could i be depressed?

Question

i went to the doctor when i was 17 (im 19 now) i wasn't getting on well with my mum, she said its probably just because we're arguing. so i left it, now im really starting to feel down. i lost my dad in january and had an abortion in june which i regret badly! its all starting to affect me now months later..i don't want to go back to my doctor incase she thinks im just being silly again. should i see some1??

Answer 1

I think you could do with talking things through with someone. Are you at school or college, because there may be a student counselling service you could access.

Alternatively you could try finding out if there is a youth counselling service in your area, many local authorities have these and they are usually free. Your GP will know or your local library should have a list of local counselling agencies.

I think you are experiencing a lot of loss in your life. You may be depressed or it is more likely that you have had an awful lot to deal with and it's no wonder you are finding things difficult right now. Have a look at these websites, but do try and find out about counselling, it does help.

http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

http://www.samaritans.org/

Answer 2

Yes, I think you should. You may well be having a delayed reaction to your father's death and the abortion...both severe events, and very close together. The fighting with your mum is probably rooted in one or both of these situations, she too is affected by losing your dad. And if she knows about the abortion, she may be grieving too for the grandchild she didn't have.
You've really been through the mill over this past year...I really think you need to see a counsellor. If your GP isn't amenable, get a second opinion from someone else. There are organizations which can help you deal with the psychological effects of the abortion,which is major in any woman's life, no matter the reasons she decided to do it.
Do get some help, honey. Wishing you the best.

Answer 3

Firstly, you have had some bad luck. I don't know if any of this was your fault or if you have been manipulated. What is clear is that you have to start afresh. TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
Go to the doctor and they should refer you to a counsellor. They will simply talk to you and help you realise where you might have gone wrong or where others let you down. You will come to your own decision by recognising the solutions to your problems.
Drugs are a real bummer if you don't really need them. You can become dependent on them. Break free of your life, do new things - try new hobbies, change your job, stop going to the same places and seeing the same people etc.
IF YOU KEEP DOING WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN DOING, YOU WILL KEEP GETTING WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN GETTING !!!!

Answer 4

Totally, it sounds like you are suffering from situational depression, which means the current events in your life are effecting your happiness. You should try and patch things up with your mother, since she could be someone you could lean on. You should suggest some counceling or something which would help. If you don't want your mother in your life, then maybe you could seek some counceling yourself. I know how you feel when it comes to having an abortion. I was 16 when I had mine, sometimes I regret it and sometime I don't. You are still young and with your current situation, maybe you need to straighten your emotional situation out before you can think about raising a kid by yourself. A child will not be the answer to your happiness:) Good luck!

Answer 5

I don't think your depressed at all. It is natural to feel low after everything you have been through. It must be difficult to being estranged from your mum - one person you should feel close to.

You don't need to go and see a doctor, unless its one that knows you well and understands what you have been through - if not - he or she will probably say you are depressed - not knowing the circumstances.

Have you got some really close freinds you can confide in? If so, talk to them. It sounds as if your lacking a good support network, that's all.

Have you also considred your diet or sexual history? I know that may sound odd, but I had wheat allergy for three years, before I knew what it was and because it destroyed the lining of my small intestine, it resulted in the malabsorbsion of food - which resulted in amongst other things - low mood swings, cause of the chemical imbalance, cause of lack of proper vitamins.

Sexual history is another thing to consider. One of my mates had been diagnosed with depresson for 8 years, she went to another doctor just last week and confirmed that she had Candida, STD which stops the absorbion of B6 in the digestive system which results in low moodswings.

So if you do go to the doctor be sure to get a second opnion, cause the symptoms of depression can be result of other factors - and may not be depression at all.

Answer 6

You most likely are depressed but it isn't clinical: it's because you are feeding your mind negative stuff because of what's been happening to you.

Just reverse the process and feed your mind good stuff. Tell yourself kind things and forgive yourself for the abortion. Also ask God for forgiveness and He will give it straightaway.

Remember only the good times you had with your dad too. That would help.

No one should make you feel silly for something you think is going on inside you. While depression is a real problem, if you try you can handle this one.

Answer 7

You are having a really tough time.

Go back and explain what has been happening recently in your life, and ask for help or counselling at the very least.

Explain you feel silly/irrational approaching them, but it is still making you feel down, and you want help at this point in your life - even if it is just someone to talk to initially!

If they don't deliver try another doctor.

I hope things work out for you and that you feel brighter soon.

Answer 8

ur doctor wont think u are been silly, i would definitly go back, sometimes when bad things happen ur mind represses them and that is why ur beginning to feel the pain of it a few months later. go see the doctor or talk to a friend or family member

keep smiling, its hard to be sad when u keep a big grin on ur face and things will start to look up, u never know what is round the corner

Answer 9

Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain so tablets will help, they take approx two weeks to get into your system so dont expect a miracle after taking one, they do work. Please go and see your doctor and take someone with you if it will help, the sooner you go the sooner you can get better. Also eating healthy can help, bannas for example have something in them which can help fight depression there are probably loads of other foods to but best to ask your doctor. Depression is a horrible illness and no one will think you are being silly. Chin up xx :o)

Answer 10

Why wouldn't you be depressed? It's natural. Your doctor will be disappointed if you don't see them immediately. This is a rough time for you. Be kind to yourself. We are always our own biggest critic. Many people have been through the same things. Everyone would be in pain in your position. We all do careless things when we are escaping a horrible truth. Careless things lead to more self criticism. Let people help you help yourself. You always have the choice not to listen if you don't want to. You are in control. Time will heal these wounds.