When my husband was not doing any work, we had no money. My in laws use to give bad words to him. Now that he has a good job with good salary they keep asking for money n have started to praise him. They take all the money n i n my kids are left with nothing. Can someone help me?
2006-10-11 01:23:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your hubby is fianlly getting their approval and he is still in that glow from it now it is time that he comes back to reality. Sit down and figure out a budget and the sit down with him and show him. Tell him that you don't care that he helps his family but you and the kids have things that need to be done first and that when all the bills are paid and things gotten for you, the kids and the house that he can give whats left to them if he chooses. His family want him to suppport them but he has a family and needs to remember that.
2006-10-11 01:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband it has to stop. Letting them borrow some money is ok if they really need it. (It is always good to help family out) but children come first. He needs to support his kids and wife before anyone. If there is money left over and they are in desperate need of it then he can let them borrow it and make a payment plan back.
You need to be firm with him. He is soaking up all the praise and may be blindsided by it. Let him know if this continues you will have to take action on it.
2006-10-11 01:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with your husband, tell him it is okay at times, to help his folks, but their is a limit. Tell him he has a family that he has to provide for, that when he was not working, who was their for you all, that if he has any extra money, after the bills are payed, then we need to save for the future! It is time for him to wake up, and not to always be giving his parents money, ask him don't you think you have given them enough money? and see what he says. Ask him when is enough, going to be enough? Don't keep fussing at him about this, discuss it once to see where he is coming from, then leave it alone!
2006-10-11 02:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, his parents should be asking there son for money knowing he has his own family to support. Secondly, you need to put your foot down, granted it is not your money but this is your family/marriage too, he needs to support the family he has created. You just need to sit down and budget your families needs first and then whatever he has left over is for him to play with.
2006-10-11 02:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by KeKe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't take the money without your husband handing it over to them. He needs to get his top priorities straight and real quick. If he cannot do that, he's not worth keeping around.
2006-10-11 01:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind your hubby about the past, make him to see reason that your in-laws are just out there to ruin his relationshipwithyou and the kids. Explain to your in-laws that when your hubby didn't have, they ridiculed him now that he has a job, he can't neglect his family because of them, a man must leave and cleave.
2006-10-11 01:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are they in control of the money anyway? ya need a checking account so that you can personally handle your financial affairs. stick up for your family and take control of your home.
2006-10-11 01:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you to talk to him & ask him if he see's what is going on & if not you have to make a decission maybe you don't want to.Your kids are very important as you know & that is what you need to focus on if he's not.Good luck!
2006-10-11 01:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with your husband first and then tell your inlaws how you feel.
2006-10-11 01:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by mr_rhysoflife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋