now and i dont think anyone will ever find that attractive again.
I am 35 years old and this is so not fair....what people will ever see past the lost boob if we are having sex?
Also chemo made me gain some weight so i turned into a fat one boobed woman....
2006-10-11 04:11:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
my dear...you weren't attractive just for your boobs! Think of yourself as a survivor - you're still alive! You can go on to have a normal life. My best friend lost BOTH and a huge chunk of chest meat as well, no reconstruction possible. She then got married to a guy I wish I could have caught he's so handsome! They met after the surgery and she told him upfront, like 2nd or 3rd date; he said whoa! at the time, called her later that evening and said he was more shocked at her honesty than at her story! (They got married about six months later, still married 5 years and going)
A famous woman whose name I've lost due to a blonde moment, once said, 'If I say "Why me" when something bad happens, don't I also have to say it when something good happens?" It was someone famous who'd had a rough time - a current celeb...dang why can't I remember that? Well, I'm not trying to be patronizing, hope it didn't sound like that, but you're really going to be ok!
2006-10-11 04:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even though I have never met you and may never meet you, I feel that you need to know that you are and always will be a beautifull woman. Not only are you beautifull, but you are strong and you are an inspiration to a number of women. You are a survivor and you should be thankful for that. So what if your breast aren't the way they once were. You could have been taken away with that breast, but you fought to survive. I can only pray that if I am ever faced with what you've gone through that I will have your strenght.
If you are with a man and he can't see you past your breast, then sweetie you aren't with the right man. The right man will see your body and see the body of a champion, a fighter, and a winner! You made it and your beauty begins from within. Work on you from the inside out and then see how beautiful you feel. I'm praying for you!:)
2006-10-11 16:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by wilsonhutchison04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a mastectomy at the age of 34. I never felt unattractive simply because I had one breast missing. I was just thankful to be alive! However, I can understand why you feel this way. Attractiveness radiates from the inside out. Concentrate on your positive CHARACTER qualities. Also, if you have insurance, I believe the insurance companies are now required to cover breast cancer reconstruction (check with your insurance company to make sure). I had reconstruction done several years ago in order to help eliminate the back pain I was experiencing from being "uneven." You may want to consider this is you are having a difficult time dealing with the loss of your breast, especially since you are still so young.
2006-10-12 00:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by The_Answer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got an implant. I waited 3 years. I just got tired of my bra sliding up and down. The new one is a little higher and a little bigger. I know how you feel. At first I thought I looked a little like a alien. No hair, no boob it does take some getting used to. I used to make a lot of jokes about it. Humor gets you through. I kept telling people I was going to write a book and call it "The young and the Breast less" I try to eat healthy now...lots of fruit and veggies...walk everyday. You will soon be back to being fabulous.
2006-10-11 15:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by hello 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does seem so unfair. Why do things like this happen!!!! Anyway, you can always lose the weight. Thank the LORD that your alive and breathing. If you choose to do so a plastic surgeon can make your other boob. Try not to think of what a man will think with or without your boob. I know easy for me to say. Time will heal your physical and mental wounds. I read the first comment that someone made to you and that was totally rude and not acceptable. Best of luck to you..... hugs.
2006-10-11 11:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Darcee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a two year survivor and am now lopsided, even more so than the average woman but my outlook isn't based on having full natural breasts that don't sag. I wake up each morning with the joy knowing that I can still get up, give my sons and husbands hugs and go back to work each day.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if all the beholder can think about is boobs than he/she needs to get their head examined.
2006-10-11 20:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are right....this is not fair. Of course you have a low body image...it would be the same even if you did not loose your breast, it is part of the mental process after the surgery. It sounds like yours is even worse due to reality. I urge you to go to a breast cancer support group because there will be a lot of issues. Due to your age consider the reconstructive surgery, start to exercise and put yourself on a diet that you can live with. Do not define yourself by your dress size. You are alive for a reason and set out to make it work. Good luck...you are in my thoughts and prayers.
2006-10-11 11:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by jodie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are attractive now. If someone can't look past a mastectomy, then they don't love you for who you are...someone should look at you for "YOU" not for your breasts. Beauty is within you, believe in yourself. The problem is society has made it where you start focusing on how people think about you, and it is sad. Get some exercise, it can help build up energy, and help your self esteem. Good luck! and try to keep smiling.
2006-10-11 11:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by curious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you have to become attractive, it has to start on the inside first, I've heard that if you have had Radiation you get a nice healthy glow .......in the dark. If you yourself embrace the fat woman with one boob, others will. Become the cancer survivor, you can lose the weight and get the boob fixed.
2006-10-11 11:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by usamedic420 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did they remove your smile when they did the masectomy?
Course not! I can tell from your "fat one boobed woman" comment that you still have a sense of humour in spite of it all and if you're still smiling, you're still attractive.
Honestly? I'd go out with you just for your sense of humour. I feel a bit inspired, actually, people like you make the world a braver and better place.
2006-10-11 11:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by nev 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋