i have been seeing this guy on and off for 2 years we have never had a relationship but we sleep together every chance we get. but he show's no emotion after sex during sex he is so sweet and loving is he scared of falling into commitment or is he just playing me???
2006-10-10 23:48:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my gosh...please listen to me! I was in the same exact situation up until 3 months ago. He is totally playing you. Get out now! You are letting him walk all over you and it's too late now to get him into relationship mode with you. He will never shape up. He will either keep you around until he finds someone he wants to be with, or until he just gets bored and walks away, which is what he did to me. Don't let him be the one to walk away, you need to do it first. You are too good to be a doormat. And those nice things he does during sex or right before, it's just a way of making sure he gets what he wants from you. I mean, he HAS to show a little feelings so he doesnt seem like a total a**hole. Trust me, after knowing you for such a long time, if he wanted you, he would make it happen. He's basically saying you are good enough to sleep with but not good enough to be his gf. WALK AWAY!
2006-10-11 01:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think those gestures n moments which u perceive as "sweet" and "loving" are NOT how they seem. Guys can do that in the heat of the moment and just to get what they want..and it doesn't mean a thing sincerely in their heart. I mean, he def says n does things to contribute to the mood..surely not to ruin it.
And so u shld take special note of how he treats u during those times when u r not in intimate places.. cos that's the true way he feels abt u. And as u said, he's emotionless. Toward you, at the end of the day.
U'ev let urself hope and believe in this fella for too long. Please recognise he is using u and u are willingly being played. Leave this unhealthy r/s and find/be found by someone who really cares about you.
2006-10-11 07:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he wants his cake and wants to eat it.2 years is a long time just to be playing around. if he had any genuine feelings for you they would have shown be now and there would be an emotional link between u and not just a sexual one. its only natural. r u the only one he is seeing? i hate to sound harsh but i think he is using u, u obviously have feeling for him and he isnt showing anything back. everyone deserves more than that. if u were both just having fun and sex it would be fine, but u want more and doesnt seem that he does. i would to talk to him if i were u. u have nothing to lose. u can have casual sex with any1, but a meaningful relationship is hard to find. u maybe wasting valuable time with him when u could be ruining your chances of meeting someone who wants YOU and not just sex. talk to him, good luck
2006-10-11 06:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by Hatty Sue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing about 4 years ago. And im really sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you are just a booty call so so sorry to tell you this. i feel our stories might be the same if you want to hear mine sometime just pm me.
2006-10-11 07:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by cheekykim17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell him where to go and while your there give yourself a big kick up the *** too you stated before you are married and now you want us all to feel sorry for you get a life ho ho ho you don't deserve happiness
2006-10-11 07:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is just enjoying with you dont expect much from him
2006-10-11 07:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a toy for him
2006-10-11 07:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋