2006-10-11 02:51:09 · 16 answers · asked by sista_nita_29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am pleased to see most people here being generally positive about 'hanging in there' with a long distance relationship.
I think it helps to make the most of what you can share and to add new things such as gift-sending games or video calling.
I am not a fan of the term that some people here are using, namely 'if it is meant to be it will be'. This statement promotes a believe that someone else will make the relationship work, or not work ,when in actual fact a long distance relationship needs constant care from the two people in it.
I think it is important to openly talk together about 'a realistic joint planned future' and to take stock from time to time as to wether it is going more or less to plan.
Most normal close relationships are unequal with one partner being more needy and insecure than the other. It is more important to be considerate of the less secure partner in a long distance relationship to keep the attachment bearable over time.
Also being very fair in deciding who compromises so that you can spend time together and eventually live together is likely to be necessary and best done early rather than avoiding the issue only to find in years ahead that no agreement could be reached. This fair decision should be slowly negotiated and then it forms an important part of your joint future hopes.
I think it also helps to have dissagreements in a long distance relationship because this makes it more normal and real and builds a solid relationship and bond between you both.
I believe that six months is long enough to go without meeting and that living together should be resolved within say one to two years.
The physical comfort from a partner's presence is a very important security for most people, so I believe that emotional harm is likely for one party or both if there isn't real progress being made about living together.
One good thing about a long distance relationship if you keep it going is that it is not a shallow physical relationship but rather a deep soulmate type that can endure well into old age and as such it is something to really treasure.
2006-10-11 12:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old the relationship is, how long a wait it is going to be and how much you want/ need the relationship.
If the relationship is over a year old and you'll be apart from each other for two years maximum, then it is but if it's longer than that, I don't think it's worth the wait.
2006-10-11 03:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it is meant to be then it will work out regardless of the distance. I am in a long distance relationship and it is great! We are planning on getting married next summer and have had very few problems with being apart.
2006-10-11 02:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Meri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[I] see this question many times. If it is meant to be, love will span the distance and it will happen only if it is meant to be and both people want it bad enough. We live in an age where people are closer than ever due to the internet. So if you find someone that is worth keeping and it causes one or both parties to move one day, then it is all worth it. Happy trails to you.
2006-10-11 02:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by [B] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it really depends on how much you both mean to each other. it takes both hands to clap. you and the other party will be the determining factor as to whether this long distance relationship will be worth the wait. personally, i prefer to take a relax approach to such situations. if it's meant to be, distance though may tore you both apart for awhile, ultimately, it will make the relationship stronger. hope this helps!
2006-10-11 02:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out my question, I asked the same question already, but the details and the answers were more in depth. It might help a little. Just click on my picture. I say yes, but I'm still confused about my situation.
2006-10-11 02:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Angel-Errr-uMMM? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of Course!!
If It's Love that Your feeling (Mutually) Then Yeah!!
Distance makes the heart grow Fonder!!
2006-10-11 02:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine wasn't the wait. After 18 months he was due to come back home and went for his farewell party and kissed some tourist and that was that....
2006-10-11 02:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by unqione 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was! We are now happily married!
(we met on the internet)
We moved together 5 months later.
2006-10-11 02:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its subjective. It depends on how commitment much both parties are putting in to stay together.
2006-10-11 20:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋