We have been together for about a year...and we see each other every other weekend. I love her more then i have anyone else and she says she loves me...but lately things sem wierd...she goes out a lot with her friends, which is cool, but there is one guy that i dont trust. She says shes known him forever, but the disturbing part is she told me he admitted to being in love with her...and the odd time they go places together like for drives to take pics and that, just him and her...which bugs me...but most of the time its a group thing. What bugs me the most is when she does go out she insists that i do NOT call or text her, to wait till I hear from her...and even the odd time i text her just to say "i love you" she either doesnt reply at all, or responds back with a snappy "ok i told you to wait to hear from me!...." which bothers me...also when i spend tme with any of my girl "friends". she gets sulky and says "i bet you slept with them." My friends think im being played..anyone agree?
2006-10-11 02:30:35 · 29 answers · asked by capeguy06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well there could be some indication there
but botton line we dont know
and if u ask her she will never admit it to you
so next time she is out with him
call her, dont be afraid to call her she s ur girl
u can call her anytime
so call her
and if she doesnt pick up
confront her about it
if she catches an attitude
u stop her on her tracks and tell her
listen, i was thinking about u and i decided to call cuz i wanted to hear ur beautiful voice
now if she is still angry after that
then u need to talk to her in person
and get this issue resolve and tell her how u feel inside
2006-10-11 02:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay she is trying to make up her mind that whether she wants to be with you or not. You really love her and i would suggest that you should not call her up or message her. Be Cool and you'll see the difference. She is taking you for granted now which happnes in a relationship when one shows lot of care and love for other person. So BE COOL and keep yourself busy with other work. Don't pick up her calls for the first time she calling and let her wait and feel that she is missing something important in her life. But do call her at the time she is available.
2006-10-11 02:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by cold_hard_freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy, if she really loves you she would always long to be with you not the other guy. Yes she is cheating on you, one would not be in love with you and at the sametime entertain other guys and restrict you from calling or texting when she goes out on the group thing. Wake up man, she is not yours, look for someone who will have all the time for you. By being sulky when you are with one of your girlfriends, she is try to protect herself from her own actions, you are being played, try ignoring her slowly and see how she will react.
2006-10-11 02:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by 1967.08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very difficult, especially without clear boundaries, and most importantly trust.
If she has admitted to you that this friend of hers has feelings for her, then she is open and honest with you...give her the benefit of the doubt, if she wanted to be with him then she would have broken it off with you and started a relationship with him.
As far as her not wanting you to call her while she is out, this might be because she probably doesn't want to seem as though she has a really "jealous" boyfriend...but this is something you might want to ask her upfront...tell her to mention exactly why she doesn't want you to call/write.
Honestly, first of all, you need to think about where exactly this relationship is going/your plans with her...it is obvious that you are jealous, and that she is as well...once you are clear about what you need and what you want, also think about what you can change to make her more comfortable and secure in the relationship...then talk to her about all of this.
If the two of you are serious about being together, then you need to set up certain boundaries...and they should be realistic expectations, each of the two of you need to understand, and respect what the other needs.
Also, you need to trust her when she says or does something, unless you have solid proof that she is cheating...without being honest and open with each other it is not going to last. All of these doubts and worries that you are having, are totally out of fear of losing her, and you need to let her know that.
2006-10-11 03:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree. If you have to question your trust for her, its the first sign that the relationship is headed for disaster... I recomend to step back, look at whats important to you... Long distance relationships are hard, and she isn't trying as hard as you are... Sometimes we have to be selfsih with our hearts and feelings. I can't tell you to break up with her... But I will say that it doesn't look good. And that if you let her go, and let yourself mend the wound, the sooner you'll meet the loving woman you are meant to have... (now this woman could be someone completely different or it could be this girl you love now, but just down the road when she grows up a bit, and when she really knows what she wants....) Life is full of turns that we never see coming!
2006-10-11 02:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The perks of being in an "LDR" is that you have the freedom to go do things without having to report to your significant other. However, if she's taking that to an extreme, it sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. There is obviously a lack of trust on your relationship, and do you want to be with someone who doesn't trust you, or that you don't trust? No. You may love her, but you can move on. You deserve better.
2006-10-11 02:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a many splendorous thing, you can give to her until you cannot give any more taking into consideration that you in the way you do it she may take your liberty for granted,as a gentleman ,you must know when to yank the leash especially with the competition,if it makes you uneasy do what protects you and your standing with her.No playing games,she has to show a better form of respect for you or she will run you over and you will feel taken for a ride ,stand your ground.good luck
2006-10-11 03:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need to pull your pants on, it sounds like she is making all the rules and calling all the shots. Don't call or don't text until you hear from me? I tell you what, you need to send her a text message next time that says, "This is your Ex-boyfriend and I am just texting you while you are out screwing your other boyfriend to tell you to drop dead. Don't text me or call me until You hear from me, which will be close to NEVER!" Man your friends are right, you are being played bigger than life. Send her a pic of you with your new girlfriend... DUMP Her!
2006-10-11 02:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my advice tell the girl that you want to trust her but her relationship with this guy is making it hard for you to do so. If she doesnt want to give up her life stlye its more important than staying with you.
You dont sound very happy , move on man she is playing you
2006-10-11 02:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by kalik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so mate. or maybe theres some thing else wrong with her? he only way to know is to ask her, thats the only way you;re going to get a straight answer. you have to trust each other in a relationship and obviously she doesnt trust you. if you;re gut says tht theres something dodgy going on, there probably is... good luck
2006-10-11 02:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋