i think i have mental problems?

Question

i have been so stressed out lately--and i feel really bad all the time. and my moods are rediculous. my boyfriend wants to go to a luncheon at work--his boss is taking them all out to a nice restaraunt. and i dont want him to go, and i dont know why. i mean, i hate women--i'm sure a million of them hit on him every day..lol....but he's going to be around them anyway at work, so what difference does it make if he goes to lunch??? i've felt kinda sad because we dont do as much as we used to--like going out, etc...so maybe i'm just jealous. i'm just so surprised by how mad --just the thought of him going--makes me. it's not something i can go to with him...and i'm already having panic attacks lately to the point that i've been passing out, w/ heart problems, etc....***could that be related??? *** i just dont want to be a crazy, clingy g/f. but i cant really control how i feel, even though i try. there's not some magic switch i can flip. we've been dating 5 yrs.

so far, i just told him...."okay, i know this sounds crazy and i'm sorry to be a psycho g/f, but it really bothers me and i dont know why. and i'm sorry to put you in this position. i dont know why i dont want you to go"...and i told him i may just be jealous about not spending time, etc

and no, i'm not worried about sending him running for the hills, although i know that a lot of girls make that mistake.....i'm sure it annoys him...but we k now each other really well, so no matter what, he's not going to leave. not to sound cocky, but he won't. he's even been looking for rings, we're attracted to each other...so thats why i say, NO IDEA WHAT MY PROBLEM IS.... but its so frustrating!

Answer 1

Are you working? Do you go to school? Sounds like you don't have enough to keep yourself busy, so you spend all your time wondering what he's doing and "creating" scenarios in your head about him cheating. If you continue being so whiney (let's be honest here!) and clingy and needy, you will drive him straight out the door in the arms of someone else! Find something to do and make yourself more interesting to him! Also, if you are spending too much time indoors, you need to go out. If you don't get enough sunshine and you isolate yourself, you are that much more prone to falling into a depression and, trust me, that is going to be no fun for either of you!

Answer 2

Your problem is that you have been dating for 5 years and are still not married. What's up with that? You're probably doing a lot of second-guessing of yourself along those lines.

You DO need counseling. Seek it on your own time at first. You're describing some sort of anxiety and depression symptoms... but are they long-term or just recent? I don't think we need to know those details, but it will be important to mention in counseling.

On the other hand, it may also be that the real threat to your relationship is that your guy is already married - to his job. Being jealous of a work lunch is kind of weird unless it's one more area of your relationship that has been replaced by work time. Employers have apparently become like competing "significant others" in the sense that they want to eat up all of a worker's free time as well. Your BF needs to put his foot down at some point and declare some of his time with you off-limits from worktime-creep.

Answer 3

You need to look inside yourself. Try to explain these feelings. Is there a reason for all this? What is it that your b/f is doing to make you feel this way? When you find out then you need to discuss it with him. Go for a walk, relax and sort through some thoughts. Sometime life gets hectic and there is change. Nobody likes change but sometimes it's for the better. Please look inside yourself and try to answer some questions you have. Has you b/f ever cheated on you? Don't you trust him? You would think after 5yrs he isn't going anywhere. You don't want to lose him with this crazy behavior. So you better find out what is bothering you so badly. Start taking care of yourself because all this craziness can result into some serious health problems. Good luck and take care of yourself!!

Answer 4

Seriously, you should go see your doctor and tell him or her what is going on with you; especially if you're passing out from the panic attacks. That could be very dangerous; and there maybe other causes than just stress. It doesn't mean you're crazy! As for your b/f's luncheon, try not to worry about it. If he's been with you for 5 years, he obviously loves you. Tell him how you feel and tell him what it is you need from him. And go see your MD!

Answer 5

A lot of women go through this with their partners, including me. I get so jealous sometimes, I really have to step back and think about what I am really jealous about. I get really jealous because I think my fiance stares at every girl that walks by. Just try to relax. Maybe you are depressed. Try talking to your doctor to see if there is a medication that can help you get back on your feet. The passing out and heart problems can definetely relate to this situation.

Answer 6

Get in contact with your doctor, discuss possible counseling, and maybe the possiblity of depression. Don't freak out, it's controllable, as long as help is seeked. On the other hand, it may just be normal stress. Are you taking on more than usual? I suggest giving it time, try to relax, and do things you like to do. If that still has no effect, then go to the doctor.

Answer 7

You might have a chemical imbalance in your brain. Its nothing to be ashamed of. You should see a Dr. and tell them how you feel. At the very least, get on the web and look up Bi-polar disorder. You sould as though you may have some symptoms related to this diease. If so, its not your fault, its very common, and can be treated with the right balance of meds and therapy.

Answer 8

sister im sorry but you do sound like a crazy clingy girlfriend
you need to find some way to get a grip
youre not crazy you silly thing
you are insanely jealous and jealousy is a dangerous thing
i dont know if you work or have a life outside of him, it doesnt sound like it but you need to get one
if you do work well all i can say is you need to do some soul searching or something and find out where all of your insecurity is coming from
who knows...........could be him and not you not that im encouraging you to ignore your problem sometimes jealousy comes from your sub conscious and its telling you something isnt right
are you sure hes not a cheater
go over all the facts and shape up or your destined for heartache
good luck

Answer 9

Well, if you do not get this insane jealousy under control soon, you need to tell him good bye in a very nice way, because he will be gone. That is the only reason that my ex and I are split up and divorced. She was jealous of everything and everyone until finally I could not stand it anymore. She started living in the conspiracy theory life and it was insane. She thought myself and everyone around me was plotting to cover my me cheating, lying, and all kinds of stuff...talk to a counselor or say good-bye, because it will end the two of you eventually...

Answer 10

i'd recommend that your pal seeks help from a Counsellor rather than a Psychiatrist or a Psychologist first . Even going to the scientific expert and discussing it with them will help in looking out the place the subject began from and then if he mandatory to work out any of the different 2 Professions, He would desire to be referred for help . the subject had to initiate from someplace and that's taken care of then the want cope with it . i'm so sorry that he feels this way . wish that's of a few help to you ] Take care Knell 22