well my boyfriend has just got a new job, where he hasn't got no time for me. and when i do see him, which is rarely, he is so miserable and very disrespectful towrds me now. he has changed from the sweet, loving and caring guy i started going out with, to a vile, 2 faced pig....but I LOVE HIM lol. my feelings cannot change so easily, like his. it is those times when i dislike him, that i talk to this other guy, and we have got so close, because he understands me. this is the guy i keep dreaming of... should i leave my boyfriend of 2 years because of the way he is acting now? or should i stay with him, and hope that he goes back to the person he once was ?
2006-10-11 03:46:03 · 15 answers · asked by Danielle L 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
PLEASE READ!
This shitty part about this web page is....
1.) you get idiots who just want to cause drama,
2.) you get answers from people who have never been in committed relationships, and
3.) you get kids who aren't even old enough to vote!
So listen close if you want some insight. My name is Nicole, I've been married for 7 yrs and have 3 kids. I got married right out of high school before my 18th birthday. It sound like i may be close to your age. Anyway before I got married to my husband, I knew him for 2 1/2 yrs. My husband and I have seen many bad time, and we have also seen really good times too. I guess when your faced with difficult decision the best thing you could do is walk away for a little while until the anger subsides. When you make a decision while your even slightly mad it never seem to be the best decision.
For your dilemma, you must take into consideration his possible reasoning for being a pig to you. Answer these questions for yourself. Is he under more stress at his new job? Is he expected to do more at his new job? Is he expected to learn more/new stuff for his job? S3X? lol I hate to say it but guys get cranky when they stop getting all the attention they are use to? All these things are definite stress factors that would make anyone grouchy.
I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I would do. I would show up at his new job and take him out for lunch. I would ask him things about work to see if I could gain insight into his work environment. If he said everything was great then I would start asking questions about us and our relationship. If he started putting off negative vibes then I would probably warn him that if things don't change and soon then I was done! I would tell him that I was sick of being treated like crap and that I know I deserve better. If he begs you to stay then you know he still loves you, however if he acts uninterested then break it off so your free to fool around with whoever is fair game! Hopefully this bit of info help you and if not, then I'm sorry for putting my 2 cents in.
Good luck and I hope everything works out just the way you want it too.
~~~NICK~~~
2006-10-11 04:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by number1bi7ch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what you want and you're just looking for someone to say it's ok.
People don't get rude overnight because of a new job. Obviously, other things have happened between you and your boyfriend to have it be where it's at now. I think if you truly cared about him and wanted to persue life with him you wuold have asked "how do I make my bf happy again?" or something close to it.
It sounds as though that relationship should have ended awhile ago.
However, do NOT end it for the new guy. You have to do what's right for you... not jump from one relationship to another. If you do leave, give yourself sometime to heal, figure out what you REALLY want, and if that guy is still around being the 'good' guy he is, then consider dating him.
Best of luck!
2006-10-11 04:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best to pack up and leave!!! People do change but sounds like to me it's not just the JOB! Have to tried to Talk to him about this problem??? Before you jump ship you need to talk maybe something else besides the JOB is on his Mind!!! Talk and if their is something to Understand Why then stay if that's what you want!!! But try to find out Why you never know what you could be missing with Him.
Waho
2006-10-11 04:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be negative, but it sounds like your boyfriend is all about HIM and not you! Believe it...two years is NOTHING compared to marrying him and suffering through twenty-plus years catering to HIS needs, while he ignores yours (which he will)...next thing you know, you're 45 and have no life!
A new job is NO excuse for him to treat you so disrespectfully. And if he's "upwardly mobile", what do you think he'll be like when he gets a promotion and travel and a new, cute secretary??? Men are pigs, honey!
IMO: get out NOW, before the leech sucks you down! Your love is admirable, but HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM! You deserve better.
2006-10-11 03:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the vile, two-faced pig & give the other guy a chance, then when he becomes a pig, find a new guy. Some girls kiss frogs that become princes, the rest kiss princes that turn into pigs! You deserve better.
Stop casting pearls before swine! Tee hee
Good luck!
2006-10-11 03:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to him before you do anything. Let him know how you feel and ask him why he changed. Let him know that you will not continue in a relationship with him if this continues. Then decide if you should leave him based on his answers.
2006-10-11 03:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that he's changed towards you because his feelings have changed towards you. By staying in the relationship you're kicking a dead horse, basically. Time to move on.
2006-10-11 04:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by apeystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, he is so busy with his job...you should give him time and support him. But if one day, you can't stand his new behaviors then you talk to him. 2 Years is a long time, I think you better try to understand him first.
2006-10-11 03:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Wanlaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to see that you aren't looking for answers whether or not to leave your current boyfriend, you're actually looking for reassurance to be with this "other guy." Your mind is already made up. You're just looking for people to tell you to leave him, because you feel guilty about something for whatever reason. Maybe you should tell us about that, and not about this other guy.
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