He has been telling how to dress,act,and what he expect from me. I love him to death but it is getting really annoying. He's acting like a father. Any suggestions on what to do?
2006-10-11 03:57:07 · 17 answers · asked by aj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Use discernment and be wise.try to find out if he has an issue of insecurity and see if you could let him know by your actions that he has a secure relationship with you.Has there been anything that really made a connection emotionally between you two other than sex,like goals for the future and are working together towards them,sometimes monotony makes some partners feel left behind and this may cause insecure behaviors,especially in males,only you can discern these things and know how to build on them,good luck.
2006-10-11 04:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend Is starting too become really controlling and If you are smart you will get out of the relationship NOW. Any guy that starts telling you how too dress,act, and etc..is one that wants too have control over you and eventually this can lead too a very abusive relationship and you don't want or need that. "Love" is not in any way, shape, or form..Controlling!! always remember that !!
2006-10-11 11:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, and how old is he...if you don't mind me asking? My suggestion to you is don't allow anyone to treat you that way. You are your own person and if he wants to control anyones dress code then let it be his own. And for telling you how to act, well it seems to me that the only one in this relationship who needs to learn how to act.....is him. Men who want to control their women will start out with things like what your going through, and if you allow it to take place then it will only get worse from there on. Don't let a guy take away from who you are. Stand up for yourself girl..be strong. And remember one thing, it is easier to stand tall and walk away remaining a strong woman than it is to be knocked down, torn apart and then either be faced with getting up off the ground and rebuilding yourself or just staying vulnerable to the abuse. I don't know either one of you on a personal level, however when I hear stuff like this I take it personal.......but I'm proud to say that I was one of the strong ones :)
2006-10-11 11:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by *JEWELZ* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf does the same thing. He is even at the point where when he thinks it is time for me to go to bed he'll say it's my bedtime. Oh hell no! I am 27 years old and i'll be darned if i'm gonna sit around and let him act as if he was my father!
2006-10-11 11:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by llldeliciously_kissablelll 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how long have you been in this relationship?
if its for onths now then talk to him and give him your rules like " you ontrol what you wear and what you do" and yeah you love him but he shouldnt do that.
my bf wanted to do that with me but i didnt let him and yes it doesn lead to misunderstanding and fights but atleast he wont control you and it shows him that you are a strong person who belives in herself!
if its an early relationship like a month or two break up and move on...
else
hsorry to say this but:
maybe he is saying that cause maybe you do wear inappropraite clothes that lets other guys masturb*** on you... so respect yourself first find whats wrong with you then see if you are the wrong one or if he is the one who is helping you...
2006-10-11 11:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by myheartsuzan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get into a controlling relationship it usually turns abusive you need to tell him you have a father and that he can't tell you what to wear and how to act because that is going to change you into something your not and if he can't deal with that he can go
2006-10-11 11:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take that crap. You tell him what you are going to wear and how you are going to act. Sounds like mental abuse which could lead to physical abuse. If he keeps it up drop him like a hot potato. It is not worth it. Back away from him.
2006-10-11 11:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by zippy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start telling him how to act and dress hee hee. Turn the table around and see what he thinks. Then when he says something to you about it like I"m sure he will say "Gee that's how I feel when you do this to me " ;o) good luck to you.
2006-10-11 11:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i've been having the same problem lately and i feel the same way i've tried just doing what I want and that just makes him do things to annoy me but maybe your boyfriend is different try telling him how you feel maybe he's not hard-headed like mine:)
2006-10-11 11:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are your own person & if he doesn't accept that then he has some issues...i'd would be cautious with a man with that behavior...cause it sounds like he could get domestically violent in my opinion anyways by already expecting all that....you may love him...but you may have to leave him if it doesn't change ya know
2006-10-11 11:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by yahooligan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋