of moving on what should i do go for it or leave it hes gorgeous im just scared? help !!!
2006-10-10 23:02:17 · 15 answers · asked by gorgeousofcourse18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I felt like that once, but beilieve me hun that will fade very quickly, you won't even notice it going, because you will be enjoying yourself too much, as long as you feel ready then go for it, relax and just let the love take over, you will soon have a beaming smile on your face. Good luck.
Don't hold on to something you got rid of, it makes you miserable. Just remember why it was not working, and that will give you the push to find another person who is much nicer x
2006-10-10 23:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared of what? Getting hurt? You will always get hurt, no one can hurt you more than the person you love most in the world. It is how you chose to deal witht the pain that will determine the success of your relationship. Go for it!
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.
So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!
2006-10-10 23:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by mbaker_713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared, enjoy the experience of a new blossoming relationship. You can't allow one negative experience stop you from having new probably positive ones. Just learn from it, move on and let go. It is in your past. Your past does not determine your future. You said your current squeeze is gorgeous is the underlying problem that you don't feel good enough for him? Is this what scares you? My partner is gorgeous too and for a long time I didn't feel worthy of his affection, this had a negative impact upon our relationship as I held back for fear of getting hurt. But once I'd taken a long hard look at myself and gave my relationship everything I had it blossomed in to something truly beautiful. Relationships are hard work. You have to put a lot of effort in, they don't just magical happen it takes time and perseverance but by god they are worth the effort. Take things slowly allow yourself time to heal and just enjoy. Remember if it does go wrong you can get through it you have already proved this to yourself.
2006-10-11 00:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you were with a drunk you know no other way this is all very new to you and different which is why you are scared I'm sure if you just be yourself around this new guy you will feel at ease all new relationships are scary after all you have to get to know someone first b4 you can say i am in love with this person, trust as well has to be gained have you try'd talking to your guy? he must know you went out with a drunk if he does then he should understand that things take time and of course you will be scared enjoy your time with each other and things will be OK X Lou X
2006-10-10 23:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by louis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mistake women make is comparing an ex to every other guy. One, this new guy is not your ex, Two, he has different character traits than the ex. Its normal to be scared but i don't see the link between your drunk ex and the gorgeous present one. Give him a chance and loosen up.
Life itself is a risk. The air we breathe, the food we eat, going out, crossing the road, having friends is all a risk. Experience, be it painful or sweet is supposed to shapen our minds for the future. Take it easy.
2006-10-10 23:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need some time away from relationships for abit to clear your head and enjoy being single for abit, go out with friends and family and if this man really does like you he will wait for you and you will be much happier and have a clear head on what to do.
You should never be scared in a relationship you should be happy
2006-10-10 23:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by clairefleck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is so BLINDINGLY OBVIOUS!!
You did a good job spliting up with the drunk, so now its time to take another risk and go ahead with your new guy!
You will never find out if he's the one for you until you go ahead with it!
i always say "Its better to make the mistakes and learn from then than to not do anything at all and look back at your life and WISH you had taken the risk"
I say you go for it!!
Good luck sweety
2006-10-10 23:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tar everyone with the same brush!!!
although i must admit i have HUGE insecurities from some of my past relationships. I supose if you communicate and be yourself things should be fine...
although if this one starts drinking and it goes too far... tell him it bothers you... if he chooses the drink.... pack ya stuff and leave (and leave an aa leaflet on the table, change your number and move on with your life)
Hope all goes well...
2006-10-11 00:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear, don't be afraid to take risks for love.. evaluate yourself, who do you love more? don't look at physical attributes because those things will get wrinkled anyway.. for me go to the one who loves you and you love most.. if you choose the drunk one well better be careful because alcoholic people tend to have a psychotic problems, maybe he is drunk because of his problem then solve the problem with you by his side, stop him before its too late. alcoholic people may develop bradycardia, bradypnea, wt. gain of course etc. he may hurt you. that's why choose the right one and choose somebody that you love and loves you back... LOVES YOU MORE..
2006-10-10 23:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Nikkilovejeffrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on with the man u love.....AND DONT STOP FOR ANYTHING.....tell ur present guy about ur fears....most importantly dont take things too seriously...ue ex might mind his own business....dont make a mountain outta a mole hill
2006-10-10 23:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋