This peson is a decent man, he works and is very dedicated to his job, he works mad overtime to pay off his bills. The dilemma is that I hardly see him, he does call me daily, but I'm feeling more like a best friend than a girlfriend. He is reserved person and I am ougoing and love showing gestures of affection...he is shy. So now I am sort of holding back with my gestures and caresses...I feel like I am holding back I adore this man, but I am not being myself.....when he feels pressure he shuts down, I don't want him to do this, but I want more out of him....how should I go about this? I know he cares....how can I make him open up more...
2006-10-11 03:07:54 · 5 answers · asked by reina l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, my God! Are you sure we're not dating the same man? I am in the very same dilema your in, except with the exception that mine did tell me he has a girlfriend, she is currently living in another state starting her own career. He tells me we are friends and he enjoys my company, but we have shared caresses and kisses, and he does the most amazing things for me...like bake me cookies, and cook me dinner, but I am beginning to get frustrated with the way things are going because he keeps telling me he is confused and that this is only temporary. He is a good man, I know that if we were to get seriously involved he wouldn't ever do anything to hurt me. Have you just come out and asked this man what you mean to him? I know that true love starts out that way...you know as friends, but the part that gets me about your guy is, why don't you ever get to see him? I can't really offer you advice because I'm in the same dilema as yourself, but I can offer an ear, and maybe with you and I chatting maybe we'll fiind the answers along the way. I think the truth lies in all of us.
2006-10-11 03:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by mamas1gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men often retreat into their own little world when they have a problem. They are action oriented and thinking of ways to solve problems. He doesn't want to burden you, so he's quiet about it.
Don't stop showing you care. If you want to give him affection by hugging, or whatever, continue to do so. Believe me, he does appreciate it! You didn't say how long you've known him, but as he grows closer and more comfortable with you, he will open up more emotionally and with gestures of affection returned to you.
2006-10-11 10:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support him, be there for him, and be understanding. Tell him that you feel like you're putting a lot into it, and not getting equal back, but that you understand that he's busy, etc.
2006-10-11 10:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him do anything...you are in love with a guy who is too busy with work and when he is alone with you he is too stressed...just try to support him in any way you can...eventually things will get better.
2006-10-11 10:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jjust sit down with him and tell him how you feel about him and the whole situation
2006-10-11 10:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋