I love people and get on with all ages and gener. My sons present girlfriend has told me that it is disrespectful to still stay in touch with my sons two ex girlfriends, whom I get on so well with. We meet for chats and coffee and it is understood we do not discuss my son and his present girlfriend. So i can see no harm. Do you think I am wrong?
2006-10-11 03:25:06 · 10 answers · asked by Vonnie S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No there is nothing wrong with this, and if his current girlfriend doesn't like it then tough. I could see if you were bringing these girls back to the house while your son and his girlfriend are there, but that's not the case. Your free to hang out and talk to whoever you want to, your a grown woman. His current girlfriend is just jealous that you spend time with females that he's been intimate with. She's also afraid that you might want to get your son and these girls back together again. When a person is confident about themselves and the relationships they are in they don't have anything to worry about. She's just being insecure right now. If these girls were respectful and were really good people then I see no problem with you continuing a friendship.
2006-10-11 03:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-07-18 19:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand Your viewpoint on this situation, but like a wise Man once said, no matter how flat a pancake is, it always has two sides. Look at it this way. Say You had been Married three times, and the Marriages did not end nicely. Then lets say that Your Mom stayed friends with each one of them, to the point that they went out and had coffee and chatted. She assures You that they are not talking about You. Would You be comfortable with that? And as a Mom I found that the only ex girlfriends that were interested in staying Friends to the point of making a point to go out, were girl's that still liked My Son's.
On the rare chance that this girlfriend becomes Your Daughter-In-Law would that change Your opinion? And the power has now shifted, wouldn't You want to start out on firm ground?
Just something to think about.
Best Wishes, and God Bless
2006-10-11 03:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 05:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that's a tough one. But given that you don't discuss your son with his ex's, then you are not doing anything wrong. Your son's current girlfriend is just being jealous and insecure.
2006-10-11 03:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-24 11:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by millie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with your son's ex girlfriends has nothing to do with him or his present girlfriend... Tell them to grow up... It's disrespectful for your son and his girlfriend to question your friendships with anyone... It's none of their business... period...
2006-10-11 04:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you do not interfere your sons current relationships. What business is it of the girl fried to tell you who you should be friends with. Talk it over with you son. If your friendship with his ex-girlfriends is not going to jeopardize your friendship with your son don't worry about it.
2006-10-11 03:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by hydermann 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, it's rude and if your son marries his present girlfriend she will resent you for hanging with the other girl, It really is hurtful, I was the new girlfriend and my now mother in law still would rather my husband be with the old girlfriend, and it is 10 years later, and it has affected his releationship with his mother for it. If he moved on so should you. Have coffee with your own friends.
2006-10-11 04:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i did stay friends with my sons ex's till they started bad mouthing him to me then i abrubtly ened any contact...as I love my son and i will always stand by him and who ever he loves.
2006-10-11 03:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋