Advice for an ugly girl?

Question

hi everyone! i'm 25, single, and i never had a boyfriend before, ever! I am not good looking, i will say slightly below average, i'm slightly overweight, say about 110%.. just a little more then average. =)

I feel really lonely, my friends are all getting married, and i kept on waiting, i wish someone will love me like everyone else. I want to be attatch but no guys like me. I don't know what is wrong with me, i really have no clue. I feel so lost and depressed now but i try my best not to show it.

I consider myself a friendly person, i do have guy friends but they are just not interested in me romantically.

Someone please tell me what is wrong with me. I don't wish to end up single, and alone.

:'(

Answer 1

Sweetheart... you are only 25.... and there is no such thing as an ugly person...

Please speak to your doctor and tell him how you feel...

You don't need advice from strangers like us on the internet....

Good luck

Answer 2

Believe it or not, you are not alone. There are people all over this planet that feel lonely, unloved, and depressed. This does not, however, afflict only people with "below average" looks (which is defined ONLY by the standards of the society in which you live. Who's to say what's beautiful and what's ugly?). Loneliness is no respector of persons. The fact that you are posting this question says to me that there is an issue on the inside of you, not on the outside. Here's my advice. Find something that you are absolutely passionate about - singing, writing, cooking, animals, whatever - and pursue that with your whole heart. Don't even worry about the opposite sex. Let yourself become excellent at whatever that passion is. You will build crazy amounts of self confidence, and the more confidence you have the more you will love yourself. That's just the beginning. More than likely, as you go about your daily business and pursuing whatever passion you decide, you will meet someone along the way is just enamored with you - you will be, of course, a confident, motivated woman - which is oh-so-much more attractive than anything physical. Trust me. He'll love you no matter what you do or don't look like. Is any of this a gaurantee? Well, nothing is, unfortunately. But what IS matter-of-fact, however, is that you need some self-confidence. There is nothing in the world more attractive than that... and I have a hunch that once the inside is taken care of, the outside will begin to match how great you feel.

Answer 3

It doesn't have anything to do with your looks hun. Don't you notice the severe amount of ugly people walking around with a significant other. And I mean really ugly. Not just a little over weight. People are attracted to your attitude. I had cancer when I was four, the right side of my face is slightly different than the left. My bone structure is off and my right eye is a little deformed, looks like I've got a major black eye and it's always bright red cuz I don't have tear ducts. And although I've had my share of jerks over the years for the most part if I don't care they don't care. The key is to not care. That's it. Just don't care what people think. If someone is going to have a problem with the way that you look then they are not worth knowing in the first place. A guy is going to be attracted to your attitude. If you are depressed and you feel that you aren't good enough to attract anyone then you won't. You can't wait either. You have to take control of your life and make something of it for yourself. You can't spend the rest of your life waiting on someone else because then you will be waiting forever. It's so much easier said than done isn't it? But you have got to overcome some things if you don't wish to spend a life alone. Have you tried online dating? Not to decieve people or anything. But then you can get to know someone without the worries of what they might think of you physically. Let someone get to know the real you first. This is more for you than them. You might feel more comfortable. I promise you that guys are not put off by your looks, they are put off my your lack of confidence. Work on that and you will see that it works. Maybe not right away but it will.

Answer 4

First off, at 25 everyone notices that all of there friends are getting married, you aren't alone. In a few years everyone will have babies. But later down the road people will get divorced. My point is dont rush to find someone. Marraige is meant to last, be patient that way you can be sure that you have the real deal. You are still young and have no reason to worry about that.

As far as feeling attractive; first you have to be attractive to yourself. Set aside some alone time, explore what your interests are and try to renew yourself. Be more confident, confidence is an attractive quality to have. Adopt a healthy lifestyle. Im not talking major changes right away. But find something to improve about you that you think will help. Then get excited!

And above all, stay positive. Negative people are not sexy by any means!

I hope this helped and good luck!

Answer 5

Men are very attracted to confidence. If you don't feel good about yourself, it's hard to find people who will. If you are out looking for a relationship, it will be very hard to find as desparation is very unattractive. You need to do something for youself that makes you feel good about being you. Can you lose some weight? Can you take a friend shopping to help you pick out clothes that flatter you? Can you buy a little make up? You sound like a good person who just needs a self esteem boost. When you feel beautiful on the outside, you can feel beautiful inside. It's a major boost to your esteem, and that confidence is what will attract guys.

I would like to tell you people should love you for who you are, but that's not what attracts them initially. From one happily married ugly girl to you, best of luck.

Answer 6

~~~The right guy hasnt come along yet, when he does, he will accept you for the person that you are, you will look beautiful to him.

Sometimes a little change will cause people to look at us differently.~ Work on your self esteem, loose a little weight, (do it for YOU) buy yourself a new outfit, dress in layers, flattering clothing for the fuller figure, try a new hair style, a little make-up that will enhance your eyes, and that new shirt you happen to be wearing. Just have fun with it.

There really are guys out there who arent shallow, in the mean time, feel good about yourself!~~~

Answer 7

It is not always a looks thing you know, personality is just as important. Lets face it who wants to have a relationship with a person who has no personality, is just mean, selfish or miserable all the time.
Firstly, get fit a be happy with yourself and then start socialising it will all come together if you get it right and keep meeting people. Go on a singles holiday too.

Answer 8

before you can be happy with anyone else, you have to be happy with yourself.

So if you think there is something wrong with you then fix it! Chances are you are just a little bit gulm b/c you don't look like a supermodel. That is easily fixed. Get to the gym and drop a couple of pounds. Have your makeup done at a department store and get a nice haircut and color. Invest in yourself and be happy with who you are. Once you are happy a smile will appear and you will seem more confident and approachable by others - including men.

Answer 9

1st of all you need to build up your confidence more. Just because your big doesn't mean you can't get a man. Haven't you seen that commercial Big and Beautiful and what about Monique who plays on the Parkers on TV. Maybe you should watch her show and she can give you some in-site on how to carry yourself as a big woman BUT BEAUTIFUL. It's all about how you feel about yourself. When you walk you should hold your head up, stick your breast out and swagger those hips and legs girl. Work it like you mean it! It's all in your mind! Say to yourself "I'm not going to be depressed" "I am not fat!" "I am the bomb, and everyone else is a firecracker!" I love that one! It's my favorite! Start dressing with swanky dresses, heels, make-up (not too much) and don't forget the walk. SWAGGER! Like the world is yours! Let me know how it goes in a week! Just click on my name Curlycute and we'll do this together!

Answer 10

Get a makeover and get your guy friends to help. Being overweight has nothing to do with looks. I dont know how you are ugly but get braces, get acne cream, get your hair done. There are so many ways of changing your appearance. You could even go to any make up counter and ask for advice. They are very helpful. Then go to match.com or plentyoffish.com. Im pretty good looking and found my true love there. Good Luck1

Answer 11

Well you cant act lonely and depressed that wont make them come. You need to have better self esteem before people will start to notice you. Do you go out at all? Buy some new clothes and hit the club!