Hi there, my ex boyfriend sent me this message which was meant for another girl " hey so do you still like me, why did you tell tom (his mate and her cousin) what i said to you that was between you and me" when i asked him about it, he eventually said that this girl faniced him, but that it was a harmless message. I got it at 11pm in the night when he said he was very very drunk. Was I right to dump him. He still texts me a long time later and says the only reason we ever broke up was because he wasnt ready for committment. Hes texting me alot more recently, I dont know what to say to him as im all confused. Think I still have feelings for him but how am I ever going to move on if hes still in touch, should I ask him out straight what he wants from me? Meet him and talk or what. Please help!! Im dating another guy at the moment for the past six months and hes so kind and good to me but it just doesnt seem to have that spark, i dont want to string him along so need to make up my mind
2006-10-11 00:55:25 · 12 answers · asked by sunny01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you did the right thing.
2006-10-11 00:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you still have feelings for the jerk (coz he's a jerk, girlfriend, a jerk who was testing the waters to know if he could play all them safe). If that doesn't infuriate a girl, I don't know what can. Atleast a girl who has any respect for herslef, and for the things she knows she deserves. If you don't think you deserve better than that (him, the sort of person he is, that sort of a relationship, a couple of text messages when he knew he's lost you) go for it by all means. If you think you deserve a man who is content to be with you, respects you enough to tell you it wasn't working before text messaging another girl (which ain't much really), in short if you think you deserve A REAL MAN, give him the finger that he so richly deserves and move on. I'm not trying to sound cruel, but you really need to stop making excuses for him (why should you? he's the one who ****** with your trust; and he's the one who should make excuses...somewhere else) and face the truth. Which is, YOU were into him and HE wasn't THAT into you!! (for more info on this, read "He's Just Not That into You" by Greg Behrendt). Don't make his "crocodile" tears get into you either. We have a saying in my country "a child and a priest cry at other people's property". That's why he's mooning after you. Coz you ain't available (to **** around with) anymore. So tell to ******* grow up, get a life and never bother you again.
That "spark" you talked about, THAT comes from within, sister, not from without. I remember having read somewhere that a girl's idea of romance is much stronger than the actual object of affection (his worthiness of it or not, or even the things she actually feels for him). And u know how we girls spend our lives making suits of clothes (of the guy they think they want) and force the next sweet-talking jerk that comes our way into it whether it fits him or not (not my words, Margaret Michelle). So forget the spark, block his pathetic behind from off your mobile phone, and get on with your life. Or you'll be living the kind of life you thought you'd do without that day you dumped him.
Take care!
2006-10-11 01:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Biqo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no harm in meeting with him to see what he wants from you. You obviously still have feelings for him otherwise you wouldn't have posted this question.
if you do decide to get back together again make it clear to him that if he does this kind of thing again you won't be so kind again... He must really care for you to still text you and want to meet you to talk. Give him another chance. And if it doesn't work out then at least you can say you tried...
2006-10-11 01:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by yes darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you what this guy was obviosly cheating you. but if you are dating another guy now and you are happy go for it. this guy is just wanting to play you trust me i am a guy. if you do not want him texting you and stuff swop number with a friend for a while or get a new one. this might help. unless you really want this guy back. but what guarrantees you that he will not do it again. there is more to life than just this guy trust me. if you wanna talk some mre let me know.
2006-10-11 01:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by prospertaruvinga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should move on what r u going to do if u get a nother message like that leave him AGAIN just stay with the guy u r with now things will get better..
2006-10-11 01:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it relies upon how long you have been seeing this guy. and the text textile message does look harmless. i propose, if it pronounced "i cherished the blowjxob you gave me final night" then yeah, that became precise of you to offload him. yet whilst he remains texting you, then ou could desire to a minimum of consult with him and spot whats happening, then you definately can come to a call what you prefer from there. :)
2016-10-16 01:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better dump this guy and go for another guy who you are dating now. Time will make the spark.
2006-10-11 00:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by dumping him....but then you could have done some investigating urself
2006-10-11 01:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thing, he is obviously still looking for something else. move on...good luck
2006-10-11 01:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Hatty Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jst go with who ur heart tellsu to
2006-10-11 00:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by jared p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋