im in love with a guy nearly 5 yrs..now we planned to have sex for the first time.Is it wrong????????????
2006-10-11 03:45:29 · 18 answers · asked by muksar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only wrong thing is that you have waited so long!!
Be prepared for the fact that the first time you have sex can often be painful, but thankfully won't last very long.
After you have done it a few times, and you both know what you want and what each other wants, then it will be much more enjoyable!
If you don't want to get pregnant, then make sure you are either on the pill, or he wears a condom.
The only people who think that it is wrong tend to be people that don't have a good sex life themselves.
2006-10-11 03:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's obvious that he loves you if he respected you enough to wait for 5 years, and that chances are, he's not just in it for sex. At the same time, consider how it would change your relationship, and if things are good now, will having sex make it better, or change things? Why all of a sudden after 5 years of going without do you want to have sex? think about it.
2006-10-11 03:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I believe in sex after marriage...yeah, sorry, I'm old fashioned, that's what I believe, get over it. I think it's so much more worth it when you wait after marriage. When you know you have found your true love. And I think it's a nice thought if the guy has never been with someone else either right?
If everybody sleeps around, it's not special anymore when you are married. Sex is for marriage, behind closed doors. That's my view.
2006-10-11 03:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan sex is usually not love. Love make things just happen. If he loves you he will keep waiting. Remember that you can't get it back once it is gone. And if you are going through with it use condoms or wait til you get on the pill.
2006-10-11 03:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by funoburgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only wrong if you're having sex for all the wrong reasons...like trying to fill an empty void in your life, revenge, peer pressure, "getting it over with," searching for love and commitment...but if you feel ready and you think you're ready as a couple, and you've discussed all the responsibilities...then no, it's not wrong at all!
2006-10-11 03:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you do not plan to lose your virginity. It just happens. Make sure you are ready at all costs.
Use protection though. Is it wrong? If you think it is then it means that you are not ready.
2006-10-11 03:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Planning sex reminds me of soccer moms fitting in a quickie before the kids get done with dance...just let it happen and if you are asking if it iwrong...it probably is!!
2006-10-11 03:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by *~Love is Dead~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you both willing adults? if so then whats the problem? but usually if you have to ask a question like that your not ready for that step. talk to him see what he thinks and good luck with your decision.
2006-10-11 03:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by hippie_chick69love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think its wrong. just make sure that you love him and its somethang that your not gonna regeret. make sure its somethang you both want. having sex is a big step in the next part of your relationship. just make sure you use protection.
2006-10-11 03:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends by what standards. If u r Christian wait for marriage
2006-10-11 05:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋