i have been seeing someone for 2 years now and i'm married i k ow i should not be doing this but i just find it hard to stay away from him. he sparks something inside of me should i walk away and stay faithful to my marriage or continue with the fling...
2006-10-10 23:50:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have been seeing someone for 2 yrs then I think you have made your decision. But be careful because it might just turn out to be the THRILL and not the person that is " sparking '' you. Are you happy in your marriage ? Probably not. How long have you been married ?
2006-10-10 23:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by rock d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is, you need to choose who you really want to be with, life is too short to be in a marriage that you are not happy in. You would not be going outside of your marriage if your husband fulfilled your needs. If you want to stay with your husband, maybe you guys can go to marriage counseling and get all your infidelity out in the open. If you really want to be with your fling, then, divorce your husband, but you can't "have your cake and eat it too" I love that quote. Also, if you do divorce your husband for this fling, things more than likely won't be the same, the excitement will be gone, it will no longer be forbidden, thus taking the fun out of it. Also, I guess I am confused have you been married for 2 years or having this fling for 2 years? Because if this fling was for 2 years than, it's an affair not just a fling. Another thing, if you have only been married for 2 years and already are going through this end the marriage now. I hope I helped.
2006-10-11 07:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by alleybug_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r obviously with this other person because something is lacking in your marriage. u have to decide between the 2 and the grass is not always greener on the other side. look at he long run and which person u really want to be with. honesty and trust is vital in a marriage and u don't have that right now. is your husband the person u really want to be with? if u do stop seeing this other person will u meet someone else and the same thing happen again? b true to yourself, if ur marriage isn't working then u should face it and deal with it. on the other hand if this means nothing and u can move on and go back to ur husband and be faithful, then u should. make a decision before people get hurt. think of what u really want and what is most important to u. good luck
2006-10-11 07:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hatty Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too late for you to be faithful to your marriage. You have already been unfaithful. The best thing to do is be honest and come clean to your husband and hopefully you feel sorry and say so to him. Then you will need to just suffer the consequences of your actions. It is really unfortunate that this happens to so many people.
Vows are forever and trust is such an important part in a marriage. A lot of people can never trust again once they have been cheated on.
I really feel for you. I dont understand how anyone can do that to their partner. I really hope things work out for you and your husband in the future. Counselling may help.
2006-10-11 06:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in your situation and i ended up leaving my family home and moving into an apartment. I put my husband through hell and he was so upset but at the time i did not care, all i could think about was being free and wanted by another man. We were seperated for almost a year and it was hard as we have a young son. I realised after being single for a couple of months that all the traits i was looking for in a man i had all the time in my husband. We are together now and very happy. x
2006-10-11 07:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should leave your husband if you are cheating on him. Thats not what a marriage is about. You know you are doing wrong behind his back. If you are not happy with your hubby,then get out of the marriage before you continue doing this to him. Its just wrong,,,,why do people get married in the first place if they have no intentions on being faithful?? It really makes me mad. Because of females like you,,,the man i love with all my heart,,will not marry me because he has done this to him in the past,,and now he holds it against me that i will do the same. I would never. Do the right thing for yourself and your husband please. Its wrong.
2006-10-11 06:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Two years? This has gone way beyond a fling.
He sparks something inside you? That inner skank, you mean?
Stay faithful to your marriage? Don't make me laugh.
Do your husband a favour and leave him, that way he will be free to find someone non-trashy to spend the rest of his life with.
2006-10-11 07:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine,,you,re at home and your hubby is on here writing this,,how would you feel? two years is a relationship not an affair,,you have really had plenty of time to decide who you really want so it would seem you want your hubby for security? and your lover for excitement,,the trouble is that you can only stand so much excitement and your hubby isnt even getting a shot at it because that isnt his role in your life is it,,basically you are using your husband for whatever reason you are still with him but getting your jollies from someone you could actually be with,,this would at least free up your husband to find someone who actually wants him,,what you are doing is not fair,,you may not be happy which means neither can your husband be but you are choosing to carry on behind his back,,is he having an affair too? decide once and for all,,sleeping with someone once is bad enough but two years????you have had time to sort this,,,,,excitement is great but will your lover be that exciting if you and he were a real couple,,i doubt it or you would have left ages ago,,,you dont get both!!
2006-10-11 07:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stay faithful to your husband, you don't have a real marriage. Quit kidding yourself thinking you can have the best of both worlds. Now, grow up and make a choice.
2006-10-11 06:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Other than "sparks" what else are you getting out of this arrangement???? Don't just STAY away from him, but RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. Family is so important. Buy yourself a sexy negligee and go home and nuzzle your hubby - maybe you can rekindle THAT spark!
2006-10-11 06:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by CJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋