your partner had a really close relationship with his female relative. He tells her everything, does all her favours, shows everything he buys.
2006-10-11 02:42:03 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they have always been close.
2006-10-11 02:49:40 · update #1
Well, I would prefer a relative to just a friend, but he should be sharing those things with you, not with someone else.
2006-10-11 02:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be a little annoying but there is a way to make yourself feel better about it .
try involve yourself more , it sounds to me like you are not talking enough and he has looked somewhere else for advise and attention .
what ever you do dont show him how bothered you are with this cos it will only cause friction between you all .
when he buys something even if it does not interest you make out that it does if clothes ask him to try them on for you and give your opinion .
another thing ............. try yourself to get close to this relative , you might find her to be just as good for you as she is for him , then you can all talk together and you will no longer feel left out .
i hope this helps a little for you . keep ya chin up .
2006-10-11 03:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by DEE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. I grew up an only child and my cousin (he is a male) had four older brothers. We were, are, and always will be pretty darn close. Ofcourse he is married to a wonderful woman and has two beautiful baby girls...I have embraced all of them as an added part to an extended bro/sis relationship. Now all of us (my bf and daughter) and his family share all kinds of fun things. Stop trying to find fault with their bond and take joy in knowing that now you too have a shoulder to lean or to keep him in line if/when he acts crazy!
2006-10-11 02:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no Iwould not , everyone needs ot have a confidont , someone they can speak with and tel ltheir thoughts too. Since your patnet has been sharing their feelings with this relative for awhile I can understand why the ystil ldo.Nothing wrong wit hthis , seems to me you need ot work on getting tha tsame kind of trust from yuor patner and show them you can be trusted on that same level.If you cant show this then you might as well forget ever trying to share that type of relationship with your patner.
2006-10-11 02:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, who do you think is worse off, u or me.
my hubby's best friend is...a woman he befriended when they were sharing a house together with other people. they've been friends for about 4/5 years, and him and me only met end 2004. he sometimes goes over to her place and overnights there, she has a (loser) boyfriend so he comforts her about it, and he says she's like a daughter to him. he takes her gifts and things and when we argue, or disagree or if anything is going on, he tells her EVERYTHIng about him and me. it caused me to not trust him...it widened the rift that had grown between us...and i reached a point where i dont even want to try to patch things up
2006-10-11 04:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a male no. We all confide in someone doesn't matter how much he or she loves you we relate to people in different ways. He may be able to talk to you about one aspect or interact in another but when it comes to a relative it's different. As long as you know you can trust this person and you love them let it go. (Not being harsh).
2006-10-13 10:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mick D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find it a bit annoying but it depends on the situation, if he's been close to her since he was young. Maybe he just see's her as a sister figure. Talk to him about it but do it on a sly, so as if it were, you're just havinga normal convo
2006-10-11 02:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Prudence22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a bit weird but they must have had a close relationship while growing up and this is normal for him
2006-10-11 03:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by julie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would feel jealous and Im sure if you did the same he would hate it. Tell him to cool it with the relative and spend the time with you, make sure he realises his behaviour if damaging your relationship.
2006-10-11 02:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by jean m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt think it annoying as long as he is open about it and they have no secrets,try and get more involved in the relationship between them and you can just see whats going on .
2006-10-11 03:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋