Today I am expereince feelings of sadness about some things that have occured in the past. When my husband and I wanted to get married we were giving a very hard time and certain people always shoved finances in our faces, saying you need jobs more than once. I never really had a romantic courtship with my husband there were a lot of obstacles and it was never "just the two of us" until we were married, as a result over the years I have become very resentful.
I recently gave all my resentment over to the Lord and my bitterness as well and I am praying to God to fill me with his joy and peace.
My realtive just got married and because they have money no one got on thier case about everything they have all new furniture a beatiful home and prosperity,
My husband and I are married almost 13 years we are staying with family and have very little to our name materially at this point we are relocating.
These things bother me and I want godly advice how to overcome and go forward.
2006-10-11 03:48:51 · 18 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just want to be able to go forward for the Lord.
I just want to be able to overcome and have victory.
2006-10-11 03:50:05 · update #1
What is it that bothers you? That people in your family value financial stability? That you and your husband aren't treated as nicely as other people by some in the family? That you don't have much? Most couples don't have it be 'just the two' of them until they're married, so I don't understand what you're saying here.
You are staying with family, so some people are loving to you, no? Are you struggling with jealousy?
Outward appearances, even those dressed up with fancy houses and clothes, tell you nothing about the interior life of the people dressed up so.
You must become happy with who you are, and you will not feel these things so strongly.
Finally, why would they hassle people who are financially set to marry? What would be the point? Families are supposed to guide you, through gentle words or scolding admonitions, to keep you on track.
Jesus said - why are you troubled about the splinter in your neighbor's eye - why not tend to the love in your own?
Rather than giving your resentment 'over to the lord' why not look at whether you are covering up immature actions, attitudes, and choices with the immature emotion of resentment? I think it's possible you've wasted a lot of time and mental energy on other people's attitudes rather than spending it on enjoying your life and becoming your best self.
Your resentments and attitudes will change when your ACTIONS and THOUGHTS change.
2006-10-11 03:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Here's A Scripture that comforts me all the time....
"But Seek ye first the kingdom of God and its "righteousness" and the things you need shall be added unto to you"....
Overcoming does not necessarily = prosperity, a beautiful home, or all new furniture.... But it simply means being content with what the Lord has provided, with gratitude and thanksgiving...
If you are Dirt poor...people will criticize you..
If you are Filthy Rich..people will criticize you...
My Advice is to keep doing what u doing by giving all your resentment to the Lord he knows how to handle it better than you do.... and remember this..." All things work together for the good of those who love God and are the called according to his purpose".... Romans 8:28
2006-10-11 04:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God says you're fabulously rich. You have the riches of the glory of Jesus Christ in your life. People may not have the slightest clue of the wealth you posses but it still is a fact for you. I think Paul had realized that when he said ... "Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, [therewith] to be content. (Philippians 4:11)
For him, contentment is not having all that you want. True contentment is wanting only what you have. This is what Paul had learned. Realize how rich you really are in Christ
This is why the Spirit says that "...godliness with contentment is great gain [the exact Greek word is "enrichment"]” (1 Timothy 6:6).
And God [is] able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency [the original Greek word is "contentment"] in all [things], may abound to every good work (2 Cor 9:8)
God bless you
2006-10-11 04:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dimitris-Greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money isn't the root of all happiness, however you do need jobs in the times we are living in in order to make it on your own. Nothing says you have to live in a fancy house and drive a fancy car. Many wealthy people say that God' has favored them, and this isn't the case at all. Their effort and constant drive to make money is what got them the big house and the fancy car, not God. God blesses us with knowledge and is up to us to want that knowledge by studying his word and by doing this we draw close to him. Also, you need a plan and time. Work, save enough money to maybe rent an apartment and then save money to buy a house if that is what you want. Everything takes time and good things comes to those who wait.
2006-10-11 03:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God never promised wealth in this world, only in the world to come. Unfortunately some denominations teach that God wants to give you a big house and lots of money. It is not true. Do you live in the USA? If so, you shouyld be able to find work that will sustain you. If you have been in the pits for 13 years, sounds like something is very wrong. Have you and your husband ever been to counseling? Try to find a "LARGE" Baptist, Presbyterian, or maybe Methodist church and go for financial and spiritual counseling. The very large churches usually have trained staff that deal with this kind of problems every day. You and your husband may have problems that you can not see. Maybe Satan keeps you both blinded to what you need to do. Try seeking help in a church like I mentioned above.
2006-10-11 04:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Desperado 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
God provides our needs. As long as your needs are met, then you should look to the Lord for your purpose, or what He wants you to do. The Lord does not give all wealth, the riches in Heaven are nothing that this world has ever seen. Steadfast prayer will get you where God wants you, not necessarily where YOU think you need to be.
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2006-10-11 04:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by green93lx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm so over joyed to hear that you are turning it over to the Lord,He is the only one that can help you to change;plus He can do for you what no body else can.the word of God tells us that if we truly believe in Him and turn our lives around and try honestly to live the way Jesus taught then the windows of heaven will open and pour you out a blessing that you will not believe.over the years i have find this to be very true i seen first hand peoples life change from having very little to owning homes,having cars jewels and their hearts desires.i can tell you opening and honestly since i let God and Jesus into my life i have a Peace that evev i don't understand and i have been so bless! this that others thought impossible have happened to me.the only person stoping your blessings are you! you must truly let go of all fleshly thing like anger,hate, envy,jealousy ,lust all these things keep you from knowing the fullness of Gods love for you and you block your own blessings. God bless; i will join with you in pray that God delivers you from these feelings.He did it for me He'll do it for you He has no respect of peoples races it does not play favorites what He'll do for one He'll do for all who come to Him
2006-10-11 04:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 12:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that God loves them too. Just like He forgives you for your faults, we are to forgive those that give us grief. The happiness between you and your husband should outweight both the thoughts and feelings or others and your lack of material things. For all that you lack, you have the love, grace and forgiveness of God, not to mention eternal life, what more could you want?
2006-10-11 04:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by luvwinz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jesus tells us again and again that our lives are much more important than our belongings. In fact, He urged several questioners to give up all their belongings in order to follow Him. He did this in order for these folks to focus their attention on Him, rather than on their material possessions and status.
I suggest you focus strongly on Jesus' teachings regarding this subject. Matthew 19:16-22, Matthew 6:24-34 and Luke 12:22-34 are good starting points.
I hope this helps. Peace.
2006-10-11 03:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋