My girlfriend says she loves me and we get together at least every 1 1/2 months. The distance is difficult. Recently, on certain evenings when I call, she is not there and won't respond until the next day or so. I suspect she is seeing someone else but don't want to jump to conclusions or become crazy. Should I confront her or just trust her.
2006-10-11 03:22:49 · 26 answers · asked by jahmas001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you shouldn't jump on her. That's when relationships, especially long distance ones, end. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Ask her what she's been up to. You'll probably find that she's been keeping busy with friends to keep her mind off you so much. Sitting around and feeling lonely sucks so let her have her fun with her friends. But also let her know that she can be honest with you no matter what it is. Maybe if you have a friend in the area he can check up on her to see if she is cheating but you don't go there unless you have more proof that just your paranoia.
2006-10-11 03:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard to build upon,in the first place. The reason why I say that is b/c you do not have the convenience of seeing her everyday, I know you said that you see her at least every 1 1/2 months, that is not enough to establish a relationship, even if you have been together for 2 years. I would say the best way is to go up to her and ask if she is cheating on you and tell her to be honest.
2006-10-11 03:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have answered your own question. The distance is difficult. Why don't you have a chat about just how hard it is for both of you. That should open the door for her if she is stepping out, and she may not be. It also could give you a chance to say how you're starting to feel insecure about the whole thing. Which is what's happening here. Accusing results in defense and to my knowledge never works well. Long distance relationships can and do work, but they're not for everyone and sometimes the time comes to close up that distance. Maybe one of you is going to have to move to keep this going.
2006-10-11 03:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...i know this is real bad, but i was in a long distance relationship,and its very hard. Talking from experience, i think she is cheating a little. my man caught me out thru my email account. i regretted it. Why dont you ask questions, and more questions, ( Where dyo go sometimes, and why havent you returned my calls, are you sure you were with ur friend/library - the last question ask like you're joking!! and also dont get angry, ask very calmly and quietly) she should be able to get the vibe that u are suspecting something, only then will she get nervous and stutter on her words.
I know i'll probably get disowned by the females on yahoo for this info.
2006-10-11 03:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the way she's been acting changed? If her interest in you hasn't changed, you're probably jumping the gun. But i've been in long distance relationships...and after a while, its normal to have a day or 2 every now and then where you don't talk. If its just that, don't worry buddy!
2006-10-11 03:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she has never done this before then I would definitely think something is up... What are her reasons? I would start asking her what has been her deal lately and if she gets defensive then she's hiding something.. OR maybe she wants to get out of the relationship so she seems to busy for you.. I wouldn't just trust her because IF she's cheating that could make it easier for her to get away with it ....and it could make your judgment alot more difficult to detect if shes cheating or not...
2006-10-11 04:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by xcura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Investigate, there must be obvious signs thats she is cheating. I dont recommend this, but if you must, go through here cell phone, those things hold quite a few secrets. Since she might erase some details, go thru her cell phone bill, usually has all the numbers she dials and the minutes spent on each call. Find out who she talks to the most and figure it out from there. Good Luck bro!!!!
2006-10-11 03:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by kevoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should end the relationship. Two years long distance? Seriously, that's complete waste of time. At this point the two of you really don't share a life together, obviously something (what ever it it that forces the 2 of you to live in different cities) is more important than you relationship. Why limit yourself because of something that is such a low priority?
2006-10-11 03:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the different lady could be attempting to deter you from pursuing him by way of fact she is involved herself. She's attempting to get rid of the diverse opposition. If he's in an prolonged distance dating, he isn't feeling very committed to it if he's flirting with women who're geographically extra handy. next time you're chatting with him, ask him if he has a female buddy. If the respond is specific, ask him why he seems to be finding for yet another one. If the respond isn't any, watch his eyes to verify he's telling the certainty. in basic terms time will show the certainty. save flirting once you're attracted to him, yet submit to in concepts that some adult men save finding till they discover "the only" a minimum of for this month. Then, they provide all their time and interest to that one. The others in basic terms help him kill time.
2016-10-16 01:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This fool who answered it besides me said she's cheating if you say she is, WRONG! She might not be, it's just a feeling you get when you don't see your loved one, and you get afraid. Talk to her about it... don't listen to that guy, he's obviously not boyfriend material, I mean you could like dump her and then figure out she wasn't cheating at all. Then you would really regret it and feel absolutely stupid. Talk to your girl, it will help I bet. If she won't talk... consider other options.
2006-10-11 03:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋