married girls only pls!!...?

Question

we married 3 weeks ago
when I try to put my one inside.
She is crying and not allowing to continue

Still I did not break her hole
Is it normal.
normaly how many days will take to break

our marrige is proposal marrige
She did not know me before marrige.

From my side what are the things have to do to make it fast

Answer 1

So, you're telling me you've known her for 3 weeks?

Hon, you have the cart before the horse. Think about how normal relationships develop: You meet someone, get to know them, develop a friendship and then, when it is the right person intimacy happens.......Friendship is the core that binds long term relationships. Trust and respect are born there. The "in love" feeling will ebb and flow, but the friendship is the anchor.

You barely even know her Name.

Give yourselves time to get to know each other. Think of it as dating. Find your own space and stick to it. Let her have the bedroom. Treat her as you would a guest, respectfully. Let her get to know you. Women don't just sleep with every man they've met 3 weeks ago. She didn't.

Let a friendship develop. From this friendship comes trust and respect. Show her a man she can respect and be proud of. (Time to let the girlfriend go, my married friend.) Pay attention to when she smiles, or laughs. Note the things she is willing to do for you, like cook dinner, or put your clothes away.....compliment her when she does something that pleases you.

Ask her if she wants to look into birth control. If sex is scaring her, pregnancy must terrify her.

Help her to learn to trust you by making right decisions. Find out who you are as a husband. What do you want to share? A home, a tender relationship, children who are cherished because they are that part of you and your beloved.

Talk to her, and listen when she talks to you. Is she funny? Is she smart? What things does she do well? Find some common ground.

This woman is your wife, she is not your sex toy. Going fast is never the right route with women...(hello.....where have you been?) When the time is right and she feels that you are deserving of her precious heart, then slowly, things will progress and intimacy will bloom. Let her come to you. She will guide you and teach you how she is to be loved. Gently teach her what you would like when she pleasures you.....in the future.

Ask her every day if there is anything you can do for her. This is a good habit anyway, as she will pick up the habit, and it indicates that the partner is considered at some point every day. It's nice.

Share the things you do well with her. Show her the things she can admire in you. Talk about what your life will be like next year, in five years, when the children arrive. You have your whole lives and a wonderful world to share. Sex isn't going to be part of that right now. Let it go. Enjoy the gift she is to you as she is right now. Be her best friend. Everything else comes from there.

Answer 2

When you try to have sex with her try to make her feel good about herself. The better she feels about herself and the more comfortable she is with you the easier it will be. It will hurt some the first time and if she is not wet down there it will hurt her every time. There has to be some kind of lubercation between you and her for it to really work. The best way to do that is give her a little foreplay. Touch her, tell her she is beautiful, make her feel like a goddess. And don't tell her ever that she is doing anything wrong. Later in the marriage let her experiment with touching you. Let her see what makes you feel good. It is all about trust. The more she trusts you the better it will be for you both.

Answer 3

OK, get over the fast part, because that just isn't going to happen. If she's crying, and asking you to stop, and you keep going, that's generally called rape in the US, and it's certainly not the way to build a loving relationship with your wife. If she didn't know you prior to your marriage, then you really need to give her a chance to get to know you. If she's nervous, or anxious, she's going to be dry and tense "down there" and that will make intercourse very painful for her. I would forget about sex for awhile, work on courting your wife, getting to know her and letting her get to know you. When you are comfortable with each other enough to become intimate again, make sure you take it slow for her, lots of foreplay, and use plenty of lube. If, after all that, she's still experiencing painful intercourse, she should see a doctor, because that's not normal.
BTW, the hymen will break during the first penetration, so that's not what's causing her pain. I'd bet anything it's the fact that she's dry and tense, and that's because she's not comfortable with you yet.
Also, when you have children, think about what your parents have just put you and this woman through, and let your children find the person they want to spend the rest of their life with, and let them fall in love with that person, and then your children won't be dealing with this issue in their marriages.

Answer 4

How old is she?? is there any foreplay or just you trying to have sex with her?? Are you too big for her?? Is she scared?? have you sat down and talked to your wife about how she feels and try and make it comfortable for the both of you, instead of trying to make things fast for you... Shame on you!!! It is not just about you and wanting to get off!! You can not break a woman's whole!! She has to be wet and excited or it is going to be painful for her, and you sir will not get any for a while after that. So I would watch your P'S and Q'S when it comes to this subject with your wife!!! Good Luck and give her some tenderness, instead of wam bam Thank you Ma'am..

Answer 5

well she is most likely uptight about it, stressed out , nervous and scared. try to be romantic, maybe a nice dinner,sit around watch a movie, have a couple drinks to be more relax. if she is uptight about this it could take a long time. her whole body will be uptight. you need to make sure she is relax,and at ease with the situation. how about a nice bathe and a back rub.

Answer 6

you need to show love, compassion and kindness, how about gaining her trust before trying to do anything, you can't just expect someone to be intimate with you, you have to be caring and loving first. It can really hurt if you are rough and the woman is not ready, she needs to be aroused before you will find it any easier. I think you need to read up about foreplay and how to please a woman rather than just thinking about popping her cherry. Educate yourself man!!!!!!

Answer 7

Normally it breaks after putting it in. If it is hurting her every time you two have sex she should see a doctor because something might be wrong down there.

Answer 8

how desperate and pathetic are u?see,how these ppl are making fun of us INDIANS.they think we are desperate ppl.hey asshole im maried too for more than 6months now.i asked her opinion bout intercourse she said she is scared bout it.i gave her time to get over it and she will realise its nothing.i didnt marry her to get sex.i love her and everyting important to her is important to me too.and if u want to have sex go get a dog or cow to put ure stick in idiot.poor women,i feel bad for her having a asshole like u

Answer 9

I believe main problem is she didn't know you before marriage. Ever thought about loving her and getting to know her without sex until she is more comfortable with you? You may be an eager beaver but she's scared too death!!!!!!

Answer 10

you must be indian. Well, why dont you try and spend alot of time with foreplay, once she wants you bad enough it will go in.