2006-10-11 02:34:05 · 6 answers · asked by wayne p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes its hard to get over a death of some one you love and admire so much....
Ask your Parents to get you into counceling, and that may be the 'thing' you need to help you to quietly put your brother where he belongs the most, in your heart and mind, with out overtaking your emotions...
Remember, you will see him in Heaven one day, and rejoice that you have him for eternity to share all the things you did while you were alive!
So, live like its your last days, so that when you meet him again, you will be able to relate some fantastic memories to him, and he will be happy that you got on with your life...
I shall pray for you..
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-10-11 02:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend I can not truely sympathize with your situation, I have lost many people in my life, but each loss is different and each can be very painful. Death is that state in which we exist only in the memories of others. In examining your feelings and reviewing your relationship you may feel guilt, or a sense of unfinished business, or perhaps a bit of betrayel. These are all normal assignments of grief. I do not know if you were shy before, if not your shyness now may be that you have emotions you are holding back in a vain attempt to keep the secrets you shared with your brother. Or perhaps a since of loyalty to your relationship with him and you don't want to say the wrong thing and betray that loyalty. Whatever the cause 6 years is a long time and though I am not by any means saying you should stop greiving, nor am I saying you should forget him (we both know that will never happen.) However please ask yourself if your grief if for his loss or for yours. Spending your life in grief does him no justice, nor does it make your life any easier. I am positive he would want you to move on, to grow, and to realize a full rich life with or without him in it. To do real justice to him you must make of your life all you can, live with the idea that he is watching and would want all the best for you. Only time can heal the pain, but only you can realize that grief though necessary, should not be such that it becomes more important to you than life itself. Be well, be happy and remember with fond kindenesses those people lost, loved and forever a part of our lives.
2006-10-11 10:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun, I know how hard it is to lose someone you love. I lost someone 10 months ago and find it very difficult. Talking to people helps, though.
Please talk to someone about it. If you are shy, try a grief counselor. Your doctor can point you in the right direction OR try a pastor at a church.
Some days when I am feeling choked up about it all, it helps to remember that the person I lost would not want me to putting my life on hold. In fact, he'd be pretty annoyed with me.
You have to try and move forward with your life. That is what will honor your brother and that is what he would want. You'll be reunited one day. Until then, live your life. Part of him lives on in you through the memories you share.
2006-10-11 09:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is making to to feel shy? Were you involved somewhere in your brother's death......were you are were you not....will give you the answer dude.
2006-10-11 09:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by beasthoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST DUDE IM AM VERY SORRY
SECOND IF YOU WANT TO FORGET OR GET OVER IT YOU SHOULD HIDE HIS PICS FOR WHILE THEN WHEN YOURE READY BRING IT OUT
2006-10-11 09:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ta1mat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to go see a shrink. They will help you heal.
2006-10-11 09:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋