I've been a commitment phobic all my life, but have the offer of a Husband - Advice appreciated
2006-10-11 02:23:18 · 54 answers · asked by NO1TOPICS 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if he loves u more then yes, if u love him more then no
2006-10-11 02:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by SweetCat9651 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should weigh up all the options before you decide. For example, if you are a commitment phobic, you dont have to get married to have a life-time partner. If this man really loves you he will understand, and you may find that one day you are ready to get married. If you are having doubts now, ask for more time and explain to him why you need more time. Before you can make this desicion you have to work out why you are commitment phobic, or whether its just that this man isnt the right one for you.
2006-10-11 02:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by kate f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be called the "runaway bride", because as soon as a potential partner/husband comes close to me, I'll just find a reason why I have to run. Depending on how long you know the guy, I'll recommend moving in together. That way you can see if you'll be able to live with him for the rest of your life. I lived with my husband before we got married, and I think that's what cured my commitment-phobia. Good luck! You'll make the right decision!
2006-10-11 02:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Charmaine V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Do you share the same values? If you are religious, does he share in your faith? Do you have the same ideas about having children? Do you know his finances and are you comfortable with them? Can he provide for you in terms of being able to help support your home financially? Do you have a common philosophy about the man/woman's role in the home? Do you get along with his family and vice versa? Can you trust him to make sound financial and personal decisions? Do you share a common philosophy about sex?
All of these things are important. It's not just about loving someone or getting an offer. Marriages break up because of issues mentioned above. Don't go into it blindly. Know everything about him, so there are no surprises and make an honest decision as to whether you can live with and love this man for life. Trust me, there will be bad times, and plenty of them. Are you prepared to tough them out? If you say "no" or are unsure, then you need to hold off. Work on resolving those things and them come back to the marriage question.
Good luck!
2006-10-11 02:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go for it, you can not be commitment phobic all your life. Trust me on that, you will be missing out on someone that has the potential of knocking you off your feet. To be commitment phobic is to never find true happiness in another person and in yourself. Go for the plunge
2006-10-11 03:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got married a month ago after years of thinking marriage was just a piece of paper and an excuse for a party. If you were sure about it you wouldn't be asking for advice. Go with you gut instinct, marriage is a life long commitment joining you with the most special person in your world. It'll only be magical if your heart is in it 100%. Don't do it just because he has asked, think of him.
2006-10-11 03:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by esmequeenoftheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say offer of a husband as though it was a dog or something. It doesn't sound good to me, if you wanted to marry this man you wouldn't need any advice.
2006-10-14 01:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Freakyfran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here! Planned and paid for 2 weddings and called them both off within a month of the day. Most of my family and friends call me the runaway bride LOL.
Can't really help you with your answer as it's your life and ultimately your decision. I myself have settled for living with the man that I love (been over 7 years so far) and we have children together...who needs the piece of paper anyway?
2006-10-11 02:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make up your own mind. How on earth do you expect the views of a bunch of complete strangers who know nothing about you or your prospective husband to be of any use? If you must ask people use your family and close friends.
2006-10-11 02:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this: would you be willing to wash his underwear every day for the rest of his life? If yes, then you're probably in love with him. Go for it. If not, that's basically what marriage turns into over time (or worse) so think carefully.
2006-10-11 02:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer of a Husband? You make it sound like you've come-up in the readers digest prize draw.
2006-10-11 02:27:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋