I started dating this guy about 2 months ago. It started out really hot and heavy emotionally...we opened up to one another almost immediately. He would send me the sweetest text messages 4 to 5 times a day, look at me with complete and total "love" in his eyes when we were together....etc. etc....but then it cooled off really quickly, and when I questioned it he became really defensive and said that he wasn't going to put up with me making him feel as if he did something wrong when he didn't. I can see his point, I guess...but he refuses to see mine. So ever since I brought the whole thing up, he's drifted further and further away....he runs hot and cold. Things will seem fine, and then he won't call which makes me feel like s..t! I know I deserve to be treated better than this, but he used to treat me so well and I guess I'm just clinging on to the hope that it will be that way again. But the logical side of my brain is telling me to just let him go. HELP!!!!
2006-10-11 03:34:12 · 14 answers · asked by magnolia3246 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he was just showing you a good side to win you over. Now that he's got you, he doesn't feel the need to keep it up. Do what you want. I wouldn't get my hopes up on him "changing" back into what he was. Just think, there's someone out there who wants to do those things for you- all the time- because he loves you! Go find him!
2006-10-11 03:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered this question yourself by saying you know you deserve better. Back off, leave him alone, he may come running back to you. You can't hound a man or they will run a mile. Let him decide what he wants. In the mean time go out and enjoy your life, don't wait around for him, I am not saying go and have another relationship, but remember you have a life as well, and there is no need to put your life on hold til he makes up his mind. You never know, you may have so much fun that if he does come crawling back to you, you can tell him where to stick it!!! Good luck, don't let him get you down, don't give him the chance to break your heart months down the line. He knows how you feel, so let him make his mind up. But leave him in peace to do it.
2006-10-11 03:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if your logical side of the brain is telling you something is wrong you might want to listen. Lets put this way when you go to a fast food service place is you see or smell something your brain is the one that give you that sense wheather to eat or not to in that precise moment you go with what your gut tell you. So follow your instant. If you said how you felt about something and he reacted that way do you think if there were something more serious that you had to tell him how would you expect him to react. Girl guy like to play games to get you to the level they want to then drop you flat on your face is a control thing dont let them get away with it. If you love this guy and if its worth fighting for approach him again tell him how you feel and if you get the same reaction then your answer is plain and clear you need to love yourself more so that you can realize how precious you are and you deserve to be love.
2006-10-11 03:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by aguamarina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could ask him if he's been dealing with something lately that he hasn't told you about. Just tell him you've been worried about him and that you're there for him if he wants to talk. If he insists that nothing is wrong and after awhile you believe this is the case than dump him. Move on. You do deserve to be treated better. But also remember in the future that most relationships go in phases and while that lovey dovey phase is the best it is a phase that cools off. But, maybe not to this degree.
2006-10-11 03:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he has no fear of what will happen if he treats you poorly because he knows you are still there. Stop calling him, don't make any effort to see him or talk to him...then he will feel the fear that you are gone and he will come try and find out what is wrong with you. Then you will be in the drivers seat and you can make the call... You can tell him that you do not deserve to be treated that way and that you are moving on... Make him come to you to hear that though... He will notice that you are no longer there, no longer calling and he will come looking...
2006-10-11 03:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're like me clinging to the past when we should be walking away. We can't make ourselves walk away though because we keep hoping things will go back to how they use to be at the begining and knowing if we do leave the pain from missing our guys will drive us crazy and make us miserable. Sometimes i find strength thinking i know i can leave and things will be fine but, in the end i still stay hoping something good will happen.
2006-10-11 03:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by llldeliciously_kissablelll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the relationship is over, and we're no longer blinded by love, our logic comes back. Listen to it and let him go. Chances are, things moved too quickly, and once he gave all he was willing to, then he gave up. Trust me, you don't want to be with him again, because the same thing will happen in the next 2 months.
2006-10-11 03:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess...it cooled off once you slept with him? If so, then just walk away bc he lost interest, the chase is over. If not, then maybe he just felt things were getting too serious too quickly. Either way...you just need to move on.
2006-10-11 04:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is over it was based only on a thunderbolt. Maybe he wasn t ready for a relationship or maybe you were not what he wanted. Since you clarify your point with him, i can say that it s basically over Sorry
2006-10-11 03:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by sam (joe thornton) pro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he was just playing with your feelings and that he never really loved you. I know it is hard. I suggest you find someone better than him. You deserve better.
2006-10-11 03:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋