My husband and I have mastered the going to bed routine but my daughter wakes up in the early hours- between 1 and 3 am and screams for me. When I go to her I am too knacked to do battle so she comes to back to bed with me. The odd nights that she does stay in her bed I shower her with praise to encourage her to continue, but she seems to get pleasure from making me pick her up at and bringing her to my bed. I am to tired to do otherwise. Last night she had the biggest grin on her face when she snuggled up to me, i felt a complete fool...she knows she has me over a barrel and I don't know what to do. Somebody help....at some point we plan to have another child and soon there won't be any space for my husband!
2006-10-11 01:56:11 · 13 answers · asked by abi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You're going to have to battle. You can't let her come to bed with you. It won't stop until you make it. When she comes to bed with you pick her up and put her back in her bed and explain to her that she needs to sleep in her own bed at night.
Everytime she gets out and comes to your bed repeat this. It will be a war, but it needs to be done. Continue to praise her when she does stay in her bed all night. Give her special treats the next morning, such as her favorite breakfast or some sort of favorite desert later on.
be strong and do not give in. If you do give in that will only tell her that eventually she can have her way when she really wants it. You're the authroity, so you have to make sure she understands that what you say goes.
good luck!
2006-10-11 02:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by JD 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nobody has had as many problems as I have with my son and sleeping. My son normally sleeps through now, thankfully. I have never let him in my bed, I used to get in with him, and sneak off when hes asleep. Of late I get my Husband to tell him to go back to sleep. This normally works. You're not a fool, there loads of tired mum's out there who do the same.
The only way to do it is just to keep putting her back in her own bed. It may take you 2 hours, but in the end your daughter will get in to the habit. You will be well set for baby number 2. Good Luck.
2006-10-11 02:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chickette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she's smiling 'cause she's got u where she wants. the worst thing you can do is be too tired to realize that you are teaching her a new behavior she cries 'cause she's scared and you go get her and bring her back to your bed if you keep that up she will be there until she's ready to move out of your house when she cries she only needs to be reasured that you are still there, near by, so you go to her reasure her tell her to go back to sleep and you go back to bed, alone. keep doing this until she realizes that there is nothing to be worried about don't stop or give in and eventually she wil start to sleep through the night , if you keep giving in to your little, small , infant, who's only goal in life is to get what she wants and you cannot say she's making you ( does she hold a gun to your head or threathen to bet you black and blue, etc. see how silly that sounds) she's only a child and if you keep saying this now and giving into her demands what are you going to do when she's 4 or 8 or in her teen years when she wants to hang with the local bad asses that's out there waiting to teach her how to challenge your authority, you must show her now who's is in authority. she's only doing what is natural she testing the boarders to see how secure they are if she keeps pushing and you keep giving in, saying she's making you, then she won't feel very secure with you being so weak , so batten down and don't give in even if your tired in the end know that you are teaching instructing and showing her that you can be trusted. o,k and don't be so hard on yourself when you have to be had on her especially if you want more babies, establish your mommydome, and don't back down in the end she will love you for not letting her have her way.
2006-10-11 02:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she scared? If so when you put her in bed do something to make her feel safe. With my daughter it was a curtain around her bed that monsters could not get through. With my son it was monster spray. I put scented water in a spray bottle and I would spray it around his bed, windows, closet, any place a monster might come from. I told him that the monsters didn't like the smell of it and therefor they would not come into his room. It had the added bonus of making his room smell nice. If it is that she just wants to be with you then you need to start putting your foot down and making her stay in her own bed. Or if you can't stand the thought of her crying all alone put her in your bed till she falls to sleep, usually it takes about 15 min, then carry her back to her bed. What ever you do you have to be consistent about it. Good luck!
2006-10-11 03:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by happy_jean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly don't listen to friends for ever!!! she should be going through the night by now, so try sitting in her room once shes woke up, until she falls back asleep. definitely don't take her to your bed again she needs to know that's mummy and daddy's space. You must be strong and firm and let your partner have ago coz you need some sleep to!!!!!!!
2006-10-11 02:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Dog 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Youre causing the problem to continue by not making yourself wake up and put her in her bed.
If she yells, fine, just tell her to go to sleep. If she gets up and comes to your room, get yourself out of bed, and put her back in hers.
No matter how many times, no matter how many nights, no matter how tired you are. She wakes up, she goes back to sleep in her bed. NO other option.
2006-10-11 02:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol that made me smile!i wager thats what their thinking! EDIT my daughter woke this morning at 2am and that i went in and comforted her for couple minutes and then went decrease back into my room and into mattress. 10 minutes later she began to cry and that i burst out giggling as i considered this question. Thats the 1st time iv ever laughed whilst shes woken in the process the nighttime!
2016-12-13 06:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
settle her back in bed and lie with her for 5 mins, if shes still awake kiss her and tell her that mummy is going back 2 bed, if she starts shouting for you again ask your husband to go into her and do the same. its best to settle her in her own bed than keep taking her into yours. i had the same problem with my daughter it took a few weeks but it was worth it
2006-10-11 02:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by louise21 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You musn't give in to her !!! It will be hard but you will have to put up with it for a coupl of weeks!!! It will be worth it in the long run !!! Don't give up......show her you won't give in to her !!! You are the boss remember ! XXXXX
2006-10-11 02:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. i have a 9 year old boy he did the same thing. i put a tv in his room when hed wake up id go there tell him i loved him turned his tv on and told him to watch cartoons tell he fell asleep worked like a charm.
2006-10-11 02:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by Outlaw Rebel 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋