My ex is driving me mad!!!?

Question

How do i deal with this?
We have to live in the same house for the time being, he is buying me out. However he is smashing up my things ie. mobile and PC, he has ruined my jewellery and is making my life a living hell. He said the acts like this because he doesnt want me to leave. What sort of thinking is that? He is becoming increasingly violent...any ideas?

And yes i have thought of a hit man....

Bloody men i swear other females are looking more attractive!!

Answer 1

Just call the police every time he does it. They'll make a report every time and he'll soon sh!t himself and stop doing it.


Or I could come round and smash his face in if you like x

Answer 2

I sympathize with your situation but there is no sense in putting yourself through this nonsense. Sounds like an immature twit that would behave that way so you certainly don't want to reconsider leaving him.

Think of the life you want to have and where you will be once you are out of this situation.

First thing you should probably do is make a detailed list of what he owes you to compensate you for damages and make him pay it as part of the buy out. Also to lay down some ground rules for your current living arrangement.

Or, maybe it makes more sense to just leave and force him to put the house up for sale on the market... and still pay you out of the settlement proceeds.

Answer 3

you dont have to live in the same house...if he's buying you out get something in writing and then show him the door or leave yourself if youve somewhere else to go, you dont have to put up with that sh*t! You are as entitled to be there as him and if you are not sorted then make him leave until he's given you the lovely lolly...that would probably make him sort it out quicker too,lol...also add to his cash the cost of your mobile phone,PC etc and make him pay for it...most men hate parting with any more cash than they have to so it may stop him doing any more damage...

if you need someone to talk to or a bit of support you can mail me if you like,hope it works out for you and the sooner the better

Answer 4

Girl, he might kill you or hurt you with the way he's going. Get a temporary space or tell him to move out and when he's finished paying, he can then move back in or set rules and if he breaks them, the deal should be off. Better still, call the police.

What you're going through doesn't mean all guys are bad. But if you still want to be a lesbian, that's your cup of tea.

Answer 5

i`m really sorry ur having to go through that. not all guys are the same. just some idea`s to put ur way.....if u have parents go back to them temporarily or if u have good friends ask them if u can stay wiv them until things have been settled. please don`t wait until he hits u because it sounds like he`s heading in that direction. as soon as u are away from him go and see a solicitor to seek compensation for all the things he has smashed up. the guy is a very poor excuse for a man. i wish u good luck

Answer 6

Try to remove yourself from this dreadful situation babe..he may flip one time and seriously harm you...is there no way you or he can stay with family or friends ....seems to me as if he cant come to the terms with your split ,however you must think of yourself here and not his feelings,point is by him becoming more destructive and violent is more reason for you thankfully to have realised is to why he is now your ex.....good luck...at least you still have your sense of humour...and you are a pretty girl so you will have little difficulty moving on...xx

Answer 7

Call the cops. It might be hard to prove but after the 4th or 5th time maybe they will arrest him. Just because you live in the same house does not mean he can touch your stuff. Think about it this way, if he were a roommate how would you respond?

Answer 8

well its a good thing you havent lost your sense of humour,,are you sure about the hit man tho lol,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,does he actually realise that causing upset is just increasing your desire to leave him? i know a few usually placid men who have blown up when separating from a partner,,talking and crying dont work so they feel at a loss of what to do,,you get the "why wont you just listen" routine,,he wont see it as threatening he will just see it as showing how deeply he loves you and if only you would just see it,,shame really,,move your things out if you dont want them broken,,if you are intending to leave or for him to leave you have to separate talking emotionally and just talking because it isnt polite to ignore someone in your presence,,start the end,,let him see that it is,in fact over and that even if you have nothing left to pack it wont change your mind,,,it will just make him even less appealing as a man in your eyes,,dont give any impression there is a chance if he changes,dont get into arguments,walk away,go out,,let him sulk and if he gets violent,,call the police,,,this is the end of a relationship,,it can either be adult or a total mess,,

Answer 9

This can be a difficult one.. get him to sign and agree to buy you out then simply leave the property and move in with friends, family... let him smash his own stuff up or even himself.., either that or find yourself another bloke, preferably strong who can poke him in the eye the few times :o)

Anything of value to you, move out and store with family members, do this at a time he's not in the house... you owe nothing to him at this point as the relationship is over. One thing I DEFINATELY WOULDN'T have done is live with an ex after a slit up... dependant upon who broke up with you, I would ask him to move out. Either way, one of you has to go...

Answer 10

Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.

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