My 3 year old doesn't wipe himself properly in nursery?

Question

Can anyone offer any advice please. My little boy has just started nursery & on many occasions has come home in rather a mess. I would like some advice as I am affraid to ask at the school as they stipulated that all kids had to be fully toilet trained before they started there.
Any tips please?
A big thank you in advance Nat xxx.

Answer 1

hiya
have a word with the nursery as they should be wacthing him
and helping him its there job :0)
my son has just started potty training and when he goes to nuresy they keep forgetting to help potty train him i have to ring every other day asking them to help him as it is setting him back and he is getting sore with wearing nappies
good luck ;o)

Answer 2

As a mum of 3 and now an aunt many times over ,I would suggest giving your little angel some wet wipes specifically flushable ones. The nursery can`t complain as he is toilet trained. If you can get him used to these at home and tell the nursery to supply them or get some to be used just for your son, they should have no objection. I would talk to other mums at the nursery perhaps when it`s "home time " as I`m sure they have encountered the same problem. Maybe a few mums together could even start a fund to supply the nursery with the aformentioned wet wipes.
Ultimately your lovely lad will then never have to worry again. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

He is toilet trained - everything he produces goes to the toilet! I don't consider not being able to wipe your bum as part of toilet training. I still clean up my 5 year old at home if I think he needs it - far better than skid marks!

Just say you are a bit concerned that he might not be getting it all cleared away and could the Nursery at least keep an eye on him. 3 is very young to make a good job of that and the last thing you need is nappy rash.

Could you even put a supply of clean pants to the Nursery and they could change if need be? Even kids in the primary school have the odd accident so I think it is unrealistic for a Nursery to not expect accidents and it is pretty poor if they don't take some responsibility for his personal hygene when your son is in their care.

Answer 4

I really wouldn't worry about asking the nursery to help you on this. As a nursery nurse myself I know that its a common problem and one I am sure the staff at your sons nursery have encountered before. He is still only little and its not the easiest thing in the world to master. I suggest you take one of the staff members aside who you feel comfortable with and just ask them to supervise him at toilet time. I think you will find that they will be mortified to learn that he has been going home in a mess, and will be more than understanding. He IS toilet trained so you have nothing to worry about. If they give you a hard time I would suggest looking for another nursery... one that knows, understands and can cope with childrens needs in a less strict manner.

Answer 5

My daughter, fully bathroom trained and happy with it.... first month at nurserey, five accidents, and also wipe problems. After a lot of digging, I discovered that she felt unsure about using the paper at nursery... as it was not "ours" and was not sure how to use the toilet because it had a push flush not a handle... I think these uncertainties lead her to a hurried approach to toilet at nursery, hence forgetting to wipe... Just wanting to be done and out of the bathroom.

I addressed this by asking a sympathetic nursery worker (also my daughters key worker) to be the only person to take her to the toilet so my daughter knew exactly who to ask, and have faith in. after three weeks, no more problems. They fully understood that toilet trained kid's can and do regress under stress, and going to nursery is as stressfull for a little person as a new job is for the rest of us.

Kid's can be worried without showing it, the big outside world is confusing enough for me sometimes, let alone someone with only three years learning time and life experience.

Answer 6

Well, he is only three. Not all three year olds can wipe properly and are still fully potty trained. At my sisters daycare, each child had their own little cubby drawer. We would allow the little ones to have their own wipes in their drawer. When they needed to go potty, they could get their wipes out of their drawer and use them. They needed to be trained to put the wipes in the trash or use flushable ones. They usually had a few in a small box or in a zip lock bag. It is easier for them to clean their little bottoms with a wipe than dry toilet paper at that age. Talk to the director of the nursery he goes to and see if this would be an option.

Answer 7

you at the instant are not doing something incorrect in any respect, and although they could say that's beside the point, that's extra effective to ascertain stable hygiene skills and conduct now on an identical time as he remains youthful than whilst he's older and already rooted in his procedures. practice him and practice him the thank you to precise clean till the bathroom tissue is totally clean, no rely how long it takes. in case you prefer, have your husband or a father determine on your existence to coach him first hand so he can actually have a seen help. tell him that huge boys do this and he will actual be extra in all probability to maintain this up so he may be a huge boy. whilst he gets it down, and you notice him turning out to be to be lazy and not wiping wisely and precise, then consult with him and tell him that he has to maintain the habit up. If he gets real nasty, practice him grimy pairs of his undies and tell him that if he keeps it up, he will ought to scrub them himself. the type you're doing it extremely is positive and you have not something to be worrying approximately. ignore approximately what your acquaintances are asserting and proceed. Your son would be clean and have stable conduct. At this age, he would not care which you're in the bathing room with him, wiping himself. he's gaining awareness of a solid potential. desire this enables.

Answer 8

There are grown men in the world who still do not wipe themselves properly. Do you pay for nursery? If so you call the shots and you are entitled to be a little assertive and demand that they help a toddler wipe his bum! He is doing well and keep encouraging him, I find that the toddler toilet training wipes from Kandoo or similar supermarket own brands are superb. they come in bright child friendly boxes to promote toilet training and make it less stressful for everyone!

Answer 9

Some children do a lot better with wet wipes than with toilet paper in the beginning. Tell him to wipe until there is no more brown on the paper.

Don't scold him for coming home messy but on the days he comes home clean, do something special for him.

Answer 10

You could just get some wipes just let thenursey no that he has wipes so you no hes completly clean or somthing explain that he is completly potty trained and wipes himself he just dosnt always do the job right lol im sure they would be fine letting him have the wipes in the loos or if a teacher goes in with them she can give him the pack sohecan keep it in a bagwith some pants and stuff just incase.

Answer 11

My four children mastered this at different ages. Every child is different. I would tell the school he is toilet trained but needs a little supervision to make sure he is cleaned up fully. If they can't do this small thing for a child, I'd reconsider if you want to send him there. Of course, keep working with him to get that clean piece of paper.