basically, i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but i find myself falling for another guy...i love my man, i don't want to leave him but i keep having dreams that i am with this other guy. should i leave him?
2006-10-11 03:23:49 · 13 answers · asked by Danielle L 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you have fallen for this other guy, then obviously you DON'T love "your man."
Leave him and save him a lot of pain in the future. Let him find someone who won't be dreaming of other guys.
2006-10-11 03:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
20 years ago, I left my wife of 22 years to chase that greener grass on the other side of the fence. After I had been there for awhile, I discovered someone had painted it, and that it was pretty dead. I also discovered that love is a choice. Falling in love is actually falling into lust. I had a so called middle age crisis; Now I realize I was actually very self centered and selfish.
If you identify with my story, You may not be ready to make a long term commitment. Some soul searching is in order. No matter what, you are not a bad person, just confused and quite normal, actually.
I wish you well.
2006-10-11 10:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your current boyfriend hasn't done anything wrong why would you leave him? Think about this, how would you feel if he just up and left you for another girl and you hadn't done anything wrong. Wouldn't you feel hurt and betrayed? Lord knows a faithful boyfriend is a hard thing to find. So if he's been good and faithful to you that should tell you something. He respects you. You don't know if this other guy is going to be as good.
But, you do what you want to do.
2006-10-11 10:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for the same time as you and we are madly in love but at times i do think of other guys or certain guys will appear in my dreams but that is no reason to leave your boyfriend that you say you love. I think it is normal to think of other people when in a relationship, but if the feelings change that is a different sitaution. Good Luck, maybe it is just a phase.
2006-10-11 10:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by yeilyj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could just be going through a bump in the road with your current boyfriend. Relationships take work and if you actually do love him don't let these dreams break that up. I have been married for almost 5 years and still ocasionally have dreams about my ex.
2006-10-11 10:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by JM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to than don't. You could be having dreams about him for many reasons. He has just become a part of your life, or bigger part if you have known him for a while. You may be having feelings for him because you don't have him and you've been with the same person for two years. I have been with my boyfriend close to the same amount of time and I thought I liked one of his friends. I had the same problem as you. But after a while I realized it was nothing. It's kind of like your brain keeping your options open. lol...don't stress about it.
2006-10-11 10:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by somegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your man then what are you doing thinking about another. Don't leave him, just stop thinking about this other guy or you might lose your man. Be carefull
2006-10-11 10:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by lusciousleslie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl...you need to find out if this other man feels the same way. If he doesn't then you've spent way too much time even thinking about him.
2006-10-11 10:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by __Shele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you dont know the meaning of love, try to find out the meaning of love first and then decide what to do
2006-10-11 10:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by The Wizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should talk to him about taking a brake and dating other ppl for a couple weeks and if you relize you were just haveing pointless meaningless dreams get back with him and if you feel better away from him then it wasn't ment to be!....
2006-10-11 10:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda Fay! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋