should i give her a second chance?

Question

i am in a long distance doing everything to move to her financially, but we sort of lost touch a bit and then she dated another guy she said she didnt screw him, she willing to try again should i give her a second chance, i love her but she wont say she loves me

Answer 1

No second chance, be selfish. Are you happy? that's the real question.

Answer 2

Sorry to have to break this to you John but the odds seem stacked against things for you regarding this girl.
A) you're moving her financially (investing money to be with her)
B) you're making the sacrifice of moving to her
C) she took on the stance (outta sight outta mind) when u lost touch!
D) you're taking her word for the "no sex" she had claimed...
E) she wont say she loves you (red alert!!!)

(see, it helps to draw up a list of good and bad to see which outweighs which)

from where i'm standing, to remain emotionally happy you need to hold back long enough to realize that you're doing more in this relationship than what she is offering. any relationship, for it to work, needs 50/50. otherwise, you're setting yourself up for hurt honey. i've been through a few of these myself, held on for dear life after giving 70 percent and only getting 30% back! it eventually didnt work! what a waste of TIME and EFFORT and money...
look yourself in the eye (in the mirror, unless you have an eye that pops out har har) and on a serious note, tell yourself you're worth more, and YOU deserve a chance at happiness.
If she starts out a "relationship" on a second chance like that, who knows what monkey tricks will she be up to next. (cause she knows by now, or MUST know, that you're a big hearted softie...) wow, *I* would take advantage of that, nice though i may be...so
my opinion is, let it go, stay friends, u NEED to keep your distance though, so that you can heal properly.

Answer 3

sorry to say this, but she sounds like she has moved on, youre no more than a back-up. If you did get back with her, the chances of you surviving are slim to none, you will never trust her the way you did!If you can say you love her then you have full commitment, but if she cannot return that love and shes dating other guys then she isnt as serious about this relationship as you.
If shes willing to sacrifice someone like you that has put there feelings out there for a few dates with random blokes she aint worth it. And if youre willing to do all you can financially and move, and youre not getting anything back whats the point? get your head out the sand and realise she isnt that bothered b4 you get yourself into money troubles and your heart broken more than it is already....find someone who deserves you xxxx

Answer 4

i think of you are able to learn lots from a 2d possibility. I particular did. If I hadn't of married Ray the 2d time, i might have continuously puzzled if there replaced right into a raffle we could have made it artwork. We divorced after the 2d marriage additionally. yet now we are stable pals, and all of us understand that we are particularly not meant to be married or fans. Now this is in no way an argument. I found out somewhat some approximately communique and approximately what i'm particularly searching for in a mate, and additionally approximately issues that i ought to artwork on if I ever settle directly to get married back. Our son who's 14 has even mentioned that he replaced into chuffed we tried back, yet that we particular combat lots much less now that we at the instant are not residing in a similar domicile. :) And he's stable. His father is very lots in his existence, yet my son isn't compelled to go through by our doomed dating.

Answer 5

A long distance would only work if you keep in touch on a regular basis, like every day for example, so I am not really surprised that she dated another guy.

Sounds a bit complicated to me but if you really love her go for it.

Answer 6

If you lost touch 'a bit', perhaps this relationship wasn't all that to start with. Then she dated somebody else... and she won't say she loves you... its up to you, but I'd move on. Then again, if you don't give it a second chance, you may ask yourself one day, '...what if..?'

Answer 7

If she won't say she loves you then I think you should give up thoughts of a relationship with her and move on with your life. It seems you are the one who has everything to lose and possibly nothing to gain. You are the one willing to move and take on the financial burden.... No... say goodbye and go on to better possibilities...

Answer 8

if she hasn't admitted to having sex with this new guy,what else
she gonna pull on you.? i would just save the grief and not give her that second chance.it went sour the first time and i bet it will the second time around.she can't even tell you she loves you that should give a bit of a hint right there. i would not look back and carry on, i'm sure you love her but you will evenyually get over her and meet someone that tickles your fancey lol.you'll just end up hurt again if you take her back.


best of luck

Answer 9

i think you can give her the chance cos really distance can destroy relationship.cos i find out that sex is what many ladies can do without which can make a girl slip away.if she does say she love why read her action and mind to know what she is up to. but if you have her back u will surely enjoy her. stay bless as u make ur choice

Answer 10

If you're putting forth the effort to move your entire life (job, house, etc.) to be closer to her, and in return she dates someone else, whether or not she slept with him, it's not cool. Stay where you are, and let her go. It's her way of making you break up with her because she doesn't want to do it for whatever reason, maybe she got scared because things were serious enough on your part to move out there.

Answer 11

Long distance relationships are a strain. You have to get together to make a go of it. It that isn't going to happen in the near future you should end it and try someone closer.