I know he's the one, but...?

Question

he cheated on me but told me it was a mistake, something he had not ever thought he could do. I love him more than i've ever loved anyone else and feel not being with him would deny both of us to experience the love we have for each other. I do however feel that he has misused the fundamental bases of our relationship. I want to be with him and for give him but it's proving to be a steeper hill than I thought. How do I get over the feeling of betrayal?

Answer 1

You will never get over it!
Once a cheat always a cheat!
Yes, you will love again...MORE! Hopefully to somebody worthy of your love. Not some insecure jerk who has to sleep with somebody else to feel better about himself. Get yourself tested and move on! I can tell from your email you have a kind heart!

Answer 2

This is a tough one....you'll have to really talk this over with him to see where his head was at and what his motive was for the cheating. Some people who cheat really do just get caught up in a weak moment and that'w when they say, "it just happened." They are not out to hurt YOU specifically, they are fulfilling a need that they had at the time and did not have enough willpower to control. How long have you been with this guy? Do you trust him enough to believe that what happened was a mistake that will never happen again? What drove him to cheat? I think you should evaluate the strenght of your relationship upt til the point that he cheated and figure out for yourself if the relationship is worth saving over this incident. If you feel that the two of you can move past this with time and communication, then by all means, please try to forgive him, especially since you really love him. The only way to get over the feeling of betrayal is to discuss your feelings of hurt with him and really let him know how deeply he has hurt you. If he really values the relationship, then he will do everything he can to prove that he will never do something like this again.

Answer 3

Time. He has to be very willing to deal with whatever consequence come from the trust he betrayed. If he can put up with being check up on and such, you're fears will eventually lay to rest. There is no quick way to get over a betrayal. Don't hold back on anything that is still bothering you about the affair. But, talk to him if you can as opposed to yelling. The more things you hold inside, the longer they'll fester and you'll never be able to work it out. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Here is not the place to ask questions like that.if you love him and he loves you, try to work on it.Starting with the reason why ,how,what he did wrong, and what you did wrong. If you know he has a good heart,It probably happened because of his insecurity, baggage he had, maybe a better understanding with someone that got the best of him.We're human beings that think about ourselves in situations like this.NOT saying it's impossible but We all make mistakes when we're sidetracked. We forget the good things that we have and look for more. Talk to him. You know him best not the ppl on the internet. I could only give you the general

Answer 5

Cheating early in a relationship says something rather poor. Your feeling is only momentary and when you get rid of him you would have done the right thing. It may hurt for a while but soon you will understand that your action was correct. If you still want to go ahead with this relationship, you will learn the hard way. Either ways its your choice. Good luck.

Answer 6

If the feeling of betrayal is the only part you have you must know that the act itself was meaningless.Men are so simple they never realize they have all they need right in front of them,its no need for the so called love test all you need is communication and it will all be fine.The betrayal part will be hard because you feel somewhere deep inside it was your fault,once you dismiss that thought you will realize you can once again trust him and move on but you must first assure yourself then you can move forward.

Answer 7

I ve experienced the same and if you love him do forgive him, how do you get rid of the feeling of betrayal well it`s not easy my advice wont help but only your mind can help you.. If it`s true you love him you`ll get over it..it won`t just happen over night,just give it some time and you`ll start to see things clearly..
Try to regain the trust between you guys... and most importantly communicate..
And one big peace of advice don`t cheat on him too for revenge, you`ll regret it..
I wish you all the best

Answer 8

The only way to get over this is well, not care anymore which I know you won't do. But you can't have a good relationship without trust and if you don't trust him then I'm sorry to say that it won't work out. If you stay with him well you will constantly be worried that he is going to cheat on you again.

Answer 9

You don't, you can always forgive but, Who forgets? No one and its always in your mind, It's really up to you. Can you go on with the relationship and put it behind you and move forward? It's mind over mater, if you can put it behind you and not throw it in his face because y'all are fighting then you will get over it. Otherwise if you keep bringing it up forget about him and move on. So just try to forget for the day (one day at a time) then maybe the memory will be so small you'll hardly think about it at all.

Answer 10

The only mistake was that you found out he cheated, otherwise he would have continued to do it behind your back and possibly put you in danger. If he loves you he would not purposely try to hurt you. My motto is "Once a dog, always a dog". Send this one back to the pound and adopt another one!!!