Well I'm 17 on friday, I've never dated and never been kissed. I made the accident of mentioning this to my friends, and they wanna set me up with this guy. I know that hes dated two of them, but broke it off, because one was cheating on him and he got jealous about the other person for some reason. All I know is that hes lonely, he needs a girl to feel loved and apparantly hes really nice, and no not just out to get laid. Thats all they told me, but he just sounds super needy to me. What do you think? Hes also moving like five hours away at the end of the year, so I don't really see the point.
Well what should I do? Would you go out with someone who just wants to be loved?
2006-10-11 00:59:26 · 17 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he didn't cheat on anyone, they cheated on him. Sorry for causing any confusion.
2006-10-11 01:03:39 · update #1
No he didn't cheat on anyone, they cheated on him. Sorry for causing any confusion.
2006-10-11 01:05:20 · update #2
Well, if you really like him, just be his friend... And if anything else develop consider it as bonus.
You said he'll be 5 hours away. If you really feel the same way later on, 5 or 6 hours away is not a problem.. I have driven 4.5 hours one way (9 hours return trip) every weekend for a year and a half for someone I love. You being the girl, I think he'll do more of the driving.. who knows, you might like it more when he does.. and ask yourself this.. "who has ever done this for me before".. answer no one except your family or may be him...
as for needy issue... if you don't like him, you might find him needy. If you do love him, you will call it, company: you like his company
2006-10-11 01:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by tdbhc33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I had my first boyfriend only about a year back and I'm past 20. I don't mean to go into my life story but right now, I look back and regret being so specific about my Mr Right and not starting to date earlier.
If I were you, 17 and single, and recommended this guy by my friends, I would go out with him. Just think of it as a friendly thing. Your friends probably didn't give you a good enough first impression but meet him first and develop your own.
Even if after the first date, you decide you never ever wanna see him again, at least it helped you to realise what qualities you don't want your Mr Right to have. You'll have the experience to take away (and maybe a friend to keep).
And if all goes well, you guys fall in love and all, then I'm sure you both will find a way to overcome the 5 hours away thing. Long distance relationships do work out if both parties are committed and understanding enough.
Who knows, if it works out, he might not even wanna move away?
Give it a try, go out with the guy with an open mind and decide later. =) Hope you'll have a good time and all the best!
2006-10-11 08:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Angie Pastrami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When is wanting to be loved being needy ? Everyone wants to be loved if we would be honest about it. Who ever said he is needy and the rest of the post also said it then I guess just about everyone in this world is needy. We all want some type of or kind of LOVE in our lives. The only thing is this what's wrong with one date. It's your choice, sweetie. If your looking for a relationship and he is moving away soon and you think you will fall head over heels for this person then don't do it. If you just want to go out to have a good time then I say do it. You said he seems nice. What do these girls want anymore a player. I read these answers and he wants to be loved and he is nice. Hello, don't you want to be loved ? Aren't you nice ? We all have had some bad relationship experiences that's a part of life, learning and growing up, Good Luck to you
2006-10-11 08:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by MizzSweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't go out with a needy guy but at the end of the day everyone wants to be loved. But since he's moving far away there really is no point. So I'd say no, don't go out with him, at least not on a date. Tell your friends to find you someone else who's planning on sticking around.
2006-10-11 08:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by yes darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it simply because of this.....what if the two of you really hit it off and fell big time for eachother; in the end you might end up feeling jealous that he hooked up with your friends and might not want them around eachother etc. it would always be in the back of your head that they hooked up. I personally have never gone out with a guy who went out with one of my friends just for that reason. Plus not to sound like a guy but it's like picking up your friends table scraps you know. But it's up to you, I don't think he sounds particularly needy, I'd be pissed off and jealous if I got cheated on too, that's just normal. It's your choice I wouldn't do it simply because of the friend factor that I mentioned. It's all you :) good luck
2006-10-11 08:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a guy and i know guys like that are a lot of work. you are a young girl and tell you what i think if i was a girl , the best guy i would date is one that comes after me . one who really tries hard. if he is lonely he has to get out and meet up with people. what makes you think he is cool, why do other girls not fall for him...
2006-10-11 08:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by prospertaruvinga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first see if u like him and then start with being just a frend if u like it u can propose him. Don't just go after anyone if u don't get an appropriate one. After all u don't want 2 be a laughing stock or Lovelorn girl! Do u???
2006-10-11 08:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe he is just a little too needy.I do not know.I do not think it should be your place to fill his need of being loved(what about his parents) I would not totally blow this person off though I just would not buy into all of his needs.go out with him a couple of times ans see what he is really like and what his need really are.GOOD LUCK
2006-10-11 08:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your friends that dated this cheat want you to experience the misery that they already have. Don't do it and look for some new friends.
2006-10-11 08:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like youre just looking to smooch. Be a little picky.
2006-10-11 08:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋